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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user's arguments are complex, emotionally charged, and show a clear, consistent ideological stance developed over many months. The comments display a deep personal investment in the topic, a coherent (if controversial) worldview, and a clear writing style that engages in real-time debate, all of which are strong indicators of a genuine human user. The passion and anger expressed are consistent with the experiences of some detransitioners and desisters.
About me
I'm a woman who started detransitioning after several years of living as a man. My journey began with a deep discomfort during female puberty, which I later understood was rooted in mental health struggles and body dysmorphia. I thought testosterone was the answer, but it was just an escape that left me infertile. Real healing came from therapy that helped me accept myself as female and address my underlying trauma. I'm now learning to live confidently as the woman I am, without any medical interventions.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young. I never felt like I fit in with other girls, and I was deeply uncomfortable with the changes that came with female puberty. I hated developing breasts and felt a strong disconnect from my body. I now believe this was a mix of body dysmorphia and the general discomfort that comes with growing up; nobody really enjoys puberty.
I was also struggling with serious mental health issues. I had depression, anxiety, and very low self-esteem. Looking back, I think a lot of my desire to transition was a form of escapism. I thought that if I could just become someone else—a man—then all my problems would disappear. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online, in communities that promised a quick fix for deep-seated pain.
I socially transitioned first, asking people to use a different name and pronouns. It felt good at first, like I was finally taking control. But that feeling was temporary. Eventually, I took testosterone. I told myself it was making me happy, but I’ve come to see it differently now. I think I was emotionally unstable and became dependent on it, like an addiction, to escape my reality. I was trying to solve a mental health problem with a physical solution.
I started to realize that the idea that you can change your sex is a lie. We don’t have the technology for that. Surgeries and hormones just create a medical imitation and come with serious health complications. I began to see the parallels to other medical scandals in history, like lobotomies. People were promised a cure for their mental illness, but it ultimately destroyed their lives, and anyone who spoke out against it was silenced. I see the same thing happening now with transition medicine.
My thoughts on gender are that it is fundamentally rooted in biological sex. A woman is an adult human female. Men and women are different, and that’s okay. Our differences don’t make one superior to the other. I think the transgender movement relies on sexist stereotypes; without the idea that certain clothes or behaviors are for men or women, there would be nothing to "transition" to. I believe I was trying to escape the difficulties of being a woman, and specifically, a woman who didn't fit a stereotypical mold.
I do have regrets. I regret that I didn't address my underlying mental health issues first. I regret that I believed changing my body was the answer. I benefited greatly from therapy that was not gender-affirming—therapy that encouraged me to accept myself as a female and work through my trauma and self-esteem issues. Real healing for me came from stopping hormones, focusing on my health through exercise and diet, and learning to stop caring so much about what other people thought. I had to find confidence in myself as a woman.
I am now infertile because of the hormones I took, and that is a permanent consequence I have to live with. I hope my story can help others who are struggling to see that there are other ways to find peace than through medicalization.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. |
| 17 | Began socially transitioning, using a new name and male pronouns. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone after realizing it was a harmful escape from my problems. |
| 23 | Began non-affirming therapy to address root causes of my distress. |
| 24 | Accepted myself as a female and started to live without medical interventions. |
Top Comments by /u/urbangamermod:
It's simple. You stop caring about what other people think. For me at least, I moved on accepting that people won't like me and some people do like me. Just be the best and healthy version of yourself (without hormones of course). Exercising, dieting, meditating etc.
No offense you act like a typical woman. You are emotional. Your not being “stoic” for showing less emotions externally. You are pretty much still being emotional internally. Men would always say the same thing, that they are superior because they express less emotions but in conversations nobody is purely “logical.” Logic can’t be formed without emotions. People take in the same information and come with different opinions. Opinions comes from our feelings. Just because women are raised differently don’t make us inferior or superior. We are different. Women and men process emotions differently or the same, but you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it. It’s part of the human condition. How people tolerate it based on what they view is acceptable or not is still coming from their feelings anyway.
This is why I’m always disturbed when people like your mother is acting out in “love” by brainwashing you with gender ideology but people who are critical about it are viewed as villains. I’m sorry this has happened to you. I always speak up about this but my voice gets drained out as being “hate speech.” I don’t understand why life problems have to be fixed by drugs and surgeries, why can’t we accept people as they are? Life is boring and predictable, being different means you are more interesting than a typical man but your mother didn’t see you as an individual and didn’t want you to be a gender non conforming man.
I know you are probably feeling anger and resentment on what has transpired you as a minor. You were just a kid trying to make sense of a complex issue, but was guided into a very medicalized path. I’m not a lawyer, but you could pursue legal charges for child abuse to people who did this to you. Or, you can find the strength to let it go and move on with your life. I also grew up with parents who didn’t work out their past trauma and so they became emotionally abusive as adults. As a result, I suffer with mental health problems because of their abusive parenting. I live independently now and I’m trying to recover from my complex trauma. There is always light at the end of the tunnel if you search for it.
You can’t change the past. Your mom may never apologize to you or change as a person fundamentally. But there’s only the present and the future to work on.
Nope. You can’t because you are male and as I linked you articles before your male XY chromosomes will reject female organs. I mean, you can try it yourself but it’s very experimental and even doctors know the fatality is high. You would just be a Guinea pig for some fetish surgery that no man has survived on.
I did because a woman is an adult human female and not a genetic mutation.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Woman
Yes it is because subjectiveness means anyone is a woman. Your cat is a woman. Your plant is a woman and you can’t disapprove this lol. It becomes a circus where woman is treated like fiction.
Because you are treating women like an accessory and a fashion statement so I asked what is a woman if her female existence doesn’t make her one? It’s a reasonable question you can’t seem to answer. I wonder why, says the man who views women poorly and fantasize about them.
Then you associate your femininity as being a “woman” instead of a man. If you think you are a woman then you have autogynephilia. How am I the misogynist? I know what a woman is but you don’t lol.
Prove me wrong by defining a woman. That’s all it takes bro.
It’s all the same though. You depend on a substance to promote your livelihood, but you can’t prove it’s beneficial for your health besides subjective feelings. When there are large data to support that women need more estrogen in their bodies to increase their longevity. That’s how women outlive men by almost a decade. Suppressing estrogen and increasing testosterone is only shortening your lifespan. No matter how “happy” you feel. Just like how obese people feel happy eating junk food. Or a drug addict feel happy taking drugs. It’s still damaging to the body and far from the truth that they are truly “happy.”
I’m just curious, but it seems like they are all the same in the end. Emotionally unstable people need to depend on an addiction to escape their reality. Instead of realizing that suffering is part of life. Either way, whatever I say, you won’t listen. I’ve met people similar to you and they get absorbed by their emotions. But they fail to see the bigger picture of their problems and they don’t know how to overcome them in healthy ways.
Geez I never seen a man being so persistent and trying to gaslight the conversation to avoid asking the question and now you are talking about connecting a woman with sexuality and its garbage. Your a man with a fetish, and you don’t care about women and you certainty can’t define a woman either.
I don’t identify as a man, but I know what a man means.
No my experience as a woman is felt by every female out there. Women are suppose to experience female puberty and it’s universal experience generally. A male doesn’t experience this because he’s a man, he will go through male puberty.
So if a woman female existence don’t make her a woman, then what is a woman? I’m asking you bro.