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About me
I started testosterone as a teenager after very brief meetings with professionals who didn't explore my deep-seated body issues and depression. For a while, living as a man felt like a solution, but I eventually realized I was just a confused woman who hated her body. When I detransitioned, some people cruelly blamed my decision on my boyfriend instead of accepting it was my own. I've been fully detransitioned for three years now, and while I still have really hard days, I'm working on finding peace. I deeply regret that no one helped me unpack my real issues before I medically transitioned.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and I’m still dealing with the fallout. It all started when I was a teenager. I was around 15 or 16 and I was really struggling. I hated my body, especially going through puberty and developing breasts. I had a lot of discomfort with my body and my weight, and I think I had pretty low self-esteem. I was also deeply depressed and anxious.
I found a lot of my community online, and I definitely feel like I was influenced by what I saw there. The idea of being transgender felt like an answer to all my problems. It felt like if I could just change my body, I could escape all those bad feelings. I got it into my head that I was a guy, and that was the only way I could be happy.
I wanted to start hormones, so I had to go through the process. They said I needed therapy to get an okay, which I did, but the therapist was also transgender. There wasn't really any deep mental analysis of why I felt the way I did. I also had to see a social worker, but she approved me after only 30 minutes of meeting me. I started testosterone that very same day. I know I take responsibility for it because I was a kid who knew what to say to get what I wanted. Of course I thought it was what I wanted, but I clearly had other issues with my body that nobody helped me unpack.
Being on T and living as a guy felt right for a while, I guess because it was a big change and it felt like I was doing something. But eventually, that feeling started to fade. I began to realize that I wasn't actually a man. I had just been a woman who was really confused and didn't like her body. I wanted to detransition before I even started dating my boyfriend; he was just my best friend at the time and the first person I told because I really trusted him.
When I told people I was detransitioning, the reaction was really hurtful. Some people, including a trans friend, blamed it on me trying to “change for my boyfriend.” They told our mutual friends and my roommate that I only detransitioned to date him. It was crazy that they couldn’t wrap their heads around the fact that I wasn't a guy in the first place. I’ve actually been a woman the whole time at heart. I hate when people assume we detransition to fit someone else’s idea of who we should be.
Other people have been even crueler. I’ll share my struggles and get told “well you got the consequences to your actions,” like I don’t know that. It doesn’t make the now any less distressful. I’ve been fully detransitioned for three years now, and I still have really bad days where I struggle a lot. Seeing others who are happy gives me hope that I will feel happy and secure in myself again.
Looking back, I think being transgender became a trend, and that’s so dangerous. I see people say they’re trans but don’t change anything, and it confuses me. It feels like this really big, life-altering thing has been turned into something trivial. I wouldn’t want anyone to have to go through detransition after medically transitioning, because it really sucks.
I do have regrets. I regret that I wasn’t evaluated more thoroughly by doctors before starting HRT as a minor. I regret that my other issues, like my problems with my body and my weight, weren't looked into more. I feel like I was just given a solution without anyone asking why I needed it in the first place.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15/16 | Started testosterone (HRT) after brief meetings with a therapist and social worker. |
| Around 21 | Realized I was not a man and decided to detransition. Told my best friend (now boyfriend) first. |
| 22 | Officially began detransitioning. Faced criticism and blame from friends who thought I was doing it for my boyfriend. |
| 25 Now | Have been detransitioned for 3 years. Still have difficult days but am working on feeling happy and secure as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/voreosa:
I can relate, I was around 15/16 when I started HRT. They said I needed therapy, which I did, to get an okay, however the therapist was also transgender so there wasn’t really any mental analysis. I had to also see a social worker, but again, she approved me 30 mins after meeting her and I started T that same day. I take responsibility, as I knew what to say to get what I wanted, but also, I was a kid. Of course I thought this is what I wanted, but I clearly had issues with my body and my weight. Idk, I feel as though I wasn’t evaluated enough, but also, I take responsibility for being really convincing.
I have been struggling a lot recently with my detransition, even though it’s been 3 years detransitioned I still have really bad days. Seeing this really gives me hope that I will feel happy and secure in myself again, congratulations on your baby and thank you for an amazing post!🥰
I’ve always found that so confusing. Like, why transition if you’re just going to not change… anything? It makes no sense to me. Like “I’m a man!” while flaunting your boobs. It just boggles my mind, I think that’s one of the reasons the trans community gets so much hate. I feel like this really big life altering thing, being transgender, has turned into a damn trend. Which can be soooooo dangerous. I wouldn’t want any person to have to detransition after medically transitioning, as it sucks. :((
Literally, I’ll share my struggles and get told “well you got the consequences to your actions”, like I don’t know that. I probably should’ve been evaluated more by drs before HRT as I was a minor, but still I know I’m the one who gave the “okay” for hormones. Doesn’t make the now any less distressful. Some people can be so ignorant, I’m sorry you’ve had to gone through some of that too, I’m glad you dropped that period who said you detransitioned to be with a lesbian. I hate when people assume we detransitioned to fit someone else’s idea of who we should be😭
Seriously! That’s been my experience to a T. I wanted to detransition BEFORE I even started dating my boyfriend, he was my best friend at the time and the first person I told because I really trusted him. After I shared that with others, they totally blamed it on me trying to “change for him”. One of the people who told people (mutual friends and roommate) that my I only detransitioned to date my current boyfriend was trans himself, idk if that had to do anything with it really, but I think because he was trans he didn’t understand why’d I detransition. It’s crazy that they can’t wrap their head around the fact that I wasn’t a guy in the first place, I had just gotten confused and didn’t like my body, and that I’ve actually been a woman the whole time at heart. Idk, shits CRAZY.