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About me
I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable with my body and found answers in online communities. My medical appointments were rushed, and my specialist never explored my doubts, instead pushing me toward more surgeries. I took testosterone and had a hysterectomy, which has left me infertile. I regret that I wasn't given better care or space to truly reflect. Now I'm focused on managing my health and accepting my permanently changed body.
My detransition story
My journey started when I was really struggling. I was uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty, and I hated my breasts. I felt like they didn't belong on me and that they were the main source of my discomfort. I found a lot of communities and information online that seemed to have the answers. I was influenced by what I saw and read, and it felt like transitioning was the only way to fix how I felt. I started to believe I was non-binary, and then later, that I was a trans man.
I got an appointment with a gender specialist. At first, he seemed great and like he knew what he was doing. But after a short time, the appointments got really short, from 30 minutes down to maybe 5 minutes. He would just greet me, ask how I was doing in a very surface-level way, and send me home. He never really dug into how I was doing on testosterone or what my long-term plans were. It felt like he was just going through the motions.
When I eventually brought up that I was considering detransition, he seemed scared by it. He immediately started trying to convince me that I was definitely trans, saying he knew that the first time he saw me. It felt like the only thing these specialists know how to ask is if you felt like a boy from a young age. If you say yes, or if you did things like play football, that's it—you're trans. They don't look any deeper.
I ended up taking testosterone and had a hysterectomy and oophorectomy (removal of my uterus and ovaries). Right after that, my specialist started pushing me to get a mastectomy and phalloplasty. There was never a moment to pause and think, "Is this right for me?" It was just onto the next step. I also think there's a problem in the wider trans community, where people say "transition asap, you will feel better." Just because it works for one person doesn't mean it will work for everyone. It's better to let a person question and really think about the permanent changes before they start hormones.
Looking back, I think a lot of my drive to transition came from a place of deep discomfort, low self-esteem, and maybe some internalized issues. I wasn't given the space to explore that. I needed someone to summarize everything for me: how my body would react, what to really expect, and all the risks of taking hormones and having surgeries. That didn't happen.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, which is a place of more understanding. But I do regret that I wasn't given better care and that I was pushed along a path without enough reflection. I'm now working with gynecologists and endocrinologists in my area to manage my health. My body has been permanently changed, and I am now infertile, which is a serious consequence I have to live with.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a very personal thing, but the medical system around it needs to be much more careful. It should be okay to question and it should be okay to stop. People need real support, not just a fast track to surgery.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 17 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body and breasts during puberty. |
| 19 | Found online communities and was influenced to explore identifying as non-binary. |
| 20 | Began identifying as a trans man and had my first appointment with a gender specialist. |
| 21 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Underwent a hysterectomy and oophorectomy (removal of uterus and ovaries). |
| 23 | Specialist began pushing for top surgery and phalloplasty. I started seriously considering detransition. |
| 23 | Stopped medical transition and began identifying with my female sex again. Started seeing new doctors to manage my health. |
Top Comments by /u/timemachine_one:
It's totally bs. And also I don't want to talk bad about trans community, but they are saying these things too, like transition asap, you will feel better, etc. Just because transition works for someone doesn't mean it will work for someone else. It's kinda sad tho. It's better to let the person question and make them think about these changes, before they go on HRT.
And I'm happy for you!
Yeah, in the beginning he seemed great and also it looked like he knew what he was doing. But after some time the appointments shortened from 30 minutes to maybe 5 minutes or less, he greeted me, asked me how was I doing and sent me home. It wasn't like he cared how I was doing on T, what my plans are for the future, nothing. Today he was giggling after I said anything that had been on my mind for 6 months, so yeah people change or show their true colors.
Thank you for your kind words! I am going through some gynecologists and endocrynologist from my area so that I have as many options as I can get!
The US has it so much better I think. Even though you have to pay for the surgeries, you have so much time to think whether it's the right thing for you and if it's worth the money. Also you can just medically transition and you're not pushed into it as you said. When I had done hysto+oopho, my specialist started to pushing into mastectomy and phalloplasty. I'm sorry to hear about your atrophy that developed thanks to testosterone hope everything is good today! And you're right even though there is awarness about some things it's like it doesnt apply for trans people.
I send PM! Thanks again.
It felt like he was suddenly scared when I said I'm considering detransition but still thinking about it you know. So that may be for sure why he was convincing me that I'm trans and he knew that immediately when he first saw me. In my opinion they don't know what to ask trans people, they all ask if you felt like a boy from young age and boom, you're trans and there's this plus points if you played football or something, but there are lots of girls that are playing football or have boyish look, so yeah. And why are the next decades going to be sad? And I sometimes watch Elle Palmer and Ryan Barnes, they are great! Again, thank you for you comment!
Oh I got you, well the question is when and where is it going to be like that you know. But we will see. Maybe they should start paying more attention to people, like if they're not sure or even if they are, they should summarize for trans people how their body will possibly react, what they should expect, what are the risks of taking hormones and undergoing surgeries and stuff like that.
I thought about that a lot. And maybe I'll do it in the future, but I'm not sure about that - I believe that you need to get your nationality changed so that their laws can apply to you too. And I feel like it'll take so much time to get your nationality changed, then get your birth paper changed, then ID, insurance etc. And then change everything in CZ. It'll be hard parkour.
But thanks for this idea!