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About me
I was born female and my own difficult journey with hormones began when I was prescribed birth control. The side effects were severe and showed me how disruptive even my body's natural hormones can be. Seeing these powerful drugs given to young people for transition alarms me, as I know the lasting damage they can cause. I worry that we are confusing personal expression with a need to medically change, and that healthy kids are being harmed. My heart breaks for those who weren't warned about these risks like I was.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this is a bit different because I never actually transitioned myself. I’ve watched from the sidelines, and a lot of what I’ve seen has come from my own experiences with the medical system and hormones.
I was born female, and my own problems started with birth control. I was prescribed estrogen-based pills, and even though they're made for female bodies, the side effects were brutal. I kept getting terrible yeast infections that nothing from the drugstore would fix. I finally found some supplements that worked for me, but it was a constant battle. Going on and off those pills showed me how powerful and disruptive hormones are. I got acne in weird places, my sweat changed, and I even developed osteoporosis after being on them for years. And that was from a low dose of the hormone my body is supposedly meant to have. It made me think deeply about what cross-sex hormones must do to a person, and it scared me.
Seeing what happened in the trans community, especially with young people, really worried me. I remember hearing about Lupron being given to kids to block puberty. I knew about that drug because doctors tried to put me on it for a medical condition. I refused after I found a petition signed by thousands of women who had been harmed by it—it can cause bone loss and make your hair and teeth fall out. The fact that it was being used on healthy kids felt like a huge medical scandal that nobody was talking about.
A lot of my comments were me talking to young men who seemed unhappy and thought becoming a woman was the answer. I saw a pattern where they seemed to focus a lot on the clothes and the image of being a girl. I always wondered if they knew that men can be feminine, too. I encouraged them to look at styles from other cultures, like South Korean men's fashion, where guys wear makeup and silky, colorful clothes without anyone questioning their masculinity. I suggested things like drag as a way to explore that feminine side without making permanent changes to your body. To me, it seemed like a lot of people were confusing not liking the rigid rules of being a man with actually being a woman. I’d ask them, “Why do you have to be a girl to enjoy feminine things?”
My thoughts on gender are that it’s become way too medicalized too quickly. We’re giving people powerful, life-altering drugs and surgeries without fully understanding the long-term consequences. From my own life, I know you can’t just experiment with hormones like you try on a new outfit. The effects linger and can cause serious health problems. I believe you can be any kind of man or woman you want to be without changing your body. You can be a feminine man or a masculine woman. That should be okay.
Because I never transitioned, I don't have personal regrets about detransitioning. But I have huge regrets about how our society and medical system are handling this. I regret that we’re not being more cautious. I regret that young people are being given irreversible treatments without being warned about the potential harms, like the bone density issues I experienced from much milder hormones. I feel like I managed to dodge a bullet by refusing Lupron for myself, and my heart breaks for the kids who didn't get that choice.
Here is a timeline of my relevant experiences:
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 20 | 2015 | First prescribed estrogen-based birth control for contraception. |
| 22 | 2017 | Developed recurrent yeast infections as a side effect; drugstore treatments were ineffective. |
| 24 | 2019 | Diagnosed with osteoporosis, believed to be a long-term side effect of birth control. |
| 24 | 2019 | Doctors suggested Lupron for a separate medical issue; I refused after researching its severe side effects. |
| 25 | 2020 | Found effective treatment for yeast infections using specific probiotics and boric acid suppositories. |
Top Comments by /u/umbralgarden:
I'm a cis female who has been on and off birth control many times which are still hormones made for my sex but even I recognize the results and side effects are drastic. Any girl coming off can tell you it takes a full year just for the side effects to go away and level out while weaning off. Like how I got pimples and acne literally on the top of my scalp under my hair for an entire year after stopping BC. Sweat constantly and profusely from my feet and hands. Got fucking osteoporosis after being on them for years. Then got vitamin deficiencies and anxiety from going back on. And those weren't even cross sex hormones! And they were the same hormones but much smaller doses than trans people take! That means all of y'all going through my rollercoaster in ten additional dimensions of torture. Oh lawd.
You can't just experiment with DRUGS like makeup.
Not to mention progesterone and there's at least 3 others I'm missing that fluctuate during a cycle. So many cis women experience blood clots, depression and suicidal ideation on estradiol birth control and it's usually a fraction of the dose trans people get so you have to wonder what it's doing to mental health.
I think you should ask yourself what it is that makes you hate men (aka yourself) and furthermore why do you have to be a girl or a woman to enjoy anything feminine? Men can be feminine too. You can still wear makeup, jewelry, have long hair, put on trendy clothes, cross dress or do drag without ruining your body.
Sorry, just a lurker but, holy shit they give you guys Lupron?!? Before/during puberty? That's a cancer drug, doses and tested on full grown men. It destroys your bones and it's irreversible lol. They always try to give it to women with my disease to induce menopause, I refused that drug because I found a petition to Congress to get it banned signed by thousands of women.... it makes their teeth or hair fall out... damn I could've warned y'all to stay far away from that
You're so young and seem most focused on the image and appearance of a girl esp the clothes. Have you ever thought about doing drag for fun? You don't even have to be able to sing. You can make an entire persona and dress up and not permanently change yourself or make any solid decisions.
I know that in western cultures it seems like only women are the ones who get to have long hair, wear makeup and accessories and interesting clothes but I strongly encourage you to look at South Korean fashion for men and Kpop idols which is always years ahead of ours. Their aesthetics for males are more feminine and exciting in terms of style and option. They wear makeup and jewelry and dye their hair funky colors and men get to wear soft comfy silky colorful girly fabrics. And absolutely no one calls them "gay" for it it's just not a thing in their culture.
Okay I have never transitioned but I have always had this problem when I take birth control: which is increased estrogen so yes that is basically causing this. The treatment from a doctor is usually a powerful anti fungal pill you can't take too often it's bad for your liver. Monistat and all those drugstore treatments were a joke and huge waste of money doing NOTHING and often made me bleed. However I kept fucking getting YI too frequently to take the one dose pill. I experimented a lot and found two supplements that knock them the fuck out: one is a boric acid suppository called Seroflora made for this purpose and the other is a specific probiotic called Yeast is a Beast you can find them on amazon. I think they renamed but it's a dark blue and pink bottle. (Just any probiotic won't work it has to have specific vaginal strains. If it's too expensive search any woman's vaginal probiotic.) when I feel THE ITCH a-comin' I take these for a few days and put the smack down on the yeast.