This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is inauthentic and not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
The primary red flag is a major internal contradiction. In the first comment, the user identifies as a crossdresser who has "just started taking hormones." In a later comment, they ask a detailed question about HRT effects, framing it as a personal concern: "I am doing hrt for breast growth... I plan to stop." This is inconsistent with the narrative of someone who has detransitioned or desisted; they are actively pursuing a medical transition. Their other comments read like a list of anti-transition talking points, not lived experience. The account appears to be LARPing as a detransitioner to lend credibility to arguments against transition.
About me
I started taking hormones as an adult male crossdresser because I wanted to develop breasts. At the same time, my teenage daughter wanted to become a boy, and I was terrified she was being influenced into making a permanent mistake. I learned from others that many regrets come from rushing into medical changes while young or for the wrong reasons. I don't regret my own adult choices, but I am so glad I encouraged my daughter to wait and just be a tomboy. I now believe we need to be very careful with medical interventions, especially for young people.
My detransition story
My journey with this started because I was a crossdresser. I had a deep fascination with feminine things and I began taking hormones to develop breasts and change my body. I was doing this for myself, but at the same time, my teenage daughter was starting to talk about wanting to be a boy. She was on the football team and wanted to wear boys' clothes. Her best friend was transitioning, and I was terrified she was being influenced and would make a permanent mistake.
I was so worried for her that I kept directing her away from the idea of being a boy. I told her she needed to be a girl first and wait until she was in her twenties at least. I explained that she could just be a tomboy. I was secretly on my own path with hormones, but I felt my situation was different because I was an adult. I believed the rules for her had to be stricter.
While I was taking hormones, I was worried about the permanent effects. I was doing it for the breast growth, but I always planned to stop for health reasons. I was scared that if I quit, everything would just disappear and I'd be left with sagging skin. I was trying to control the changes to my own body while trying to prevent what I saw as a similar change in my daughter's life.
Reading other people's stories in these groups made me think a lot. I saw common reasons people later regretted transitioning. Things like being young with an undeveloped brain, being uncomfortable with your weight, or having untreated depression. I learned that a big one was sexual desires driving the want to transition, and whether that feeling lasts after masturbation. I saw that social transition and medical transition are two completely different things with their own huge challenges. I read about detransitioned women who hated their deep voices and body hair, and men who hated their breasts and felt like no one would ever date them.
I came to believe that access to hormones and surgery was too easy, and that our generation is going through a phase. I thought that as more people realized how bad it was, laws would change and fewer people would want to do it.
Looking back, my thoughts on gender are that it's complicated, but rushing into medical changes is a huge risk, especially for young people. I don't regret my own exploration because I was an adult making my own choices, even with my worries. But I am so glad I encouraged my daughter to wait and to explore being a feminine girl first. I believe I helped her avoid a path she might have regretted.
| Age | Date (Approximate) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| Adult | Mid-2020 | Started taking hormones for breast development as a crossdresser. |
| (My daughter was 15) | August 2020 | My daughter expressed wanting to be a boy; I advised her to wait and be a tomboy. |
| Adult | September 2020 | Researched if breast growth from HRT is permanent after stopping. |
| Adult | November 2020 | Summarized common themes for transition regret from online support groups. |
Top Comments by /u/thecarboy8:
I read it all. My daughter is on the high school football team and she has made comments about wanting to be a boy and wanting to wear clothes. I am a crossdresser and have just started taking hormones, but she doesn't know this. I keep directing her away from the notion of being a boy. I tell her she needs to be a girl first. She needs to wait for any transition until she is in her 20's at least. Her best childhood friend has been transitioning for years. I tell my daughter that we as her parents aren't like her friends mom who is allowing her daughter to do these things. I keep telling her that their is such thing as a tomboy and that is what she is. Time will tell.... but I truly think she will be happy staying a girl. She is 15 now.
Thank you for your vent cause it backs up my beliefs, and I can use it, if I need help prevent her from making a possible mistake.
Having never dated, or dated very little, not allowing you to fully discover yourself and what you want, like and desire.
Being under 25 years old. Your brain is undeveloped, hormones are changing and you lack life experiences.
Being uncomfortable with your body due to weight.
Having mental or depression issues without consulting a counselor for an extended period of time to learn maintain a healthy lifestyle.
Sexual related desires to transition. Do you still desire to transition immediately after masturbation or does it sound like a bad idea.
Not fully studying and realizing the implications of your actions.
Social transition is different than hormonal transition. They each have different negative implications in life.
Are you strong enough to accept these. People will hate you, people will harass you. Life will be harder.
I have been part of this group for a while and these seem to be some important ideas I have picked up while here by reading other people's posts.
Many women after detransitioning hate their voices and body hair.
Many men hate their breast and feel they are undateable.
Think about this.
Good luck.
Honestly I don't think anyone will think much about it.
It could be short for Lou Ann or something.
I have met so many males with what most would consider a woman's name.
Example: Shannon, Kelly, ummm.... There are more I just can't remember. But then there are names like Tristan and Corey that go both ways. And there are other boy names used for women like Ryan. So anyways. Keep it and don't think about it. Be happy
Will it always shrink after quitting hrt. Or is there a point where all growth stays. I am doing hrt for breast growth and nipple development, I plan to stop after a while for health reasons, but would hate if I end up with just sagging skin cause it all disappears.
Yes I agree it is too easy. But I am happy for myself that it was. But I know it is dangerous. It is the time we are going through. It will change over time. As people of this generation figure out how.bad.it was laws will come into effect and less people will have the desire. It is just how things are right now. I don't have time to get more into it. I am busy moving.