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- Personal, specific medical knowledge about the effects of testosterone and detransition (e.g., bottom growth, voice changes, fat redistribution) that aligns with lived experience.
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- Nuanced and empathetic engagement with others, offering tailored advice that reflects a deep understanding of the detrans/desister experience.
- A cohesive personal narrative that develops over time, including mentions of their own detransition timeline and lasting physical complications.
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About me
I was born female and started feeling deeply uncomfortable with my body as a teenager. I thought I was a transgender man and took testosterone for a short time, but it caused permanent sexual dysfunction that I deeply regret. After stopping, I struggled to accept myself as a woman again, but I eventually did. I don't think transitioning is wrong for everyone, but it was a serious mistake for me personally. Now, I'm just focused on living as the woman I always was, despite the lasting physical changes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is complicated, and it’s taken me a long time to sort through my feelings. I was born female, and as a teenager, I started to feel deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty. I hated developing breasts and felt like I just didn't fit in as a girl. Looking back, I think a lot of that was general puberty discomfort and low self-esteem. I found a lot of community and answers online that pointed me toward transitioning.
I started identifying as a transgender man. I took testosterone for a relatively short time, under six months. Some of the changes were things I thought I wanted at the time, but one change has had a lasting negative impact on me: the bottom growth. I lost a significant amount of sensitivity in my genitals. It’s been two years since I stopped testosterone, and that sensitivity hasn't come back. Sex is pretty much ruined for me because of it. It’s a serious health complication that I have to live with, and it’s a source of a lot of regret for me. I’ve also had to deal with other permanent changes, like my voice being deeper and some facial hair, but the sexual dysfunction is the hardest part.
After I stopped T, I struggled to accept that I was actually a woman. It felt like if I was a woman all along, then what did I put my body through all of that for? It was like a sunk cost fallacy. But I eventually got over that reluctance and accepted myself as a cis woman. I don’t think transitioning is morally wrong, and I don't believe trans people are a danger to others just by existing. My own journey was just a mistake for me, personally. I benefited from stepping away from the trans community and seeing it more as a subculture than a cult, because it gave me the space to think for myself.
I have a lot of thoughts on gender now. I believe there's a lot of natural variation between people, and you can't really tell someone's sex just by looking at their brain. For me, the idea of gender identity became less important than just being a person. I don't think you need to medically transition to be valid, and you don't have to fit neatly into a box of "man" or "woman." I worry that the conversation around detransition gets caught up in a culture war, and I don't want our experiences to be used as a weapon against trans people, but I also think it's important that our stories are heard.
My main regret is the physical complication I have to live with. I wouldn't wish testosterone on another woman, whether she was born female or is a trans woman, because of how powerful and permanent its effects can be. My journey taught me that my job is to make myself happy, and that person is, and always was, me—a woman.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenager | Experienced significant puberty discomfort and hated breast development. |
| Early 20s | Started identifying as a transgender man and began taking testosterone. |
| (Age during T) | Took testosterone for under six months. |
| (Age when stopped) | Stopped testosterone after less than 6 months due to realizing it wasn't right for me. |
| (Age at time of comment) | Have been off testosterone for 2 years. Permanently living as a woman again. |
Top Comments by /u/tmipersonalproblem:
some trends emerge statistically if you’re comparing a lot of brains, but if you look at a brain by itself you can’t tell if the person is male or female from the brain.
There’s enough variation within males and within females that if you look at three brains, two of the same gender and one of the other, you might have the opposite gender brains look more similar, and the second same gender brain look more different.
I know you’re unhappy with your chest and nipples because it’s not what it was before and I don’t want to minimize your discomfort, but to me, as someone who hasn’t seen what it was before, it just looks like you’ve got pecs. I can’t tell you were on feminizing hormones. I’ve seen men who never took feminizing hormones with bigger chests.
I agree. I also think it’s sucks that there’s a culture war against trans people right now, and that if we talk about detransitioning, we’re seen as anti-trans, regardless of the content of what we say. I don’t want us to be used as a cudgel against trans people but I also don’t want us to be swept under the rug. It’s tough.
Morality is not determined by what birth sex you are, but by how you act. You are not hurting women and children by transitioning, and if you do decide to detrans, that wouldn’t make you a safer person.
Your actions towards other people and only your actions towards other people determine whether you are causing harm to other people or not. Transition and detransition are actions towards yourself.
More than anything I want to say congrats on your dysphoria being gone!! It sounds like your mom’s a good person. She’s supportive of your transition because she loves you. She’ll be supportive of your detransition. You can trust her with the truth of who you are.
I think your hate for yourself is very real, but I don’t think it’s based on the truth. Transitioning isn’t morally wrong. (Though it’s not always the best choice for everyone, I mean this is a detrans group.)
Trans women aren’t delusional men, and they’re not a danger to cis women just by existing. To be a dangerous person, you have to hurt people. Changing the way you look doesn’t automatically cause hurt to other people.
You don’t have to “pass” the blood test. I know that you don’t want to tell them you’re not ftm anymore but they can’t tell your identity from your testosterone blood concentrations. You can tell them that you’ve stopped testosterone. They won’t make you detransition faster than you want to.
Please please do not put yourself in conversion therapy or force yourself to be masculine-conforming. Conversion therapy is dangerous for your mental and physical health. You don’t owe anyone masculinity either. If you are not a masculine person, you don’t need to be. It’s okay.
Detransitioning is a lot of actions grouped under an umbrella. You don’t have to do all of them. You don’t even have to do any of them. Right now you’re at a point where you’re not sure you’re a man. What happens if you stop thinking of yourself as a man? Does that make you feel relieved that you don’t have to be a man anymore? Distressed at the idea of not being a man? How do you define manhood anyway?
You are still you, in any gender. You will always be you. Your job is to make that you happy.
Hi, as the title suggests, I have a question about my genitals post-T.
The pills are there for size comparison, because I didn’t want to post my clit online. It’s about the size of one of these Advils. This isn’t a picture of pills as a cry for help. I’m mentally stable.
I am, however, sexually frustrated. My problem is that I’ve lost sensitivity because of bottom growth. I’ve been off T for seven months and have not regained sensitivity. Should I see a doctor about this? If yes what kind? Thank you.