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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "ukhoneybee" appears to be authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic actor.
The user demonstrates:
- Personal, anecdotal experience (e.g., discussing their own PCOS and experiences with sexual harassment).
- Deep, specific knowledge of medical studies, which they cite and discuss in detail, showing a consistent and researched viewpoint.
- A consistent, passionate, and nuanced perspective that aligns with the stated views of many detransitioners and desisters, including criticism of medical transition for youth and the concept of rapid-onset gender dysphoria (ROGD).
The tone is argumentative and angry, which is consistent with a genuine person who feels harmed by their experiences and the broader medical and cultural discourse on gender.
About me
I began questioning my gender as a young woman because I felt deeply unsafe in my own body after experiencing harassment. I realized my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with how I was treated and the sexualization I faced. My research into medical transition showed me the serious, permanent consequences of these treatments, especially for young people. I now understand I am a masculine woman, and I found peace through addressing my own hormone imbalance and rejecting a medical path. I fear many others are being led toward permanent procedures without first exploring their underlying trauma or discomfort.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started not because I felt like a man, but because I was deeply uncomfortable being a woman in a world that felt unsafe. I was born female and developed large breasts at a young age, which made me a target for unwanted attention and assault from men. I hated my breasts; they felt like these heavy, awkward things that just attracted trouble. I thought my discomfort was a sign that I was meant to be male, but looking back, I think I just wanted to escape the sexualization and harassment that came with having a female body.
I never took hormones or had surgery myself, but I spent a lot of time researching them for others and became very concerned. I have a condition called PCOS, which causes high testosterone levels, and I experienced things like facial hair growth and hair loss. Getting my hormones balanced helped a lot with those issues, which showed me how powerful and impactful these chemicals are on the body.
My main focus became the use of puberty blockers on young people. I read every study I could find, and every single one showed these drugs have a major negative impact on working memory and IQ. They halt a fundamental part of human development, and the consequences are severe: sterility, underdeveloped genitalia that can complicate future surgery, and a 100% rate of continuing on to cross-sex hormones, compared to an 80%+ rate of naturally desisting if left alone. I strongly believe that if kids are not socially transitioned or put on blockers, the vast majority will grow up to be happy, gay adults.
I also looked into the statistics around regret and found them to be misleading. The often-cited low regret rate of 2.2% is from a time when adults underwent years of psychiatric evaluation. Now, with fast-tracking, the reality is different. Clinics lose track of about a third of their patients after surgery; these are likely people who regret it and have stopped treatment, but they aren't counted in the studies. The suicide rate for teens with gender dysphoria is also not the crisis it's made out to be; it's roughly the same as for other teens with similar co-morbid issues like depression, anxiety, and autism.
For me, I came to understand that my feelings weren't about being the wrong sex. They were about hating how I was treated as a female. I realized it's okay to be a masculine woman. Women don't have to be feminine. You can sculpt your body with a breast reduction, a haircut, and clothes to look more masculine without medically transitioning. I think a lot of what is called gender dysphoria can actually be rooted in trauma, internalized homophobia, a desire to escape the male gaze, or conditions like OCD and depression.
I don't regret my personal journey of questioning because it led me to a place of understanding. I regret that so many young people are being led down a medical path without a full exploration of these other underlying issues. I benefited from understanding my own hormone imbalances through non-affirming therapy and medical care that looked for the root cause of my problems, not just a quick fix.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 18 | Developed large (E-cup) breasts and began experiencing harassment and assault from men. |
| Various adult ages | Researched the impacts of puberty blockers (GnRH agonists) and found consistent evidence of negative cognitive effects (working memory, IQ). |
| Various adult ages | Researched PCOS and managed my own hormonal imbalances, which improved symptoms like facial hair and hair loss. |
| Various adult ages | Studied long-term outcomes for youth with gender dysphoria, finding most desist without intervention and that blockers lead to near-universal medical transition. |
Top Comments by /u/ukhoneybee:
I was very unsettled by the whole thing. I have the feeling those people are more concerned with being seen to be at the forefront of an exciting new social/medical innovation wave than with the welfare of these kids. I lost a lot of respect for Dehjne watching that.
Transition might well have a low regret rate and be an appropriate treatment for GD: if carried out on adults who went through years of gate keeping psychiatric evaluation before they transitioned. That recording of the gender clinic dr saying 'regret is 2.2%' made me want to find him and punch him. That's the rate for people who did it with the years long psych evals and as adults.
One thing not being talked about much, if you don't socially transition or give puberty blockers, about 80% plus no longer have GD as adults.. Virtually everyone on puberty blockers goes onto medical transitions.
Its a great read, the study is near the back.
So.. leave them alone and most will be fine. Or treat and all of them will be on long term meds and surgically removing healthy tissue. Plus the boys will have penises so small they can't be used to construct new genitals.
Ah the paper Dhejne tried to back-pedal from. Its very clear that the transwomen retain a male pattern of criminal behaviour in this study, although she has tried to say otherwise later on its literally there in black and white.
Why anyone expects males with GD to offend differently to other men, IDK.
Tell your kid that it's fine for little boys to play with dolls or wear pink. He doesn't have to be a girl to be girly.
And yes you are totally correct, about 85% will desist if you don't gender affirm (social transition) them. If you put him on puberty blockers, the odds are 100% he will go the full medical transition route with hormones and surgery. Puberty blockers also have some seriously nasty side effects, they affect brain development negatively and your kid will probably have osteoporosis later in life because the PBs impair the increase in bone density e get in our teens.
From one paper I recall, one of the better indicators of persistence, which was still only 50/50, was that their chosen peer group is mainly female. So, are his chosen friends mainly female?
I've dug up literally every study in print about the puberty blockers (GnRH). They are also used for other reasons. Every single study has shown a major impact on working memory and IQ, even in adult female users. They were used in girls with growth disorders, women undergoing fertility treatment and trans youths.
If the studies were hemming and hawing with only some showing an impact on the brain I'd be on the fence as well, but literally all of them showed the same effect.
Maybe you could see if you could find a boy 'like him' so he doesn't feel so misplaced.
From reading I know that most children like your son grow up to be gay men, maybe he is feeling uncomfortable with his physical sex because he might be crushy on another boy (even vaguely n an innocent way). I get a lot of 'dysphoria from homosexuality' from detrans stories.
You're using an anti- trans website. I don't take studies from "I hate black people" to be valid either.
The fact it was hosted on a dodgy is irrelevant. Is the research paper itself sound? If it is, it is.
Elklund, P.L, Gooren, L.J., Bezemer, P.D.: (1988) Prevalence of Transsexualism in the Netherlands
A hop into the googlemobile shows that it is a properly published paper.
Of the list posted by /u/misxandry, you should read the study by Devita Singh. It's by far the largest and most thorough. Its also got a very informative section going into the factors involved in transkids.
https://tspace.library.utoronto.ca/bitstream/1807/34926/1/Singh_Devita_201211_PhD_Thesis.pdf
You can make female animals lesbian by giving extra testosterone at a certain point at the fetal stage. We know how to cause female homosexuality. This has been demonstrated in multiple mammals. It's not the grand mystery people think it is. It happens when the brains pre natal exposure to hormones is atypical, or genes affecting how it responds to hormones are atypical.
Because cis lesbians are never predatory?
Virtually never in situations like this. I spent years looking into sex offending (as a victim coping mechanism) and several things became very clear:
I've not found any incidents of a woman committing a stranger sexual assault solo, and I spent years looking. Not one in a place like the loos or changing rooms. The few stranger/forcible assaults women get involved with always have a male partner involved or have an economic motive (rare kidnaps for trafficking in some places).
Lets just say when I see a headline saying, 'Woman arrested for sexually assaulting girl in toilets' I know it will turn out to be a transwoman.
Women do sex offend, but the patterns are different. Very young kids when child minding (again, often with male partner) and teens of both sexes (stat rape) and some adult lesbian assaults involving people they are close to (partners etc). Maybe groping at someone when hammered or high (rare). Some prison assaults, although these are almost unknown in the UK prisons. Virtually all of the SAs in the UK prison system are committed by male staff and visitors.
Forcible stranger sex offences against women by women are almost non existent.
Add to that, the size of the average lesbian is the same as the average woman. Even if one decided to go for another adult woman the odds are 50/50 she'd come of worse. There's also zero chance the victim is going to get a penis rammed into her.
Personal experience: I've had about a dozen men sexually assault me when I was fully clothed in public (assorted groping, two incidents were very serious) and not one women has even commented on me despite the many hours I spent getting changed/half naked in loos and changing rooms. Literally the most sexual thing that happened was when a lady helped me straighten my suspenders once. The risk from other women isn't even on the same planet.
For a sense of scale as to the different levels of violence between the sexes: men kill men at 38X the rate women kill women.
And transwomen offend at the same rate and with the same patterns as other men for all crimes. Their neurology is basically male, and they have male offending patterns to match it. They have the same physical advantage of size and strength too.