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Reddit user /u/transition-2020's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 16 -> Detransitioned: 23
female
low self-esteem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
serious health complications
now infertile
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
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About me

I felt deeply uncomfortable with my female body during puberty and was influenced by online communities that presented transition as the only solution. I started taking testosterone, believing it would fix my internal pain, but it only masked my unresolved trauma and depression. I eventually realized my mistake and stopped, but I now have serious health complications and regret the permanent changes. I've learned that my need was for therapy to address my past, not medical intervention to escape from it. I'm now focused on accepting myself and sharing my story so others might slow down and explore all their feelings first.

My detransition story

My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and it was rooted in a lot of pain I didn't understand at the time. Looking back, I see now that my desire to transition was a way to escape from myself and from deep emotional trauma I hadn't dealt with. I had a lot of self-hatred and extremely low self-esteem. I felt completely uncomfortable in my own skin, especially when I was going through puberty. I hated the changes happening to my female body; developing breasts felt like a betrayal and made me want to hide.

A huge part of my struggle was that I was influenced heavily by what I saw online. I spent a lot of time in communities where transition was presented as the only solution for the kind of discomfort I was feeling. I started to believe that if I could just change my body, all the internal pain would go away. It was a form of escapism. I started by identifying as non-binary, but that quickly escalated to wanting to fully transition to male. I began taking testosterone.

The hormones did not give me the peace I was searching for. Instead, they just masked my problems for a little while. The underlying issues—the depression, the anxiety, the trauma—were all still there, waiting. I was so focused on changing my outside that I never addressed the inside. I now believe that what I needed was non-affirming therapy to help me work through my past and learn to accept myself, not medical intervention that allowed me to run away from it all.

I eventually realized I had made a mistake. I stopped testosterone and began the process of accepting my female body. It was incredibly difficult. I have serious health complications from the testosterone, and I am now infertile, which is a deep regret. I feel a lot of sadness for the permanent changes I made to my body in an attempt to fix my mind.

My thoughts on gender now are that for some people, like me, the push to transition can be a harmful response to other problems. We need better mental health support and more research into why people like us feel this way, instead of just being fast-tracked to medicalization. I don't speak for everyone, and some people may truly benefit from transitioning, but I know I was not one of them. I regret transitioning because it was a solution that didn't fit my problem and it caused me lasting harm.

I hope that by sharing my story, I can help others who are feeling that same trapped, uncomfortable feeling I felt. I want them to know it's okay to question, to slow down, and to seek therapy that explores all the reasons behind those feelings. You have to listen to your own voice, not the noise online.

Age Event
13 Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort with my developing female body and hated my breasts.
16 Spent increasing time online in trans communities; influenced by what I read, I began to identify as non-binary.
18 Started taking testosterone, believing it was the solution to my distress.
22 Stopped testosterone after realizing it was a mistake and that it hadn't solved my underlying mental health issues.
23 Began the process of detransition and focused on accepting my female body.

Top Comments by /u/transition-2020:

5 comments • Posting since March 1, 2021
Reddit user transition-2020 ([Detrans]🦎♀️) comments that a detransitioner is brave for facing their past and is not harming the trans community, but is instead helping them see that emotional trauma should be dealt with directly rather than hidden through transition.
31 pointsMar 1, 2021
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You are very brave to face what happened to you in the past. You are not being hateful or harming the trans community. While they don’t see it for themselves, you are helping them see what they refuse to or were listed to turn the other way. The problems most of these people have is emotional trauma. They should deal with these emotional trauma, not use transition to hide from it. You are being a true friend to them who will not watch them destroy themselves. All the love and respect to you.

Reddit user transition-2020 ([Detrans]🦎♀️) explains how body image issues and feeling trapped, especially pre-puberty, can drive transition, and suggests that time, letting puberty settle, or having a child can bring positive perspective changes.
13 pointsMar 3, 2021
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You sound like a wonderful person and super smart. Sounds like you really like your body. For many of us, the reason for transition is the body image issue. Another problem is the emotion of feeling trapped. When these came at per-puberty time, it seems to be part of puberty. I felt that everything gets better as puberty starts to settle. It seems the same is happening with you. So, I think time will help you. Otherwise, if you already have a significant other in your life, a child really changes your perspective in life. You will be a completely changed person- for the better.

Reddit user transition-2020 ([Detrans]🦎♀️) advises disconnecting from gender discussions to better listen to your own voice and body.
6 pointsMar 3, 2021
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I felt that part of the reason you question it so much is there is so much discussion on the topic everywhere. I would recommend that you disconnect yourself from all the discussions one side or the other. Find other things to focus on. Then you will be able to listen to your own voice and Your body will then tell you what to do

Reddit user transition-2020 ([Detrans]🦎♀️) comments on feeling ugly, advising self-love and warns against body modification due to others' judgments.
6 pointsMar 1, 2021
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No two leaves are alike. You are certainly beautiful in your own ways. Being self reflecting and humble about your appearance itself is already so beautiful without knowing anything else about you. No need to let other people’s judgements of your appearance push you to harm your body. Love yourself as you are. There is a lucky guy out there who will discover you one day.

Reddit user transition-2020 ([Detrans]🦎♀️) explains that the LGBTQ+ community and doctors see detransitioners as problems to get rid of, arguing that mental help is desperately needed instead of medical intervention.
3 pointsApr 28, 2021
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Very happy for you that you are in a stable place now. You should not feel guilty. Instead, I hope that you can bring a different perspective to the lgbtq so that they will advocate for research to help us rather than pushing us to harm ourselves when we were at our most vulnerable time mentally. The current situation is the lgbtq and the larger society are not helping us. The lgbtq together with a few doctors look at us as problems to get rid off rather than people they should help. The larger society don’t want to have anything to do with us. We need mental help desperately, not medical intervention. You can help push for it and make a big difference with your position