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About me
I was born female and started identifying as a trans man as a teenager, leading me to take testosterone and have top surgery at 17. I realized it was a terrible mistake by the time I was 18 and began the heartbreaking process of detransitioning. I came to understand my desire to transition was rooted in internalized sexism and mental health struggles I wasn't equipped to handle. I recently had reconstructive surgery and have found peace by learning to love myself as a woman. While I don't regret the journey that brought me here, I deeply regret the permanent changes I made to my body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated. I was born female, and from a young age, I struggled with feeling like I was enough. I wanted to be seen as equal to men and I thought that meant I had to be one. I started identifying as genderfluid when I was 13, and that eventually turned into identifying as a trans man.
I started testosterone when I was 16 and had top surgery, a double mastectomy, when I was 17. My parents were supportive of me through all of it. But almost immediately after my surgery, I started to have doubts. I remember feeling nervous and anxious the day before the operation, and I wish now that I had seen that as a sign to slow down and really think.
By the time I was 18, I realized I had made a mistake and I began to detransition. I stopped testosterone cold turkey. It was a heartbreaking process. I went through a long period of mourning the loss of my breasts, especially the fact that I would never be able to breastfeed my future children. I struggled with my voice and my Adam's apple, feeling like they made me less of a woman. I also had to deal with the lasting effects of testosterone, like facial and body hair.
A big part of my journey was realizing that a lot of my desire to transition was rooted in internalized sexism. I thought that to be respected and to have value, I needed to be masculine. I also struggled with depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder for most of my teenage years, and I don't think I was in a stable enough place to make such permanent decisions. I benefited from therapy at different points, especially early on when one counselor told me my feelings might be about internalized sexism rather than gender. I disagreed with her then, but she was right.
About three years after my top surgery, I made the decision to get breast implants. I had the surgery about nine months ago, and it was a really positive step for me in feeling whole again. My boyfriend, who I started dating at the beginning of my detransition, has been incredibly supportive through everything. He always saw me as the woman I am.
Now, at 21, I finally feel like I'm loving myself for the first time. My mental health has improved immensely. I've beaten my eating disorder by learning to love my curves and my body as a woman. I've connected with my femininity and my menstrual cycle in a way that feels natural and powerful. I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I do regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I'm now infertile and have to live with that.
I believe that if I had waited until I was older, until I was 18 or even into my 20s, I never would have medically transitioned. I think your brain just isn't developed enough to fully understand the consequences when you're that young. I now identify simply as a woman. I don't really like labels like 'detrans' or 'cis'; I'm just me. I’m heterosexual and happy in my relationship.
My thoughts on gender are that it's a part of your life, but it doesn't have to define you. The most important thing is to be true to who you are, not who you think you should be. I found peace by accepting my body and fighting for my place in the world as a woman, instead of pretending to be something I wasn't.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | First thought I was genderfluid. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone (T). |
| 17 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 18 | Began detransitioning; stopped T. |
| 20 | Started laser hair removal on my face. |
| 21 | Had breast implant surgery. |
| 21 | Now, living as a detransitioned woman. |
Top Comments by /u/visionarty2:
18 should be the basis for all transgender individuals to have the freedom to transition. I thought i was the exception to waiting- believing I knew better since i identified as trans since 13, so why not transition medically at 16? I detransitioned at 18, realizing I wouldn’t have transitioned if I had waited.
Yes, you’re not alone. I medically transitioned at 16 with T and double incision at 17, and detransitioned at 18. my parents were loving and supporting my surgery and identity and still love and support me after dstransitioning. this is something you don’t hear enough in the lgbt community- You are allowed to change your mind . Really hear and repeat that to yourself, because if my mother didn’t tell me that when she noticed my struggling, I probably would have still continued T and surgery. You only have 1 body, 1 life, and 1 mind. You won’t be 100% physically or mentally who you were before transitioning but you’ll be a new person (that’s how i imagine myself, 0-15 my birth name, 15-18 my trans name, and 18-20 my current name) we all adapt, change, and discover ourselves at different times and stages in life. I support and hope you continue to delve deeper into your journey of possibly de transitioning. It’s a good one you won’t regret x
hey, firstly, your skin is so clear now and even when you were on T it’s amazing! Secondly, i understand the loss and mourning of your breasts. I had a long period last year where I mourned and cried over my top surgery and the fact of not being able to (when i do eventually) become a mother, i won’t be able to breastfeed. Our pain is understandable, and i honestly wish I could say something except time heals but it’s just that. Time had to happen to help me realize I want my breasts back (as much as I could), so I had gotten breast implants placed 9 months ago. The process of it was long, but so worth it. It’s not for everyone, but it helped me. Good luck x
i’ve felt like it had been pushed more and more, so the adults who are and have been trans are genuinely not the ones yelling/talking over others. Those people are usually the ones who try to, as you said, promote an idea of gender dysphoria being something that can only be solved medically. i think the only thing that really bothers me is the narrative in the community that it’s ok to start anything medical underage- your brain isn’t developed enough to truly understand what it is/needs in the moment. other factors like mental health, feminism, body image issues, sexual abuse, sexism, peer pressure or fear mongering and others can be a factor that doesn’t have to revolve around gender, but most people who question themselves nowadays will just assume it’s a gender issue. it’s so much deeper than what’s being discussed online, and when it’s questioned, that’s when people have issues 🤦🏽♀️
Unfortunately the feeling of not being feminine enough or “woman” enough can be rooted in self hatred or sexism. There is really no basis of gender dysphoria for “non binary”, and it wouldn’t fit the diagnosis of the GD medical condition. Get some positive female role models in your life, try to experiment with your femininity (doesn’t have to be “traditional” femininity) and try to love yourself as a naturally born woman. Being a woman is one of the best gifts i could’ve been given, and i identified as a trans male for 5 years.
Since I am under 26, I am under my mothers insurance which is a PPO, and luckily, they cover surgeries for detransitioned people. I would highly recommend more people looking into that when younger because yes- it’s more expensive but it saves a lot of money for unpredictable life events or choices.
i think honestly i never realized how content i was in my own body until i went off T, started eating like a normal person, stuck to a routine and started appreciating people more. i’m not sure if the mental health aspect was due to my choice to transition but without artificial hormones affecting my judgement and perception of others, i’m very happy and satisfied in life now. I’d say almost everyone recognizes me as a woman or at the least would double take at my voice. either way,i love my body and i haven’t felt this ever in my life!
i think it’s due to not wanting random people to dm me “what’s detrans” or “are you m or f” when i’m on a whole other subreddit. i know in the past i would post about something unrelated to detrans and still receive anon dms. it’s annoying and weird to say the least
last thing i’ll comment on: i’m literally giving an opinion on a public forum about my own perception of what this person is presenting as. you can think “butch female” but if they went into the woman’s restroom i would feel uncomfortable because of how masculine they present. i wouldn’t know they were detrans or trans male, that’s my own /personal/ perception. you do not have to agree.
I started dating my boyfriend of 2 years in the start of my detransition (female at birth), and he was patient and saw who i was inside. I had breast implants surgery about 9 months ago after 3 years of top surgery, and he stood by my side not in judgment, but care and understanding. He knows I’m a woman and have always been a woman. You will find someone <3