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About me
I first thought I was trans when I was eight years old and started testosterone at eighteen, hoping it would fix my depression. I realized the hormones didn't solve my problems and I stopped them two years ago, which was mentally difficult. I'm now dealing with permanent changes like my deepened voice, which causes me pain. Looking back, I see I was trying to escape my low self-esteem by becoming someone else. I'm now 22, learning to accept being a woman and finally dealing with my real issues.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was just a kid, around eight years old. I remember first starting to identify as trans then, long before I ever did anything medical. For years, that was just a part of who I was in my head. I didn't really talk about it with friends or anything; I was mostly just struggling alone with my mental health and ended up isolating myself from everyone.
When I turned 18, I decided to start medically transitioning and began taking testosterone. At first, it was exciting and felt like it was going to fix everything. I had a lot of depression and low self-esteem, and I think I placed all my problems onto being trans. I thought transitioning was the answer that would finally make me happy and confident.
But after that initial phase wore off, I realized I was still just as depressed as before. The problems were still there. I was on T for a while, but I’ve been off it for two years now. Coming off it was really difficult mentally because I had built my entire identity around being trans for so long, since I was a kid. The idea that I might not be a man after all was completely rattling. I never thought I would ever be a woman, so it’s been a huge shift to wrap my head around.
A big physical issue I’m dealing with now is my voice. I didn't learn until after being on T that it's pretty much impossible for most females to have a comfortable "male voice" because our vocal anatomy is just different. A lot of us struggle with throat pain, but people just pretend it's normal. I was even suggested surgery to help, but I can't afford that, so I'm trying to look into online doctors or speech therapy instead.
Looking back, I see now that my desire to transition was a way to escape my other issues. I was deeply depressed and had very low self-esteem, and I thought becoming someone else would fix it. It didn’t. I needed to get to the root of my problems, not just put a band-aid on them. I think a lot of young people, including myself, go through a phase where they’re still figuring themselves out, and their brains are still maturing. For me, everything just sort of snapped into place when I was about 20. I woke up one day and suddenly realized I had been making a mistake. I’ve noticed a lot of other detrans people seem to hit that point of doubt in their early to mid-twenties too.
I don’t regret trying to figure myself out, but I do regret medically transitioning. It caused permanent changes that I now have to live with, and it didn’t solve any of my underlying problems. If I could go back, I would tell my younger self to focus on therapy and building self-confidence first, before making any permanent decisions. My advice to anyone questioning is to be 100% sure before you do anything medical, especially surgery, because you can never reverse it to the way you were before. Don’t do it just because you feel like you’re in too deep.
Now, I’m trying to move forward. I think socializing with more women and learning to be comfortable as one will help me. Detransitioning was initially so hard, but in the long term, it has been worth it for me to finally be dealing with my real issues.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 8 | First started identifying as trans. |
| 13 | Began identifying socially as trans. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Stopped testosterone; began detransition. |
| 22 | (Current age) Off testosterone for two years; working on voice issues and building a new life. |
Top Comments by /u/trexjupiter12:
I mean more than likely they would’ve seen trans stuff online and transitioned without you anyway but you were 16 with good intentions and you were also a victim of gender ideology. You could always reach out saying you’ve detransitioned and warning them of your transition being a mistake but besides that it’s not really your responsibility now that they are adults.
i’m not sure if the first part is bait but none of my friends were trans and i don’t really talk about my politics with people irl anyway.. i was just struggling with my mental health and stopped talking to everyone. i will look into speech therapy ty
Detransitioning was initially difficult but in the long term has been so worth it for me at least, if you’re not 100% sure you want srs you really shouldn’t be considering it, it’s so risky and you can never reverse it to the way you were before. Don’t get srs just because you feel too deep into your transition
It seems like you’ve placed a lot of your issues on being trans and have decided that transitioning will fix them, imo you should try looking into therapy + gain self confidence first. I had the exact same issues as you and assumed when i started transitioning i would be healed but once i passed the initial happy exciting phase i was back to being super depressed again. Transitioning isn’t going to fix these issues you really need to get to the root of the problem. You said your brother is ok with being a man and does typical male stuff but there isn’t really one way to be a man, your allowed to be a feminine man and you can have mostly female friends and be a man. I don’t know how old you are but you seem young and chances are you’re going to change so much mentally for years to come. I personally identified as trans from ages 13-20 and at 20 i literally just woke up one day and my brain just snapped and i realised i was doing the wrong thing it literally happened over night and ive noticed a lot of other detrans people began having doubts in their early to mid twenties when there brains started to mature and they had more time to become comfortable with their birth gender.
thank you and yeah it’s actually insane, i didn’t learn until after t that it’s impossible for most females to have a “male voice” comfortably because we don’t have the same anatomy as men and that so many ftms struggle with throat pain but just pretend like it’s normal.. surgery was suggested to me but im far too broke for that so im gonna probably try see if i can find some doctor online or something.
that’s what i’m worried about, if they do surgeries it will probably be done by the same doctors who do trans surgeries on the nhs and i’ve seen there waiting times are insane :( i think ur right about the uk gov though even a lot of left wing politicians here are detrans supportive
hey ty for replying, i’ve also been off T for two years, honestly the mindset is so much harder for me because i’ve been “identifying as trans” since age 8 but only started medically transitioning at 18. I really never thought id be a women so it’s just kind of rattled me a bit. I think meeting with and socialising with more women will probably help