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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. The user consistently self-identifies as "not trans or detrans" and offers supportive, nuanced advice focused on OCD and cautioning against medical intervention. Their language is empathetic, context-aware, and shows no bot-like patterns. There are no serious red flags suggesting this is a bot or a bad-faith actor. Their perspective is consistent with a genuine, concerned observer.
About me
My gender confusion started in my late teens, tied directly to my struggles with OCD. I identified as non-binary for a while but saw how many people were hurt by medical interventions. I realized the gender theory I followed was just a theory causing me more distress, not peace. I finally understood my fixation was from OCD, not a true identity, and I stopped engaging with those thoughts. Now, I've found peace by accepting my female body and focusing on my mental health instead.
My detransition story
My journey with gender was complicated, and looking back, I think a lot of it was tied up with my mental health. I have OCD, and for a long time, that played a huge role in how I saw myself. I remember seeing people online who were worried about being trans, and it was clear to me that their fear was the OCD talking. Worries about being LGBT can be a really common fixation for people with OCD. I saw how one little comment of doubt could send someone into a spiral, and I understood that because I’ve been there. The need for certainty is so strong, but with OCD, you never really find it by engaging with the thoughts.
I didn’t personally have a long medical transition, but I did socially identify as non-binary for a period. During that time, I saw a lot of people who were deeply unhappy after taking hormones or having surgeries. I remember advising one person who had only been off testosterone for a few months to just wait. The feeling of wanting to escape your body is so powerful, but I believed that if they could sit with that discomfort for a while, things might change. I’d read accounts from other women where it took a long time for their bodies to settle after stopping hormones, and I hoped that a less invasive solution might appear if they just gave it time.
My own perspective on gender changed a lot. I started to see that the gender theory I had followed was just that—a theory. It wasn't a solid, biological fact. For me, and for a lot of people I saw struggling, it just wasn't working. I realized that if a belief system is causing you more distress than peace, it's okay to look for other perspectives. The majority of people in the world see being born female as meaning you are a woman, and they aren't all holding some radical political belief; it's just a simple, straightforward way of seeing things. Listening to that simplicity helped me.
I came to believe that no one can tell you what your gender is except for you. And if you don’t want to be trans, then you don’t have to be. It really can be that simple. For me, accepting that my confusion was rooted in OCD, and not in some deeper identity, was the key. I had to fully accept that it was the OCD and refuse to engage with the "what if" questions. Once I did that, the thoughts lost a lot of their power.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to a better understanding of my own mind. But I am glad that I didn't pursue any permanent medical changes. I think my regret would have been immense if I had. My main takeaway is that it's so important to address underlying issues like OCD, anxiety, and depression before making any big decisions about your body. The body you have is valuable and worth living in, even when it feels uncomfortable. It can take time, but you can find a way to be at peace.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I've shared:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Struggled with OCD, which included fixations on gender and sexuality. |
| Early 20s | Socially identified as non-binary for a period of time. |
| Early 20s | Realized my gender confusion was linked to OCD and stopped identifying as non-binary. Began to focus on managing my OCD instead. |
| Early 20s | Came to the conclusion that gender theory was not helpful for me and found peace in a simpler understanding of my sexed body. |
Top Comments by /u/vanilla-candle:
(disclaimer: not trans or detrans here) Hi there, I'm so sorry to see you're struggling like this. Please hang in there and talk to some of the lovely people on here. You may find someone with a similar experience who can help you work through this. They certainly exist on the internet; it might just take a little work to find them. Please know your life is valuable and worth living even if you feel you've made a mistake, even if you're not happy with your body. It may take time, but you can get through this. <3
I'm so sorry, this must be very difficult to process. Would you consider reaching out to a therapist who isn't pushy about trans issues to try to work through this? It might take a little time to find the right one, but detrans people on this sub may be able to help you figure out what to look for.
I'm not the person you responded to, but there are lots and lots of people in the world who think that being born female = being a girl. The majority of them probably don't even know what GC means and don't hold radfem beliefs (edit: or racist beliefs like the person you responded to...). The reason I mention that is because it sounds like what you're doing right now isn't working for you, so it might not hurt to listen to those people and see if there's something to what they're telling you. Gender theory surrounding trans issues is just... theory. If it's not working for you, there could be other perspectives that could benefit you instead.
Yes the OCD in the OP is a risk sign, but being afraid of being trans and seeking help here instead of the trans sub strongly mitigate the risk it was caused by social contagion
If due to bad luck, you are ideed sick as you fear, there are treatment options
Speaking as someone with OCD, I wish this kind of comment wasn't on a thread like this. This kind of thing can cause someone with OCD to spiral. The OP seems to have found the responses to this thread helpful, but one little thing that makes someone doubt can start the whole process over again, and based on their post, OP doesn't even sound trans at all. There's no reason to tell a woman who says she doesn't want a male body and doesn't want to be trans to see a therapist for anything but OCD.
It's very likely the OP is wondering if they're trans specifically because of their OCD, not because of social contagion or some biological reality or anything else. Worries about being LGBT are very, very common OCD fixations.
I am not detrans so I'll mostly stay out of this, but I just wanted to suggest waiting a while before you make a decision about how to handle this. You said you've only been off T since February, and it's possible things will change some and you'll be able to be a bit more comfortable. I could be wrong, but I think I've read accounts from female detransitioners on here where it took quite a while to see the full effects of being off T (someone please correct me if I'm misinformed!). I know the feeling of desperately wanting to escape your body, and it's awful, but if you can sit out that discomfort for a while, you might find there's a less invasive solution. The way you feel right now won't necessarily be the way you'll feel down the road, as difficult as that can be to believe. Best of luck and I really hope things work out for you. <3
Hi OP, I'm not trans or detrans, but I've had OCD for a long time. I skimmed your previous post about this, and I have to say I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you don't want to be a man, and you don't want to be trans, you don't have to be. We don't know of any solid biological explanation for what "trans" even is, and in fact we don't even know if there is one. That means that how you felt in the past isn't diagnostic. That also means that no one can say whether you're trans except you, and if you don't want to be, you're not. It's as simple as that.
This is probably not going to go away until you fully accept that it's OCD and refuse to consider any other possibilities. I think you'll find it will eventually become much more manageable once you do that.