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The user demonstrates a consistent, nuanced, and emotionally charged perspective that aligns with a genuine detransitioner or desister. Their arguments are complex, reactive to other users, and rooted in common community experiences (e.g., internalized homophobia, butch identity, the goal of finding self-acceptance). The tone is defensive and passionate, which is expected given the sensitive nature of the topic.
About me
I was a tomboy from the start and felt completely out of place when I hit puberty and developed a woman's body. I found answers online and socially transitioned to male, thinking it was the only way to be a masculine person. I eventually realized I wasn't a man, just a woman who didn't fit the feminine stereotype. I learned that changing my outside didn't fix my inside struggles with self-acceptance. Now, I'm at peace living as a butch woman, understanding that my body doesn't define my personality.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was really about trying to find a place where I felt comfortable in my own skin. I was born female and from a young age, I was always a tomboy. I never really connected with the super feminine things that other girls seemed to like. I just wanted to wear comfortable clothes and be myself.
When I got older and hit puberty, I started to feel really uncomfortable. I hated the changes happening to my body, especially developing breasts. It felt like my body was betraying me and turning into something that wasn't me. I felt a lot of pressure to be a certain way, to act and look like a "proper" girl, and it just made me miserable. I think a lot of my discomfort was just a normal part of growing up and not liking the body I was in, but at the time, it felt much deeper than that.
I found communities online where people talked about these feelings and called it gender dysphoria. It seemed like an answer. They said that if you felt like a boy trapped in a girl's body, you could transition and finally be happy. It made sense to me at the time because I already presented in a masculine way. I thought, "Maybe that's my problem. Maybe I'm not a girl at all." So, I socially transitioned. I asked people to use a different name and pronouns.
Looking back, I don't think I was ever truly a man. I think I was just a masculine woman who felt out of place and was looking for an escape from that discomfort. The idea of transition offered a clear path to a different life, and I took it. I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by the idea that if you don't fit a feminine stereotype, you must not be a woman.
I eventually realized that changing my outside didn't fix the problems I had on the inside. My low self-esteem and anxiety were still there. The real turning point for me was realizing that being a woman isn't about how you dress or act. It's okay to be a woman and be masculine. I found a lot of peace in finally accepting that my body is just my body. It doesn't define who I am inside. My clothing and how I present don't determine what I am.
I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to where I am now, which is a place of much greater self-acceptance. I don't regret transitioning socially because it was a necessary step for me to learn that it wasn't the solution. I now identify as a butch woman. If someone mistakes me for a man, I just correct them and move on. It’s really not a big deal to me anymore. I’ve found a lot of happiness in rejecting the idea that I have to perform femininity to be a valid woman.
I didn't take hormones or have any surgeries. My journey was entirely social, and for that, I am incredibly grateful. I avoided any serious health complications or infertility. My detransition was simply about changing my social identity back to female and making peace with myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Always a tomboy, preferred masculine clothing and activities. |
| 12-13 | Hit puberty. Started feeling intense discomfort with my body, especially breast development. |
| 19 | Discovered online trans communities. Began to believe my discomfort was gender dysphoria. |
| 20 | Socially transitioned. Started using a male name and he/him pronouns. |
| 24 | Began to question my transition. Realized my issues were with social expectations, not my sex. |
| 25 | Stopped identifying as transgender. Detransitioned socially and reclaimed my identity as a woman. |
| Present (26) | Living comfortably as a masculine (butch) woman. Focused on self-acceptance and inner peace. |
Top Comments by /u/uncoolghoul:
you’re getting downvoted because this person isn’t asking for opinions on their body or their personal way of dealing with their detransition. i’m assuming you’re straight bc it’s really not a hard concept to understand; butch women tend to present masc…hence why they identity as butch lol. a lot of masculine women transition due to the mindset that people like you have. being masculine doesn’t make a woman a man and it’s hurtful to imply that it does.
girl you are in the wrong sub if you don’t believe in women rejecting femininity. i personally grew up as a tomboy and honestly don’t really care whether im perceived as masculine or feminine because my clothing and how i present doesn’t determine what i am. i believe that’s the true “goal” of detransitioning; finding inner peace within yourself and accepting your body the way it is.
you’re acting as if you’re asking these questions in good faith and not just punching down on gnc women. when you’re done being a reactionary there are numerous women who are responding to you and explaining their viewpoint if you bothered to read those. i see you’re 21 and at that age you still feel like you have something to prove to people, i guarantee that when you reach 25+ you won’t give a single fuck how people perceive you.
so?..from what i can tell this person has only recently stopped hormones and everyone’s body adjusts differently after stopping cross-sex hormones. also not every woman prefers presenting as feminine, op literally identifies as butch woman. like i said it sounds like you need to examine why a woman presenting as masculine bothers you so much
piggybacking onto this to say not only does your argument reek of arrogance but insecurity as well. not to mention your thinly veiled homophobia. we get it! you’re a woman who presents feminine and enjoys doing so, notice how no one who has responded to you has a issue with that. when i’m “misgendered” i correct that person and go on about my day. it’s really not this agonizing, miserable life that you’re making being gnc out to be.
you’re the only person who commented negatively on her post. if you’re genuinely curious about the way someone expresses themselves maybe just ask instead of going straight to insulting the person. this is a sub full of women who don’t “pass” as female due to taking hormones, having surgery, or because they just happen to present in a masculine manner. being a woman isn’t contingent on appearance and the sooner you realize that the more happier you’ll be.