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The user's story is highly detailed, emotionally complex, and internally consistent across multiple posts. They describe a long-term medical transition starting as a minor, specific surgeries (mastectomy, hysterectomy), legal changes, and a personal narrative involving trauma and regret that aligns with known detransitioner experiences. The passion and criticism towards the trans community and medical establishment are consistent with the genuine anger and grief many detransitioners express.
About me
I started socially transitioning as a teenager to escape the deep discomfort I felt being a girl, which I now understand was rooted in trauma and misogyny. I began testosterone at 16 and had a double mastectomy at 18, procedures I wasn't fully informed about and now deeply regret. My perspective changed because of my wife, who had already detransitioned and helped me see that transition was just a bandaid for my deeper problems. I've stopped hormones and am now detransitioning, but I feel stuck because everyone in my professional life knows me only as male. I feel I was wronged by a system that encouraged my transition instead of asking why I was so unhappy.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was really young. I felt a deep discomfort with being a girl long before I even knew what the word "trans" meant. Looking back, I know now that this wasn't because I was born in the wrong body, but because of the trauma and misogyny I went through as a child and teenager. I hated the expectations placed on me as a woman and I think I saw transitioning as a way to escape all of that.
I socially transitioned in my early teens. I was so sure it was the right path. When I was about 16, I started taking testosterone. I wasn't fully aware of all the negative consequences, and honestly, I didn't really care at that point. I just hated myself and my body and wanted to change it no matter what. The medical professionals I saw diagnosed me with gender dysphoria, but they never stopped to investigate why I felt that way. They just accepted it and moved forward.
At 18, I got a double mastectomy. I did it mostly because it made my life easier to present as a man; I hated my breasts and wanted them gone. Now, I'm filled with regret over that surgery and starting hormones. The only part I don't regret is getting a hysterectomy, but that's only because of my own personal fears and trauma related to that part of my body, not because it was a necessary part of being a man.
I'm 22 now and I've stopped hormones. I did it on and off and then just stopped completely. I never refilled my prescription and asked for it to be taken off my medical record. I didn't even tell my prescribing doctor because I have no reason to go back to that clinic. Transitioning was just a bandaid for my deeper problems. It gave me temporary happiness, but it wasn't worth the permanent changes I made to my body. I see now that I was caught in a delusion, using transition as an outlet for my pain.
My perspective has been shaped a lot by my wife. She detransitioned a few years before I did. When we started dating, she was detransitioned and I was still living as a trans man. I remember being offended by some of the things she said about transition, because deep down I knew she had a point, but I didn't want to believe it. Now that I've started my own detransition, I understand her completely. I don't think I could be with a trans person now, because of what I've learned about myself and my own experience. It’s difficult to see other trans people stuck in the same thoughts and feelings I was in.
Detransitioning socially is hard. I graduated university last year and now work full time. Everyone at my job knows me as male, so it would be incredibly difficult to change that. I might even be returning to my old university, and I’d have to keep identifying as male there for a while. It feels like I'm stuck in an identity I created for myself.
I have strong opinions about this because I feel I was wronged. The trans community pushes the idea of being trans very hard, and I did the same when I was part of it. People were so quick to congratulate me on "finding myself" instead of questioning why a teenager might want to make such drastic, irreversible changes. I wish I hadn't had such easy access to hormones and surgery as a minor. I wish someone had stopped to ask the hard questions.
Here is a timeline of the major events in my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens | Socially transitioned. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 18 | Underwent a double mastectomy (top surgery) and a hysterectomy. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone and began my detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/totallyacrow:
I socially transitioned around the age you did too. I regret it all now at 22. I was on T for many years and got on it as a minor, got irreversible surgery at 18, etc. It wasn’t worth my temporary happiness. Transitioning was a bandaid and a way to get away from the trauma and misogyny I endured as a child/teenager. Don’t make the same mistakes I did… don’t do anything irreversible to your body.
I did it on and off and then stopped cold turkey, never refilled, asked for it to be taken off my medical list. I won’t tell my prescribing doctor because I have no reason to go back to that clinic. However I will have to tell other clinics as my name and gender are legally changed.
as someone who recently detransitioned, i’ll give you my two cents. i was dealing with dysphoria as a child too, way before knowing what being “trans” was. that doesn’t mean that i was trans, or that the answer was to transition. i disliked being a woman because of the conditioning and trauma i was exposed to when i was younger.
i think so many people here have such strong opinions because we have been wronged and told that we are confused, maybe we’re just nonbinary, etc. the trans community pushes the idea of being trans, too, which i did a LOT when i was in that community.
i don’t know anyone demonizing a diagnosis lol if anything gender dysphoria is diagnosed extremely easily. i was diagnosed properly as a child, the ideas as to “why” i might feel that way were not investigated. there’s a lot of opinions around denying someone how they feel/want to identify. if someone were to have questioned me, they could have been seen as transphobic. i transitioned very young, had access to hormones as a minor, got surgeries, etc. i wish i wouldn’t of had access to those things so early on and that people would have stopped to question my actions more vs preaching acceptance and congratulating me on “finding myself”.
imo from your post it sounds more like you’re just wanting to pushback on the detrans community vs actually questioning your own identity.
i agree that hate isn’t the answer but it’s also a lot deeper than that. i think many detrans people, including myself, are saddened by the delusion that we were caught in. seeing other trans people who are stuck in these thoughts/feelings can be difficult.
my now wife detransitioned a few years before i did. i remember being offended about some of the things she’d say—it wasn’t like she didn’t have a point or wasn’t speaking the truth, but i didn’t want to believe it. her and i dated with her being detrans and me being a “trans man”.
now i’ve begun my detransition as well and i don’t think i could personally be with a trans person. not with the way i feel now, or the facts i’ve learned about myself and my transition. it was a delusion, something i used as an outlet. and i deeply regret all of it.
i can see why detrans people, myself included, have a general avoidance of trans people. i can also see it the other way around though—why trans people don’t like detrans people. i don’t think these things will ever change tbh. trans people will always say that the very existence of detrans folk invalidates them, that detrans people were never trans in the first place and just “confused cis people”, etc.
I feel this so so much. I graduated university last year and now work full time and everyone at my job knows me as male so it would be so difficult to have to change that. Plus I might be returning to my old university so I’d still have to identify as male to them for a while. hang in there though, you’re not in it alone - none of us are.
i got on hormones at 16(?) i think and was not super aware of the negative consequences it could have caused. i didn’t really care at that point either to be fair… i just hated myself and my body and wanted to change it. i ended up getting a double mastectomy at 18, which i only did because it made my life easier to present as a man. the only part of my transition i feel like i don’t regret was getting my hysterectomy, only because of my own personal fears/trauma. i’m filled with regret that i got a mastectomy and that i started hormones… but here we are.