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The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and personal narrative. Key details about the user's medical history (5.5 years on T, double mastectomy 8 years ago, specific reversible/irreversible changes) and emotional journey (regret, current coping methods) are repeated and expanded upon over time, which is typical of a genuine personal account. The user's passion and criticism are consistent with the expected viewpoint of a detransitioner.
About me
I was a deeply depressed teenager when I latched onto transitioning as a solution, getting testosterone and surgery at 17. I now see my real issue was untreated mental illness, and those medical changes are mostly permanent. I regret my mastectomy every day and am saving for reconstruction. While I'm finally happy and mentally healthy now, I live with the heavy consequences. My experience has made me believe we desperately need more therapy and gatekeeping to protect other confused kids.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is something I’m still trying to understand. Looking back, I was in a really bad place mentally when I started. I was horrendously depressed and anxious, and I think I latched onto the idea of being trans as a way to fix how I felt. All of my friends at the time were trans or non-binary, and while they’ve been accepting of my detransition, I can’t really talk to them about my regrets or my views now. They found my Twitter and think my opinions are "concerning," so we just avoid the subject, which is hard.
I started my medical transition when I was 17, just one year before I was a legal adult. I was able to get on testosterone and get a double mastectomy without any therapy required, and I now believe that was the biggest mistake of my life. I was tremendously mentally ill, and instead of getting help for that, I was given hormones and surgery. My mental health only got worse from there. The worst times in my life were when I was on HRT and especially in the weeks after my top surgery.
I was on testosterone for five and a half years. The changes it caused were mostly permanent for me. I have permanent "bottom growth," a changed hairline, thick body hair, facial hair I have to manage, a permanently deeper voice, and an Adam's apple. The things that reversed when I stopped T after almost five years were fat distribution, muscle gain, my period came back, and my skin and hair got softer again.
I just passed the eight-year anniversary of my double mastectomy, and I regret it more and more each day. I had DDs beforehand and I desperately wish I could have them back. I’m saving up for reconstruction surgery. In the meantime, I’ve found a way to cope. I use a special padded bra made for women who have had mastectomies. It’s not the same, but it looks natural under clothes and has helped my confidence a lot while I wear it.
I’m now happy and feel free to be myself. I’m no longer depressed and anxious like I was. I have loads of regrets about the whole situation, but I’m in a much better place. I’m bisexual, and that’s something I’m comfortable with now. I do worry about my fertility. I’m not even sure if I want children, but the possibility that testosterone might have made me infertile is a heavy thought. It gives me hope to hear stories from other detrans women who were able to conceive.
When I think about gender now, I see myself as a woman who was deeply confused. I don't think my problem was ever really about gender; it was about untreated mental illness and a desperate search for an identity. I wholeheartedly believe that adults have the right to transition, but my experience has made me strongly believe that the current system is broken. I don’t think someone should be able to self-ID and immediately get hormones and surgeries. There needs to be long-lasting, non-affirming therapy put in place first to make sure a proper diagnosis of gender dysphoria is reached and to rule out other issues. I was one of those people who claimed to be trans because of other problems, and it cost me a lot. I think we need more gatekeeping and therapy, not less, to prevent people from making the same irreversible mistakes I did.
Age | Event |
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17 | Started testosterone and had a double mastectomy. |
22 | Stopped taking testosterone after 5.5 years. |
26 | Realised I was detransitioning. |
26 | Marked 8 years since my top surgery, living as a detransitioned woman. |
Top Comments by /u/un__woke:
irreversible for me: “bottom growth,” hairline, body hair thickness and growth, facial hair growth, voice, adam’s apple growth reversible for me: fat redistribution, muscle gain, period coming back, softness of hair/face/skin
i was on T for 5.5 years and have been off of it for almost five years now, despite only realising i was detrans within the last year and a half
same here. all of my friends are trans, non-binary, or otherwise not straight. i myself am bisexual and my friends have all accepted my detransition, but i can’t speak up about how i feel with what’s going on in the world. a couple of them found my twitter and find my views to be “concerning.” so, we just don’t talk about it. which sucks.
feel this!! i was tremendously mentally ill when i started my transition and it only got worse from there. the worst times in my life mentally were when i was on hrt and the weeks after my double mastectomy. now i’m happy and feel free to be myself. sure, i have loads of regrets regarding the entire situation, but i’m no longer horrendously depressed and anxious like i once was.
i personally defend an adult’s right to transition, but it’s a hard no for minors. even for adults, i really believe that intensive therapy needs to be put in place beforehand in order to make a proper diagnosis. i transitioned one year shy of legal adulthood with no therapy required and it was the biggest mistake of my life. that being said, i think medical transition can help some individuals. it’s a conversation that requires a lot of nuance, i think.
i just passed the eight year anniversary of my double mastectomy and i regret it more and more each day, so i understand. i had DDs beforehand and wish i could have them back. i’m looking into reconstruction, but in the mean time i’ve found that padded bras can help with the illusion of having breasts. i bought a bra specifically for post-op double mastectomy women and though i have to take it off at the end of the day, it’s really helped me to feel more confident in my appearance while i’m wearing it. i was lucky enough to find it at a local bra shop, but they’re also available online. wishing you all the best.
congrats!! this post gives me some hope. i mean, im still not sure if i want to have a child, but i was really worried that being on testosterone had completely nullified my ability to. maybe it did, i don’t know, but it’s good to hear that you were still able to conceive. wishing you luck!!
there are padded bras and then there are padded bras made specifically for post-op women, and that’s what i have. yeah, it’s obvious if you wear a super low cut shirt or have someone try to grab at them, but they look pretty natural otherwise. it’s made me feel a lot better while i try to save up for reconstruction.
i wholeheartedly believe that adults have the right to transition, i’m just not a fan of how the things leading up to it have changed. i don’t believe someone can just self ID as trans and be given hormones and surgeries, as many of us have experienced. i think there needs to be long-lasting, non-affirmative therapy put in place BEFORE any medical transition begins to ensure a proper diagnosis of gender dysphoria is reached. i have no problem with actual trans people, just the people claiming to be trans due to other issues because i was one of them. not to mention that a lot of the trans/queer activists and woke ideologues have set back the acceptance of LGBT people as a whole. we need more therapy and gatekeeping for medical transition, and the voices of based trans people need to be uplifted over those of activists. that’s just how i see it, though.