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About me
I started taking testosterone at 18 because my doctors suggested it for my PCOS pain, knowing I identified as trans at the time. I passed perfectly as a man for four years, but I realized I couldn't actually change my biological sex and felt I was being delusional. I've been detransitioned for over a year now, which has stopped the PCOS pain from returning but left me struggling with permanent body hair I can't afford to remove. I only get $600 a month from SSI, so things like laser treatment are just a fantasy. While I don't regret facing reality, I deeply regret the permanent changes and the difficult position I'm in now.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because of my health. I was born female, and when I was 16, I became disabled. That put a stop to a lot of things for me, and I’ve been on SSI ever since. Around that time, I was also diagnosed with PCOS, which caused me a lot of pain.
When I was 18, my gynecologist and my endocrinologist both suggested I go on testosterone. They knew I identified as trans at the time, and they said since I probably wanted it anyway, it would help with the PCOS pain. So I jumped on it. I was on testosterone for four years, from age 18 to 22.
I have to admit, I was really good at being trans. I passed perfectly as a man in society. But the whole time, there was this nagging thought in the back of my head. I eventually realized that no matter how well I passed, I could never actually change my biological sex. I felt like I was being delusional, and I’d rather face reality. That’s why I decided to detransition a little over a year ago, when I was 22. I’ve been off testosterone since then.
I do have some regrets about listening to the doctors so easily. It was a huge mistake. But at the same time, I stayed on testosterone for so long because it was the only thing that genuinely helped my PCOS pain. I haven't had a period in years, and I haven't had any PCOS pain, which is a massive relief. I’m terrified of that pain coming back now that I’m off testosterone. I want to keep my ovaries because I don’t want to have to go on estrogen; I just want my period to stay gone.
Detransitioning has been hard physically. The testosterone made me incredibly hairy, and now I don’t know how to deal with it. I feel like I’d have to shave or wax my entire body to make it look even, so I just end up wearing long sleeves all the time, even in the summer. My hair is shoulder length now with a feminine cut, which feels right, but the body hair is a constant reminder.
Financially, it’s a struggle. I only get $600 a month from SSI, and it all goes to food and bills. I don’t have money for other essentials like clothes. I have to wait for holidays or my birthday when my dad gives me money. The idea of affording things like laser hair removal is just a fantasy.
I’ve tried talking about my detransition in some online spaces, and it’s been hurtful. I’ve had trans people tell me things like, “it’s always the ones with successful transitions who don’t deserve it.” It feels like they see me as a threat to their own beliefs. There’s also a particular account in one group, someone who was male and is now transitioning to nonbinary, who comments on everything detrans women post, acting like they know what it’s like to be us. It’s frustrating.
My thoughts on gender now are simple: you can’t change your sex. For me, transitioning was a delusion I needed to wake up from. I don’t regret realizing that, but I regret the permanent changes and the position I’m in now.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Became disabled and started receiving SSI. Diagnosed with PCOS. |
| 18 | Doctors suggested testosterone for PCOS pain and transition. Started testosterone. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone after 4 years and began detransitioning. |
| 23 (now) | Have been off testosterone for a little over a year. Dealing with the physical and financial consequences. |
Top Comments by /u/tiddystitches:
The sub is a shit show when it comes to men making fun of masculine women here as well. Theres one in particular account that comments on everything detrans women post here and it’s a male who is apparently now transitioning to nonbinary acting like they know what it’s like to be a woman.
It bothers me because I was trans and I was damn good at it. I passed perfectly as a man within society but I just realized it wasn’t for me specifically because you cannot change your sex. I detransitioned because I could never be a biological man and I’d rather stop being delusional about that. I’ve even had trans people make comments like “it’s always the ones with successful transitions who don’t deserve it” when posting about my detransition in trans spaces. They just love to stay stuck in their delusion and a detrans person cracks that delusion.
Deals aren’t going to help when I don’t make any money. I’m disabled and only get $600 a month from SSI which all goes to food and my bills. I don’t even have enough money to buy other essentials like clothes, I wait until holidays or my birthday when my dad gives me money for that stuff.
Also, I was on testosterone for 4 years starting at 18 and have been off a little over a year now. My hair is shoulder length with a feminine cut.
I could try a gofund me but not sure where I’d get donations lol. Anything could work though. Also no I never went to college, I became disabled when I was 16 and I’ve just been on SSI ever since, even if I went to college I’d never be able to work so I don’t see the point in taking out loans I can’t pay back.
I actually have a gynecologist and an endocrinologist for pcos and it’s how I got on testosterone in the first place. Both suggested it since I was “already trans and probably wanting it anyways” so I jumped on it then 4 years later it turns out I made a huge mistake listening to them lol I honestly stayed on t so long because it genuinely was the only “medication” that helped my pain.
I want to keep my ovaries because I’m not about to stop t just to go on estrogen. I just want my period to stay gone because I’ve been several years without it now while being on testosterone and I haven’t had any pain related to pcos. I’m not mentally or physically prepared to experience pcos pain again.
Okay thanks. I guess I probably should have been doing it before now but I’m so hairy that I don’t know how to get it all/make it look even without literally shaving/waxing my entire body. I currently just wear long sleeves as much as possible even in summer