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About me
I started identifying as non-binary and then as a man because I was deeply unhappy and saw it as an escape, influenced by my online friends and communities. I took testosterone for over two years and had top surgery, hoping it would fix everything. It didn't solve my underlying depression, and I was left with permanent changes like a deeper voice, scars, and infertility. I now believe my unhappiness was mistaken for a gender issue, and medical transition was not the right answer for me. I’ve had to learn self-compassion and accept my altered body while understanding I was trying to solve a deeper pain.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is complicated and full of a lot of pain and confusion. I don't think there's one simple reason for any of it. Looking back, I believe my unhappiness was a catch-all for general unhappiness with life, and transitioning became the solution I latched onto.
I think people are much more malleable than they seem. A large part of me believes that a large portion of both sexes could learn to occupy the opposite role if they had to, especially if it was socially sanctioned. For me, it felt like an escape from being myself. I was deeply unhappy and I saw transitioning as a way to become someone new and leave my problems behind. It was a form of escapism.
I started identifying as non-binary first. It felt like a less permanent step, a way to dip my toes in the water. But that quickly escalated to identifying as a transgender man. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online; it seemed like a strong, supportive community with all the answers. I also had friends who were transitioning, and it felt like the right path to take to belong and finally be happy.
I took testosterone for a little over two years. I was so worried about my voice changing at first. I asked others about it, remembering how boys' voices change in puberty—for some it's rapid, for others it's slow. I hoped mine would change slowly, but I also wanted the change. It did change, and it's permanently deeper now. I also got top surgery. I hated my breasts and thought removing them would fix everything, that it would finally make me feel comfortable in my body.
But it didn't fix the underlying issues. I was still me, and I was still just as lost. The initial high of making a change wore off, and I was left with the same depression and anxiety, plus a body that was now permanently altered. I began to realize that much of what is called "dysphoria" is really just a catch-all for that general unhappiness. I think many, perhaps nowadays most, people should not transition and should seek alternate ways and alternate explanations for their suffering.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I am now infertile, and that is a profound loss I grapple with every day. My voice is permanently different. My body is scarred from surgery. I have to live with that.
I've had to learn to have compassion for myself. We are mostly products of our environment; it takes a very particular set of circumstances to create what I experienced. If you are to blame anyone, blame the world. I experienced an area of contradiction in the way we as a civilization do things. People will always try to make it as if you are the problem, but often you're not. Often, people are asked to do impossible tasks and blamed for not doing them.
My thoughts on gender now are that while there are real, measurable average differences between men and women generally, in terms of temperament and psychology, the roles we occupy are more flexible than we're led to believe. I think science and philosophy have really let us all down here. I can't say what the ultimate truth of gender is, and I can't prohibit anything for people who truly experience debilitating gender dysphoria, because I can't be certain. But I do know that for me, it wasn't the answer.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 23 | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced heavily by online communities and friends. |
| 24 | Began identifying as a transgender man and started testosterone therapy. |
| 25 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 26 | Stopped taking testosterone after a little over 2 years, beginning my detransition. Realized my unhappiness was not solved by medical transition. |
Top Comments by /u/toohighfor2k:
you do realize that this world we live in is corrupt? that money is everywhere in politics and science? you do understand you can't just link to authority to convince any thinking person? if you truly beleive your ideology, you should be able to argue its merits on it's own. it should have a logic that is congruent with reality and extends into everyones experience. you are just purly arguing from authority which is a known fallacy.
I think people are much more malleable than they seem. and i think that a large portion of both sexes could learn to occupy the opposite role if they had to, if it was socially sanctioned especially. for people that truly do experience debilitating gender dysphoria, i can't prohibit anything, because i can't be certain what the truth of gender and sexual differences are. i think science and philosophy has really let us all down here. i think there are real measurable average differences between men and women generally, as far as temperament and psychology. i do think that alot of what is "dysphoria" is really just a catch-all for general unhappiness with life. i think many, perhaps nowadays most, should not transition and should seek alternate ways and alternate explanations for their suffering.
i'm saying you should have compassion for yourself, we are mostly products of our environment, it takes a very particular set of circumstances to create what you've experienced.. i'm saying if you are to blame anyone, blame the world. you've just experienced an area of contradiction in the way we as a civilization do things. People will always try and make it as if you are the problem, often it is, but often it's not. often, people are asked to do impossible tasks and blamed for not doing them. much of the worlds problems, it comes from people trying to maintain their mental model of the world, it gives them a sense of groundedness, and to lose that can be devastating for a weaker mind. i know you know what it feels like to have your understanding of the world pulled out from under you, if any of the cruel people that won't understand were to understand, they would go though just as much of a shock.
probably both, i bet there were atleast a few up there who could foresee the very likely big backlash that would result from banning detrans, now i almost wish it happened. now i bet they will try to oust or bully the moderators into enforcing a culture they like better.
don't mean to scare you but, in my experience, it's a pretty rapid change. you know a 12 year old he sounds like a kid, then all of a sudden 2 months later and his voice will be totally different. but i mean, not all dudes even end up with a deep voice even with their testosterone, and there are alot of transgenders who learn to immitate a female range pretty well. maybe you could think about how deep the mens voices are in your family, since you are the closest genetically.
edit: i thought about it some more, and i want to say that looking back it was very few people that happened too. most guys took a long time for their voices to get deeper i think, it's just a few cases that stuck out i remembered. like some guys respond massively to testosterone and some don't. me personally my voice has slowly been getting deeper over the last several years and i'm in my early twenties.