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About me
I was born female and transitioned because I felt completely suffocated by the narrow expectations for women. I thought becoming a man was my only escape from that trapped feeling. Finding a supportive feminist community showed me I could reject those roles without changing my body. I stopped testosterone when I realized my pain came from social pressure, not from being female. Now, I accept my body and the permanent changes as part of my story, and I feel healthier and more whole than ever.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was really about trying to find a place where I felt I belonged. Looking back, I see now that a lot of my pain came from the pressure of gender roles and not from my actual body. I was born female, and as a kid, I was always trying to prove that girls could do anything boys could do. I hated the idea that I was expected to grow up, marry a man, and become a wife and mother. People would laugh at me or get aggressive when I said these things, which made me feel completely trapped.
When I hit my teens, the discomfort got worse. I felt a huge amount of pressure to fit into a specific female role, and trying to fit in just hurt me more. I think a lot of this was connected to being autistic; I really suffered under the social rules that were imposed on me. I started to hate my body because I connected it with this future I didn't want. I hated the thought of becoming a woman in the way society expected. This was also tied up with being a lesbian and feeling stigmatized for that. I think there was some internalised homophobia there, where the idea of being a lesbian woman felt like an even more confined box.
So, I transitioned. I think I was looking for a way out, an escape from that trapped feeling. For a while, taking testosterone and living as a man felt like fake freedom. It was a way to reject the female role I felt so suffocated by. But it wasn't really about my body; it was about the social meaning attached to it.
What changed everything for me was finding a community, a very feminist bubble, where I saw that being a woman could mean something completely different. In this space, no one looked down on me for how I dressed or what I wanted to do with my life. I could experiment with pronouns and my expression without judgment. Slowly, I realized that the problem wasn't my female body, but the patriarchal system I was living in. I needed acceptance, not a different body. I detransitioned on my own when I felt that acceptance was possible and when I felt my own agency as an adult.
Coming off testosterone was a positive change; I felt more energetic. Some changes from T were permanent, like my voice being deeper and some body hair. The hair on my chin was bothersome, so I lasered it off, but the rest I just live with. My body is female no matter what people assume, and the ways it diverges from the female prototype are just part of my life story now. I never wanted to be a shining example of femaleness, so it doesn't bother me.
I don't regret my transition because it was a necessary part of my journey to understanding myself. It helped me see the difference between social discomfort and true body dysphoria. I needed to go through it to finally heal the scars of growing up in a patriarchal society. Now, I feel healthier and more whole than I ever have. My thoughts on gender are that it's largely about the roles and expectations society forces on us, and for many people, like me, the pain comes from there and not from our innate selves.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my memories:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens | Felt intense discomfort with puberty and the female role I was expected to grow into. Felt trapped and started hating my body. |
| Mid-Teens (approx. 15-16) | Began social transition and started taking testosterone. |
| Early 20s | Found a supportive, feminist community. Began to understand my distress was linked to social pressure, not my sex. |
| Early 20s | Stopped taking testosterone and began living again as a female. |
| Present Day (approx. mid-20s) | Living detransitioned. Feel healthy and whole, accepting my female body as part of my story. |
Top Comments by /u/vibratingwebs:
I'm so happy for you! I remember also feeling more energetic after coming off T. And: I don't know how to say this without it coming off weird but I just really like the way you present your body. I see so many oversexualised female bodies constantly that it's so refreshing to just see women and their bodies just existing.
Well, I don't check everyone's post history before replying. But truth be told, people around me "not being fans of feminism" was the reason I transitioned. In my honest opinion, the result of you giving your gnc cousin the choice between being a gender-conforming girl or getting fake freedom as a man is kinda predictable. Best of luck to her in any case. It's tough out there.
It got lighter but yeah, otherwise it stayed. If you have money, you can laser it. I'm still studying and don't have much hair (my friend with PCOS has more of it) so I only got rid of the ones on my chin. When you laser it, it's gone "forever" (can come back in case of another sudden hormonal change).
How old are you? You sound a lot like me when I was a teen (I'm autistic too). I really suffered, especially under the gender roles imposed on me and have transitioned - then detransitioned. But it had nothing to do with "embracing my birth gender", I started living in a very feminist bubble and could heal the scars of growing up in a patriarchal society. For me, I hated my body and my life because I hated the thought of becoming a woman that was expected to be a wife and mother, becoming a woman that will get mocked if she focuses on her career, in my case becoming a woman who is also a lesbian and stigmatised because of that. For me, finding a community where being a woman meant nothing of these had to be me helped me find freedom. No-one looked down at me when I experimented with pronouns and gender expression and when I arrived at where I am (detransitioned), I wasn't met with any moral judgement. I would recommend you to find people with whom you are not afraid to be yourself. Who don't look down on you when you do things you like and dress however you prefer. Try to make the gender roles around you as lax as you can. Then you can see if the dysphoria goes away or if body dysphoria lasts - or more simply, if you are feeling unwell because of social conventions or if you suffer from sex dysphoria that can't be changed. As for me, I honestly couldn't tell that it's gender and not body dysphoria - I connected it with my body too much. If you find out that you definitely cannot live with a female body, then there are possibilities for almost everyone - I know people who transitioned in their forties and fifties, there will be ways for you to where you want to be. All the best!
Hey, she sounds a bit similar to me. I guess my transition back in my teens seemed weird - I was very "conventionally" girly for the outsider. But inside, my pain reached a breaking point. I felt trapped in the female role I was apparently growing into and attempting to fit in failed and only hurt me more. What I needed back then was acceptance - and feminism. From the time I was very little I tried to convince people around me that girls could do all the stuff men do, that I really could be the same, that I didn't have to marry a man, but noone ever thought so, people laughed me out or even became aggressive. I think just telling her that girls can be anything won't cut it, you have to show her that you also see the patriarchal system behind it (in a teen-friendly way) and that it isn't in any way easy to be gnc. I detrasitioned on my own accord when I felt that acceptance was possible, no matter my sex and I felt my own agency as an adult.
You seem to be projecting and quite judgemental towards people without reflecting your own behaviour. I'm celebrating the anniversary of an important step in my trans journey today because I'm glad of how far I've come and want others on this journey to see this, not because I still feel hurt or unhealthy. I'm very thankful for the people in my life, medicinally or otherwise and while healing and growing is a process, I've never felt healthier and more whole.
I understand that you worry. And it's true that some stuff is irreversible. But most of it is not. People rarely assume I'm anything else than female and when they do, it doesn't feel bad or painful anymore. My body is female no matter what people assume. And the ways in which it diverts from the female prototype are part if my life story. I never wanted to be a shining example of femaleness, so it doesn't bother me.