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Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. The user ("webxsun") shares a detailed, emotionally charged personal narrative of medical detransition (mastectomy, testosterone) and the resulting long-term physical and emotional consequences. The language is nuanced, self-reflective, and contains contradictions and evolving thoughts that are typical of a genuine human experience, not a scripted bot. The passion and anger align with the expected sentiment from someone who has experienced harm. No serious red flags for inauthenticity are present.
About me
I started taking testosterone in my late teens because I felt pressured by feminine stereotypes and wanted to escape being a woman. I had top surgery at 20, convinced it was the right choice for me at the time. Now, I live with permanent scarring and the deep regret of not being able to breastfeed my future children. I've realized I am a woman because I am female, and that doesn't mean I have to act or look a certain way. I am finally free, living as a masculine woman with a supportive partner, but I deeply regret the permanent changes I made to my body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started because I never felt like I fit in with what a girl was supposed to be. I was uncomfortable with the expectations placed on women and I hated my breasts; they felt like this huge, uncomfortable sign that I was supposed to be feminine. I enjoyed presenting in an androgynous way and I think I used the idea of being non-binary, and then a trans man, as a form of escapism from all that pressure.
I started taking testosterone in my late teens and I enjoyed the way it made me look and feel for a while. I felt like I was finally becoming myself. That feeling didn't last. Just as I turned 20, I got a double mastectomy. I was dead set on it. At the time, I didn't think I wanted children and I didn't care about the risks. I just wanted my breasts gone.
Now, at 25, that surgery is my biggest regret. I have severe hypertrophic scarring and nerve damage that causes numbness all over my chest. More than that, I’ve realized I do want to have children, and I am devastated that I will never be able to breastfeed. I thought if I changed my mind I could just use formula, but the loss feels much deeper than that now. I was too young to understand the long-term impact.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't "identify" as a woman in a deep, internal sense. I am a woman because I am female. To me, "woman" is just a descriptor for what I was born as, like having blue eyes or brown hair. It doesn't mean I have to conform to any stereotypes. I'm a straight, detransitioned woman. I have a buzzcut, I don't shave, I dress incredibly masculinely, and I don't wear makeup. I'm dating a wonderful man who loves me exactly as I am. He's a bit feminine himself.
I've never felt "euphoric" about being a woman, and I don't know any woman who has. There are plenty of things that make me uncomfortable, like societal pressures, misogyny, and fear for my safety. But I've found freedom by separating my identity from these stereotypes. I believe that thinking you have to be something other than a woman just because you aren't feminine reinforces sexist ideas.
I don't regret exploring my expression, but I deeply regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I think permanently surgically altering your body when it's medically unnecessary is a risky decision, especially when you're young. I wish I had learned to accept my body instead. My advice to anyone questioning is to live how you want, dress how you want, and try not to get too caught up in labels. Give yourself time. What’s the harm in waiting a few more years for something that will impact the rest of your life?
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Underwent a double mastectomy (top surgery). |
| 25 | Now living as a detransitioned woman, with significant regrets about surgery. |
Top Comments by /u/webxsun:
Don't try to overcome the urge to dress like a man. You should be free to dress and express yourself in whatever way you like. I'm a straight detrans woman. I don't shave my legs or armpits or anything. I dress incredibly masculinely, I don't wear makeup, I have a buzzcut. I'm dating the most incredible man who loves me and is attracted to me and wouldnt change a thing about me. Hes a bit on the feminine side too.
I don't know how to meet people, we met on tinder but honestly most of my experiences on there have sucked. I would say try to meet people doing group activities or at a bar if you're old enough. The right man will love you exactly as you are.
Surgically removing my breasts is my biggest regret. I also was on testosterone for a few years, enjoyed presenting androgynously, and ended up getting a mastectomy just as I turned 20 years old. Now at 25, I would do anything in the world to reverse this. I am female and therefore a woman, but I don't "identify" as a woman in the sense that there is no one way to define womanhood except for technically being female. You don't have to conform to gender roles or stereotypical femininity, you can live your life and express yourself and present any way you please. But in my opinion, removing breasts for aesthetic purposes, especially if you're young, is a very risky thing to do. Especially when theres the option for reduction if you would like the appearance and comfort of a flatter chest. What do you associate with being a woman that makes you feel like you are not one?
You don't have to conform to any gender role. Being a woman is not defined by presenting and acting femininely, thats what sexism makes us believe. Just dress how you want, act how you want, live how you want. I also at a time believed I was agender because I didn't feel comfortable conforming to "womanhood". But in my opinion this belief just reinforces sexism. That women are inherently feminine in presentation and nature, and if they're not, then they must not really be women, but something else. But you don't have to agree obviously. Just live how you want and try not to get too caught up in labeling yourself. In the end it doesn't make a difference. Everyones personality and presentation is on a spectrum that fluctuates. Don't force yourself to be any sort of way and just do what makes you happy.
I also felt the same way about my breasts and no one could convince me to keep them. I was dead set on a mastectomy. Now, I realize that I'd love to have children and I am devastated that I won't be able to breastfeed. I also have nerve damage and numbness all over my chest. And I have severe hypertrophic scarring on my incision sites. At 20, I didn't care about the risks, I didn't think I wanted children, and I thought if I changed my mind I could just use formula. Now I know I was too young to really know how this would all impact me longterm. If you go through with a mastectomy, I truly hope you never have an ounce of regret. But I urge you to give it a few years. It's something that will impact the rest of your life so what harm would a couple more years of thinking about it do?
I also hope you can consider that you can present and behave in any way you please and still be a woman. You said you felt uncomfortable identifying as a woman but why is that? Do you think being a woman is tied to certain ways you must act or look? What if you could do everything you do while identifying as agender but then be a woman. Is it the word woman that makes you uncomfortable or the things associated with stereotypical womanhood?
This makes sense to me. I so badly with there were more gnc men and women. This is probably due to my own experiences, but whenever I see women who conform so strongly I cant help but feel bad for them. But perhaps they truly are happier this way. The only time I ever went deep into presenting femininely I felt like I had to and I was miserable. So I have a hard time seeing how other women could truly enjoy it.
Also I'm not saying you'll change your mind about having kids. Many people don't want them. I'm just sharing my experience. I personally think permanently surgically altering your body when its medically unnecessary isn't the right decision for anyone. And if I could turn back time I'd learn to accept my body. I've never felt "euphoric" being a woman. And I've never met a woman who has. There are plenty of things that make me uncomfortable with being a woman like societal pressures, misogyny, fear for my safety, feeling like an outcast because I'm butch presenting. But I just try to think of "woman" as a random medical fact. Like I'm a woman the same way my eyes are blue and my hair is brown. It doesn't mean anything except a descriptor for what I was born as. But I know it means a lot of different things for a lot of different people. This is just the way I've found freedom from trying to figure out identity endlessly. I really hope you make the choices that are right for you and live a long happy life free of regret.