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The user expresses a consistent, passionate, and nuanced worldview that aligns with a desister perspective (someone who stopped identifying as trans without necessarily having medically transitioned). The comments show personal reflection, use of anecdotal evidence, and engagement with complex ideas about sex and gender in a way that is typical of a real person in this community. The anger and criticism towards medical transition and gender ideology are consistent with the genuine trauma and frustration found in the detrans/desister community.
About me
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my female body as a teenager, hating the changes of puberty. I now see that my low self-esteem and anxiety made me want to escape the pressures of being a woman. I realized my sex is a biological fact and that I can reject social stereotypes without changing my body. I'm grateful I never medically transitioned and instead worked through my feelings. Now I understand that I can just be myself, a female, without any labels.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was deeply uncomfortable with the changes happening to my body during puberty, especially with developing breasts. I hated them and felt a lot of shame around becoming a woman. The word "woman" itself sounded like a disease to me, and I would cringe when someone called me "ma'am" or "lady." I didn't feel like I fit into the expectations society had for my sex.
Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied to low self-esteem and anxiety. I also believe that for some people, this feeling can be a form of escapism, a way to run away from the difficulties and pressures that come with being female. I saw this happen with others, where a bad experience, maybe even something traumatic with a coach or a boy, could make a young girl want to escape being a woman entirely. I think the influence of online communities and friends can really push this feeling into thinking you're trans, almost like a mass social contagion where everyone is talking about it and it becomes the only solution presented.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I'm a fertile woman, and I'm grateful for that now. I know that for me, my period pain was so debilitating that I needed an IUD to manage it, but that was a medical necessity, not a rejection of my sex. I came to realize that my sex is a biological fact, based on my genitalia, and that "gender" is a social construct. It’s like the difference between race and culture. Your race is a biological classification, but your culture is learned and changeable. I decided that making a huge deal out of gender was ridiculous and unnecessary. I am just me; my sex has little to do with my brain or my personality.
I don't regret that I didn't transition medically. I've read too many horror stories about surgeries that lead to serious health complications and a dismal suicide rate. I benefited greatly from stepping back and thinking critically instead of just accepting the first solution offered to me. I now believe that the best thing for anyone, especially a young person feeling this way, is to get therapy from a professional who hasn't already made up their mind and is willing to explore all the reasons behind these feelings, including trauma or social influence.
My thoughts on gender are simple: it isn't real. It's a set of social rules and stereotypes that I think are stupid. You can live exactly how you want to live, wear what you want, and act how you want, without needing to change your body or identify out of your sex.
| Age | Date (if known) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 13-16 | - | Experienced intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. Felt shame around being called a "woman." |
| Various | - | Held the belief that my sex was separate from my brain and personality. Rejected the concept of gender as a social construct. |
| Adult | - | Managed debilitating menstrual pain with an IUD, affirming this as a medical need, not a rejection of my female sex. |
| - | - | Concluded that I did not need to transition and could live as a female without conforming to social gender norms. |
Top Comments by /u/waffleflavouredfloss:
race is very much measurable, thats how forensic anthropologists can tell the race of a murder victim. What is a social construct is culture, as culture is changeable and learned like an adopted child of another race can be possibly jewish if they are adopted into the culture. I lean towards gender is a social construct and sex is a classification akin to culture and race. I think one (gender) is unnecessary and nonexistent and to make a big deal about it is ridiculous.
Did something happen with like a coach or a teenage boy that she was at soccer with? Like I don't want to say abuse but Something about this screams that she had some sort of weird encounter that she may not want to acknowledge , and she wants to escape being a woman because of it. Im probably wrong but just in case I wanted to mention it.
Also this: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6095578/
Trans in children is like those mass sociogenic illnesses you always hear about. Its at the fore of society so everyone thinks they have it. And those who would recover and go back to normal, don't have a chance because school systems and medical systems are already in place to make the most money from elective surgery (basically eugenics/ sterilization) on children without parental consent.
I would honestly take her electronics away until she can get therapy from a medical professional who hasn't swallowed the trans lobby kool aid, but who is still open minded enough to determine if she is really trans.
I also read an article one time from a website I forgot the name of of a mother who refused her child trans hormone blockers or anything because she knew her child was just jumping on the bandwagon, and her child dropped it after a while.
Im with you except for the contraceptives part, when you have a debilitating painful uterus that wants to revolt, sometimes the only thing that makes it better is an IUD or other contraceptive. I still know Im a fertile lady, but now Im a fertile lady who doesn't have to vomit pass out and cry on the floor every month.
Also for most of history, periods where shameful, women were put out of the family home and men wouldn't touch them when they bled. It can still be seen today full on in cultures in some African, Asian, and religious traditions (Hasidic Jews for example). Its not as black and white as you are saying.
that not what people think about when meeting someone though... no one looks at someone and goes Gee I wonder what their vagina looks like. You know who people do do that with? Transgender people, Im not saying its right but when people meet a trans person they, as seen on TV with barbara walters, almost always wonder whats between the legs. I personally hated the word woman when I was younger it sounds like a disease, I cringe when someone calls me ma'am or lady, but that doesn't mean I want to be a man. Im just me my sex has little to do with my brain.
no you are a female based on your genitalia, gender isn't real its social and its stupid. Its like the difference between race and culture, a child of any race can be raised by another race and have different culture that where they originated. but they will always be that race. just like sex and gender. Just live as you want to live regardless of what society tells you gender norms should be.
The suicide rate for trans people who are given surgery is pretty dismal too. Those surgeries are often horrific and drive people to suicide. Also there are plenty of horror stories about mental health professionals not being 100% on whether someone os trans or not. Its kind of why this subreddit exists.