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The user's language is consistent and passionate, reflecting a strong personal belief system developed from their claimed experience. The advice, while strong and repetitive, is coherent and shows a personal investment in the topic, which aligns with a genuine, albeit very zealous, individual. There is no evidence of automated posting or scripted responses. The account appears to be a real person expressing their passionate, albeit controversial, views on detransition.
About me
I was an insecure young man who thought becoming a woman would fix my unhappiness. I took hormones for a while but was always confused, realizing my issues were really about low self-esteem and not accepting myself. I stopped the medication and began detransitioning, which was the best decision for my mental health. Now, I focus on being healthy and embracing my masculinity instead of running from it. I've learned that true happiness comes from self-acceptance, not from changing your body.
My detransition story
My whole journey started with a deep discomfort in my own skin. I was a young man who felt insecure and unhappy, and I thought transitioning to a woman was the answer. I believed that becoming someone else would fix everything. I took hormones for a while, but I was always confused and never 100% sure. I think a lot of my feelings were tied to low self-esteem and an insecurity about my masculinity, especially when I started worrying about my hairline receding.
Looking back, I realize I was influenced online. I saw a certain narrative pushed and I got swept up in it. I thought my unhappiness was because I was born in the wrong body, but it was really because I hadn't learned to accept myself. I was running from who I was. The idea of transition became a form of escapism from dealing with my real problems.
I started to realize it was all a mistake when I finally took a hard look at myself. I stopped the hormones and decided to detransition. The best thing I ever did for my mental health was to shave my head, start working out, and just lean into being a man. I began eating healthy and treating my body with respect. It wasn't some magical overnight fix, but by focusing on my physical health first—the basic needs—I started to feel better mentally. I had to accept that this is the body I have, and that leaning into my natural masculine energy wasn't something to be afraid of; it was my biggest strength.
I don't believe anyone needs to transition. I think society pushes this idea that men should look up to women and women should look up to men to find happiness, but that's wrong. Real happiness comes from accepting who you are and seeing men and women as equals. My thoughts on gender now are that it's all a social construct, and getting hung up on pronouns and labels is just a way to distract ourselves from dealing with our real trauma and problems.
I definitely have regrets about transitioning. I regret ever thinking that changing my body was the solution. It was a denial of who I really am. I'm grateful that I figured it out before I did anything permanent like surgery. The whole experience taught me that nobody gets the life they want by default; you get the life you need. And once you unconditionally accept that, you can finally start living.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Began feeling insecure and unhappy, started to question my gender. Influenced by online communities. |
| 23 | Started taking testosterone blockers and estrogen. Was always confused and never sure. |
| 24 | Stopped taking hormones. Realized it was a mistake and began my detransition. |
| 24 | Shaved my head, started working out and eating healthy to reclaim my masculine energy and improve mental health. |
| Present (24) | Focused on self-acceptance and building a healthy life without medical intervention. |
Top Comments by /u/transprivuknohowitis:
i think its bullshit literally because in real life its not a big deal when youre talking to someone youre not even thinking about 3rd person pronouns youre just calling them “you” or their name if youre even calling them at all
i honestly think its just a way for people to get themselves mad to release the stress from transitioning and all their past trauma or whatever your thing may be
if youre confused everyday dont start - hrt is a drug, treat it like one. also if youre dead set on turning to a drug to solve your problems - smoke weed or trip out like the rest of us. you dont need artificial hormones to make you who you want to be because who you want to be literally is who you already are and you just havent realized it.
if you want the advice of a fellow detransitioner who feels like hes completely bounced back from his mistake, the best thing you can do within the next week is to shave your head and start working out - youre balding and you gotta accept it and think about it instead of being an insecure, unhappy man who thinks hes a trans woman, you can be one punch man and im not joking around when i say that
i hope you realize, just by being this honest with yourself and acknowledging publicly that deep down you know its all bullshit, that youre waaaay smarter than all the crazy people who are coerced into this scam
youre right, youre not trans, just accept that these thoughts are gonna be stuck in your head for a little bit, dont fight them and theyll just go away on your own as you move on with your life and focus on other things 👍
you stopped a few days ago mate give you testes time to recover
ur shit will be better in like a month just start working out and eating good to help speed up/induce testosterone and finish ur development and shit
but actually do it tho really if you feel like you fucked up transitioning the #1 thing thatll make you feel better is working out and leaning into ur masculine energy nothings better
my story is super similar to urs so trust bro trust
your hairline is receding while youre young, this is early onset male pattern balding and anyone whos had to deal with MPB will tell you that the best thing you could do for your mental health is be one punch man or at least thats what youre afraid it might be deep down
and the reason im choosing to make a soul read on you and the reason im so confident in what im saying is because the thing that detransitioners need to understand to break out of self-hatred is that their biggest weakness is their biggest strength and that if you lean into who you naturally are no matter what then you are 100% GUARANTEEING yourself a happy life
your priorities are all out of wack, its okay its not your fault its just what happened to you
you must start with taking care of your physical needs, healthy diet and going to the gym and all that unsexy shit. after making steps towards that you should kinda be on your way to figuring your shit out.
look up maslows hierarchy of needs, you should see a pyramid thing, just take care of yourself in that order during the day and you should be good
pm me if you dont understand what i mean
if youre trans, youd know 100% and not make a reddit post asking other people their thoughts on your life, respectfully
you probably will regret it in the future imo theres wayyyyy less actual trans people than u think the chances of you being social contagioned are higher in my opinion but again its your life nobody here on reddit should have any type of power over it or your decisions
you gotta take it one step further, the true enlightenment that you get through the detrans experience is that no one needs to transition at all - the society that were in promotes men to look up to women and women to look up to men if they want happiness when the opposite is true, the two must look eye level to each other
this is the food for thought equivalent of vegetables and if you find this comment bothers you and starts to live rent free in your head, it means that youre not accepting the best thing for you into your life and the way to stop all the chatter in your head is to go with your heart - its not “intrusive thoughts,” its natural instinct
i am a detrans man who has gone through his own struggles with masculinity/femininity and ive really started making strides in my mental health and i need to let you know that its all mindset if you believe me and dont think im bullshitting you and have questions hit the pms box
detrans men and women have to start helping each other