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The user provides a highly specific, personal, and internally consistent narrative about their transition (starting blockers at 13, T at 16) and detransition (stopping at 18). The details about family reactions, voice changes, and the emotional journey of re-embracing femininity over several years are nuanced and human. The tone is supportive and passionate, which aligns with a genuine detransitioner's perspective.
About me
I started my transition as a young teenager because I felt deeply uncomfortable with my developing female body, a feeling heavily influenced by my Catholic mom's warnings about the male gaze. Doctors put me on puberty blockers and then testosterone, which felt like an escape at the time. By 18, I realized I was mourning the woman I never got to be, and meeting my boyfriend made me finally accept I was just a girl. I stopped testosterone and have spent the last few years relearning how to be female, even with a permanently deeper voice. I'm now 22 and at peace as a woman, but I regret that no one explored the root of my discomfort before medicalizing it.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition started with puberty. I was born female, and when my body started to change, I became really uncomfortable with developing breasts and hips. A big part of this was my mom’s influence; she’s Catholic and constantly warned me about the “male gaze.” She drilled into me that I had to sit a certain way and always wear a bra because men would stare and have bad thoughts. I felt like my body was a problem because of how others might see it.
I told my mom how uncomfortable I was, and she took me to a few different therapists. They decided that because I was so uncomfortable with my female body, I must be trans. They put me on puberty blockers at age 13. The doctors only talked about the positive effects, like stopping my periods and preventing my breasts from getting any bigger. They never mentioned any potential negatives.
Being on the blockers felt like an escape. It stopped the changes that were making me so anxious. At 16, I started taking testosterone. I felt like I had finally escaped having a female body. I lived as a trans guy throughout my entire teenage years, which I think did save me from a lot of the sexualization and pressure that teenage girls face.
But by the time I was 18, I started to feel a deep sense of loss. I found myself yearning for the woman I could have been and the teenage girl experiences I never had. I started secretly experimenting with my friends, putting on skirts and makeup and going out. It made me feel confident and pretty in a way I never had before.
The real turning point was when I met my boyfriend. I was still identifying as a trans man at the time, but in my heart, I knew I wanted us to be a boyfriend and girlfriend, not two boyfriends. That feeling was a big clue for me. I started wearing more female clothes, identified as a gay male for a little while, and then finally accepted that I was just a girl. I stopped testosterone at 18.
Since detransitioning, I’ve had to relearn how to be female. YouTube tutorials were a lifesaver for learning light, natural-looking makeup and hairstyles to feel more feminine with my short hair. My voice is permanently deeper from the testosterone, and I’ve even been mistaken for a trans woman because of it, which I just find funny now. It took about three years, but I’ve grown to really like my unique voice.
I do have some lingering health issues. I’ve noticed significant memory problems since stopping testosterone, and other people have noticed it too. I’m not sure if it’s directly connected, but it started around that time. I also know that the medical interventions have likely left me infertile.
Looking back, I don’t think my discomfort was ever about truly being a boy. It was about the trauma of being sexualized and the pressure put on me to be a certain kind of girl. I wonder all the time what would have happened if I’d had therapists who explored those feelings with me instead of immediately affirming I was trans. I’m not ashamed of my past—it made me who I am today—but I do have regrets about the medical path I was put on so young. I’m studying to be a teacher now, and I sometimes worry that my past could affect my career if parents find out.
Overall, I’ve made peace with it. At 22, I feel more feminine and comfortable in myself than I ever have. I don’t regret the journey because it brought me to where I am now, but I do regret that the system failed to ask the right questions when I was a vulnerable kid.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty blockers. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 18 | Stopped testosterone and began socially detransitioning. |
| 19-22 | Continued living as a female, working on self-acceptance and a feminine presentation. |
| 22 | Present day, comfortable and at peace with my identity as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/tanukitakashi:
This is the exact reason why I transitioned! While it did "save" me from the teenage girl years of the possibility of being sexualized (all of my teenhood I spent as a boy), after some years I yearned for what could have been and eventually tried out feminine clothing secretly, and eventually came back to being a female at age 18 . I started hormone blockers at 13 and Testosterone at 16.
I'm on the same boat as you , started T at 16 and stopped at 18. At 19, you still have alot of growing to do. It's never a good idea to stare at a mirror for too long, and I feel like that's true for anybody in general. Humans tend to nitpick at themselves. Now at 22, I feel more "feminine " than ever , and I realize not going though what I did as a youngster I wouldn't be who I am today. Just keep your head up, and in time you will grow to love yourself and to make peace with your past. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here.
Hey! Not sure if this helps, but for the first 8 months or so of my detransition I also felt a bit awkward, I didn't get a chance to grow a beard or prominent facial hair but my voice got pretty deep. As time went on, I got more comfortable with my appearance despite my pretty deep voice. Nowadays (3 years later) , although my voice isn't princess-y, it's a pretty damn cool voice. Moral of the story, give yourself time, it may be hard now, but adjustment will come and these troubles will be a thing of the past
I started puberty blockers at 13 and T at 16, since I've stopped T at 18 (I'm almost 21 now), I've noticed memory problems and other people have noticed it too. Maybe it doesn't have anything to do with this, but worth noting anyways for other people to see
For my experience on re-learning how to be female again, YouTube was a lifesaver. If you're looking for how to make your face look more feminine, or just a "cuter" or "sexy" kinda makeup look, its all gonna be on there. If you're not into wearing alot of makeup (I know I'm not), I suggest looking into Korean/Japanese kinda makeup looks, very light makeup and with the right shadow techniques it makes for a super cute look. Makes dolly looking eyes! As for hair, I know how you feel. I had the same trouble with my short hair too, what I did was kinda clip back some front pieces with clips or Bobby pins to give it a "hairstyle " so to speak. Bangs are also great for framing your face and giving a "cuter" kinda look. Hope some of this helped :) good luck!
Reading your comment that "if you heard a masculine voice on a feminine appearance you'd think they were a transwoman" made me chuckle, I've been confused for a transwoman before 😆 I remember the persons comment being "I looked at you and I thought they did really good surgery" 😆
They simply said that being on blockers would relieve the discomfort I felt towards my body, that I would stop having periods , not grow bigger breasts (thankfully I was already fully developed by then). They didn't mention any negative affects from being on blockers at all ,only positive. I am from California if that's any help
There isn't "one reason" for transitioning, but mines was because during puberty I started to become uncomfortable with growing breasts, hips etc. During this time my mother would warn me of the male gaze (Catholic mom), and she would drill it in me to sit a certain way and always wear a bra because men stare at women and girls and think "bad thoughts". For a while I did as I was told, dressed as I was told, but felt uncomfortable with my body due to how people (men) saw it. I told my mom this and she took me to a therapist(a couple of them in fact), and they said that due to me being uncomfortable with my body they believed I was trans.
Fast forward to me being on hormone blockers at 13 and Testosterone at 16, I felt that I had finally escaped the female body I had. But at the end of the day I found myself yearning for the woman I might have became, the teenage girl I could've been. So I started secretly experimenting, putting on a skirt/makeup with some friends and going out for the night, and it made me feel confident and pretty.
The turning point was when I met my boyfriend, I was still a trans man at the time ,but in my mind I knew I wanted us to be a boyfriend and a girlfriend, not 2 boyfriends(just my experience). I started wearing more female clothes, identified as a gay male for a while, then finally just went back to being a girl. I haven't turned back since, but it makes me wonder if I had received the appropriate therapists (or should I say , if they had received appropriate training on this), if I would be in another place/mindset today. I'm not ashamed of my past, but it may come to bite me in the future (I'm studying to become a teacher, parents of my students might find out and not like it). Which is why I haven't spoken of this publicly with my face/name
Friends and family are ok with it, tbh they seemed relieved since me being a trans guy was kinda alot for them. For people that I dont personally know, I've gotten one instance of someone telling me that they thought I was a trans woman due to my voice, doesn't really bother me tbh but just something to note. The only thing that would link be to my past of being a trans guy would be my voice, everyone else went back to normal. it seems I get more people interested when I mention I'm a detransitioner rather than when I was a trans male. Maybe because it's not very common yet to openly say you're a detransitioner, compared to saying you're trans (which isnt hugely common to begin with)