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- Personal, consistent narrative: The user shares a detailed and emotionally resonant story about a gender-questioning phase around age 11-12, followed by current confusion and OCD, which remains consistent across multiple posts.
- Natural human interaction: The comments are conversational, offering support, asking questions, and sharing relatable anecdotes in a way that feels genuine.
- Plausible profile for a desister: The user describes a common desister experience: a past "trans" identity that was not medically pursued, current discomfort, and a focus on figuring things out, all of which align with the stated purpose of the subreddit.
The account presents as a real, young person (15 at the time) who is a desister grappling with OCD and past gender confusion.
About me
I'm a woman who, as a kid, went through a phase where I desperately tried to be seen as a boy because of insecurity and discomfort with puberty. My journey was deeply tangled with my pre-existing OCD, which later caused me severe anxiety that I was actually transgender. I found immense relief when I learned about Transgender OCD and realized that was my experience. I'm glad I never made any permanent changes based on that temporary confusion. Now, I'm focused on managing my OCD and simply living my life as the woman I am.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was about 11 years old. I was a tomboy as a kid, but it wasn't a big deal. Around that time, I became incredibly insecure and desperate to seem cool and masculine to my friends. I cut all my hair off and forced the idea that I "wanted to be a boy." I never actually told anyone I was trans, but I thought about it a lot in my head. It was like a phase I rolled with for about a year and a half.
Looking back, I think a lot of it was about low self-esteem. I developed early, and I remember a specific moment that made me really uncomfortable. I was trying on clothes with friends and a t-shirt was too small. One of my friends screamed, "SHE'S GOT BOOBS!!!!" and it made me so pissed off and upset because I was trying so hard to be seen as a boy. I started hiding my chest and always putting my hair in a beanie. I also had a lot of internalised misogyny; I realise now that I hated women, which is something a lot of girls go through.
That phase passed, and I don't identify that way anymore. But years later, in the summer of 2019 when I was 14, I was hit with a massive wave of anxiety about it. I was diagnosed with OCD when I was seven, and this was a new theme: I became terrified that I was actually transgender. The fact that I had that past phase felt like proof, and it scared me so much. I felt sick every day for a whole month. The relief was unbelievable when I found out about Transgender OCD (TOCD) and realised that's what was happening to me. It wasn't about being trans; it was the OCD monster creating doubt and fear.
I don't really have a desire to transition. I think if you definitely feel you need to become a man, you should go for it, but wait until you're an adult because it could ruin your teen years. For me, I'm trying to just live life. I remember that as a kid, even during that phase, I actually loved looking at myself in the mirror sometimes. I'd put on a nice dress and dance in my room because I thought I looked pretty. My parents were strict about me dressing as a boy, and my siblings teased me, but I'm still glad I did it because it was part of my childhood and it was fun.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's complicated, but for me, it was tangled up with insecurity, OCD, and the normal discomfort of puberty. I don't regret my transition phase because it was a part of figuring myself out, but I'm glad I didn't make any permanent changes. I'm just a woman who was a tomboy and got confused for a while.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 7 | Diagnosed with OCD. |
| 11 | Entered a "wanting to be a boy" phase, cut hair, felt pressured to be masculine. |
| 12-13 | The phase continued; felt discomfort with puberty changes like breast development. |
| 14 (Summer 2019) | Experienced severe anxiety and was diagnosed by an online community with Transgender OCD (TOCD), fearing my past phase meant I was trans. |
| 15 (Now) | No longer identify as trans; working on understanding myself and managing OCD. |
Top Comments by /u/throwawayconfusedska:
Hi I’m sorry if I worded this really badly! English is not my first language and I was kind of panicking while writing. Again, I apologise.
By “they” I meant people on the subreddit :( I felt like they describe exactly what I acted like in the past. And by “pain” I meant emotional turmoil that’s coming from all of this.
I was diagnosed with ocd when I was 7, however don’t have a therapist right now. I’ve always had Pure OCD themes, and I was explaining my situation on and ocd forum and they said it sounded like TOCD (transgender themed ocd). If you’re willing to take a moment, please look it up and read about it. It’s quite interesting in my opinion
Have a great day 💕
I like the tiktok. It’s harmless, idk why people are being rude about it :D
You look like both to me, honestly. You look like a woman but I think you could pass as a man too. I think it depends on the voice, because some people determine someone’s sex by that.
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. I have an aunt that looks sort of like you. She’s happy with her looks, and very confident. Her voice is deep too. She’s just living life the best she can
I’m glad that your parents did that. I guess I had the same lil phase when I was 11, I cut all my hair off and “wanted to be a boy” (forced). I was so desperate to show my friends tthat I was cool/masculine and I was incredibly insecure. I never told anyone I was ‘trans’ but I sort of thought about it in my head.
I turned 15 in February so we are kind of similar age. English isn’t my native language too :) anyway, I decided I wanted to be a “boy” at the age of 11 bla bla bla all that shit. A lot of people on this subreddit are the same. My parents were okay with this but they didn’t like me cutting my hair.
Let me ask you a question: if somebody called you as a boy? Does it feel nice? Do you feel very veeery happy? I’m just curious
Hi! Reading this I realised that we are quite similar :D we both have strict foreign parents . As a child I also had some signs of gender non conformity but it was nothing too big. I was a tomboy. I became confused in my teen years but I didn’t notice puberty too. I didn’t hate my period and my chest wasn’t too much of a problem either. I actually loved looking at myself in the mirror, or putting on some nice dress and dancing in my room because I thought looked pretty. I also hated women too, that’s called internalised misogyny. A LOT of women have it. I’ve been in this subreddit for almost 2 months now and there are SO MANY people just like me and you so I’m sure you’re in the correct place !! I’m on the same position as you now and I am glad I found someone like me
Hi! I have OCD as the exact same thoughts as you. I’m scared of being transgender. These thoughts started in the summer of 2019 for me while I was on holiday and it was ESPECIALLY terrifying because I had a transgender phase. So basically, I thought I was trans for 1.5 years and years later I got ocd about it. So I thought that my little “phase” was proof my me being trans and it freaked the FUCK out of me. I felt sick everyday for a whole month and then it was just absolutely uncomfortable.
You can’t believe the RELIEF I felt when I found out it was OCD. I know it’s reassurance and I am not supposed to give into that but damn. I know exactly how you feel. And I’ve read that article! Many times.
I wish you an honest good luck in beating the monster that is OCD. I’m with you. You can do it❤️
Someone like me!! I’m 15 and probably in the same situation as you. I was quite girly as a child and when I was 11 or 12 I got the possibility that I was trans and just rolled with it. I also identified with it for probably less than 2 years. I don’t identity with it anymore but I do have the same type of discomfort as you. Always putting my hair in a beanie, hiding chest etc. Im still trying to figure myself out too but really I don’t have an actual desire to transition. I think maybe sometime you DEFINITELY feel like you NEED to become a man , just go for it (but don’t do anything before the age of 18 because it could potentially ruin your teen years.) If you can comfortably live through your teen years in this body then I suggest just letting go any living life
it was also the dressing up as a man and stuff. My mom and dad weren’t very happy , and I was teased by my siblings and that secretly think I’m a drag king or something (literally their exact words) .. I certainly wish that some of my family would have been a little less strict and joined in the fun. I’m happy I did it though. It made up my childhood and I had fun. The girl I did movies with is still my best friend :)
Thank you so much! I developed early too , and also had the same situation. Trying on clothes with my friends and one of the t shirts I tried was way too small and my friend just screamed “SHES GOT BOOBS!!!! SHES GOT BOOBS OMG!!!!” and this was back when I identified as a boy so it made me really uncomfortable and very pissed off hahaha