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About me
I was born female, and my desire to transition came from a place of internalized homophobia, as I'm a lesbian who was afraid of discrimination. I convinced myself that being masculine and attracted to women meant I was a man, and my sudden dysphoria was really just trauma and shame about my body. I started testosterone at 17 through a clinic that didn't ask any deep questions, and while I don't fully regret it, I wish I had waited to work through my real issues first. After being on hormones, I realized it wasn't right for me and lost friends when I decided to detransition. Now, I'm rediscovering what it means to be a woman and finding happiness in accepting myself as the lesbian woman I truly am.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and, looking back, rooted in things I didn't understand at the time. I was born female, and for me, a huge part of my desire to transition came from a place of internalized homophobia. I'm a lesbian, and I had faced a lot of homophobia in the past. I didn't want to be seen as a lesbian woman. Because I was masculine and attracted to women, I convinced myself that must mean I was actually a man. It felt like an escape from the discrimination I was afraid of.
My dysphoria wasn't something I had my whole life; it came on pretty rapidly. I realize now that what I called dysphoria was actually a mix of past trauma and shame about my sexuality. I hated the idea of being a lesbian so much that I started to hate my body, especially my breasts, because they marked me as female. I thought if I changed my body, I could escape those feelings.
I started hormones through an informed consent clinic when I was 17. It was way too easy. The doctors didn't ask me any deep questions. They didn't explore why my dysphoria started so suddenly or talk to me about my trauma or internalized homophobia. It was just, "you want hormones? here they are." I don't necessarily regret taking testosterone, but I really wish I had waited. I wish I had taken the time to work on myself and unpack the real reasons behind my discomfort before making such a big change. I advise anyone younger to wait and really explore those underlying issues first.
After being on testosterone for a while, I started to realize it wasn't right for me. Coming to that conclusion was hard. I lost a lot of friends I had made in the trans community. It felt like they hated me for changing my mind, and that made me feel a lot of shame about detransitioning, even though I know I shouldn't feel that way.
Now, as a detransitioned woman, I'm rediscovering what it means to be female. It's a process. I find comfort in my biological reality. There's no one right way to be a woman. For me, something as simple as using flowery, feminine-smelling shower gel and enjoying the sensation of the water on my skin makes me feel happy and connected to my womanhood. It’s about accepting myself as I am, a lesbian woman, and realizing that was what I was running from all along.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 17 | Started testosterone through an informed consent model. I now wish I had waited and explored underlying issues like trauma and internalized homophobia. |
| (Age not specified) | Realized my "dysphoria" was rooted in trauma and shame about being a lesbian. Began the process of detransition. |
| Present | Living as a detransitioned woman, working on accepting myself and reconnecting with my female identity. |
Top Comments by /u/venuscritical:
It's really sad. I don't hate trans people, but it sure does seem like a ton of them hate my guts for even daring to realize this was all not for me, and I'm losing a lot of friends due to my detransition. It makes me feel shame for detransitioning, even though I shouldn't feel shame at all
The usual "oh yes, you are trans" automatically without discussing my further issues, and how my dysphoria was rapid and onset rather than something I struggled with my entire life, or, perhaps, how I was ashamed of being a lesbian. None of that was touched. It was like "you want hormones? here they are" type of thing
As much as I'd hate to say it (and I'm 100% sure if I was in your shoes, hate to hear it) but. Wait till you are older for hormones. I'm not saying completely stop identifying as trans or anything but hormones are a BIG step in someone's life and transition. Starting hormones at 17 or 18 is a really bad idea and while I, myself don't regret going on them, I do wish I would have waited, tried to unpack my "dysphoria" in a way where I don't just lump it into one word, but instead tried to unpack it in a way that dealt with the underlying issues behind it (in my case...past trauma, internalized lesbophobia, etc)
I'm not telling you "Hey, don't transition" at all. I'm saying please wait to jump into hormones, and work on yourself and your underlying issues, and maybe even wait till you are older to get into them.
Good luck with whatever you chose though
Thank you for the reassurance! I really wish I was told the same thing. There has been a lot of trans people I once considered my friends who have just thrown me to the side and its reassuring to know there are good people out there that see detrans people in a good light and consider us ok.
Amen. Its always good to question what you are told, and to form your own opinion based on that. Thank you for interacting with this post, its always good to have a trans person on here as an ally and it means a lot not only to me, but other detrans people reading the post and comments. Hats off to you.
You are so well spoken, I'm really glad you are looking for advise, it shows how open minded you are and that's very rare for people your age.
I'm also glad you are doing HRT in a way that isn't informed consent, because that was what I did, and I'd hate to see someone make the same mistake I did and rush into things. I respect you and your gender dysphoria. And I want you to know that at any time during this, if something doesn't feel right, listen to your gut and tell an adult (that's most likely supervising your HRT).
I can't speak for others, but for me, in hindsight, my transition seemed to be heavily based in wanting to escape my own lesbianism. I didn't want to be seen as a lesbian woman because of all the homophobia I've faced in the past, so I thought; "Since I'm masculine, like women, etc, that must mean I'm a man, right?" and I think a big part of why I was so offended was because I was trying to escape that, and it made me feel like I had made no progress in my transition at all.
Again, this was my personal experience, I'm not speaking for all ftms/detrans women.
Listen, I and others can't gauge on how bad your dysphoria is, or whether or not you will regret it, and it's not my place to say you should or shouldn't transition.
However, if I were to give you advice, it'd be to look deeper into your dysphoria, and start seeing if there's actually underlying issues there. Like for me, trauma and shame in my own lesbian identity was the root of what I thought was dysphoria.
Hope this helps.
This might sound reeeallly odd/stereotypical, and if you don't like this this is 100% ok and doesn't diminish your womanhood AT ALL. I really like "feminine" smells. Like, I love going into the shower and using flowery body wash, shampoo, etc and just feeling the water on my skin and taking every sense all in. It makes me feel really happy and womanly. This is just me though, and I know all women are different when it comes to this. Also, there is no "right" way to be a woman. As long as you were born a woman, you are biologically female, and theres something about that biological reality that is very comforting to me as a detrans woman. Anyways, if this helps you, I'm glad. I wish you well in your detransition, as I have trouble getting in touch with my womanhood sometimes too.