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About me
I was born female and my deep unhappiness started with the discomfort of puberty. I transitioned to male, taking testosterone and having surgery, believing it was the only answer to my depression. I learned too late that changing my body couldn't fix the problems in my mind, and now I live with permanent changes and infertility. My journey was fueled by a need to escape myself, not to become someone new. I am now accepting myself as a woman, realizing that true peace comes from within, not from a changed exterior.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was built on a foundation of confusion and a desperate search for an answer to why I felt so unhappy. I was born female, but from a young age, I never felt like I fit in with the expectations placed on girls. I hated my breasts when they developed; they felt like a betrayal of my body and a symbol of everything I was uncomfortable with. I now see this as a deep discomfort with puberty itself, mixed with a lot of low self-esteem and anxiety.
I started my transition by identifying as non-binary. It felt like a safer, less permanent first step into the world of being trans. But that didn't last long. The online communities I was in and the friends I had at the time were overwhelmingly supportive of the idea that if you felt this way, you must be trans. I was influenced heavily online, reading all these stories about people who transitioned and finally felt happy. I thought that was the solution for me, too. I became convinced that all my problems—my depression, my feeling of not belonging—were because I was actually a man.
I took testosterone. I got top surgery. I was so sure that getting rid of my breasts and getting the superficial things—a deeper voice, more body hair—would fix the emptiness inside. I thought a man was just a collection of these traits: a beard, being tall, having a pronounced Adam's apple. I was chasing this superficial bullshit, thinking it was the key to being happy.
But it wasn't. About six months after my surgery, the initial high wore off. I realized that putting on a "mansuit" didn't fix my soul. The problems I was trying to escape were still there. I had believed that if I changed my body, I would finally be seen as competent and valuable. I think a lot of my drive came from a deep need to be recognized and needed, not celebrated for masculine traits. I learned there's a big difference between pleasure—the temporary thrill of change—and real, lasting satisfaction.
Looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were tied to internalized homophobia. I was attracted to women, but the idea of being a butch lesbian felt wrong to me, like it wasn't enough. Being a "man" felt like a more legitimate identity in a misogynistic world, even though the people around me were still misogynistic after I transitioned. Their views didn't change.
I don't regret my transition in the sense that I needed to go through it to learn who I really am. But I do have serious regrets about the permanent changes. I am now infertile, and that is a profound loss. My body is permanently altered. I regret that I wasn't given better guidance. I feel like the medical community and the culture at large failed me. They encouraged a vulnerable young person to make irreversible decisions instead of helping me work through my underlying issues with depression and self-esteem.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's largely a set of stereotypes. It’s crazy to me that on one hand, we're told that expecting people to conform to sex-based stereotypes is bad, but on the other hand, if you like the stereotypes of the opposite sex, you're encouraged to medically change your body to match them. It's a complete contradiction. A woman isn't defined by wearing a dress, and a man isn't defined by having a beard. We are all just people.
I benefited from stepping away from affirming-only therapy and starting to question things. I realized my problems weren't unsolvable and that changing my body was never going to be the real answer. I was trying to change the immutable, and that just leads to more agony.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. |
| 19 | Came out as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 20 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 22 | Realized transition had not solved my underlying problems with depression and self-esteem. |
| 23 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of accepting myself as a female. |
| 24 | Officially detransitioned, dealing with the reality of permanent infertility and body changes. |
Top Comments by /u/weopity77:
it's a normal belief that nearly everyone has many times during their lives that if we change something largely superficial about our condition we will feel better inside. it's almost certainly an adaptation that keeps us evaluating ourselves, trying to improve, moving forward, and not giving up but also sometimes misdirects our energy. you just got dealt some shit circumstances with the celebration of all this suddenly by the media and politicians when you were vulnerable. it could happen to anyone and it was not your fault. you could have never known. you were simple following the advice given by those in authority. you didn't fuck up, they failed you.
I went down a link wormhole and saw this.
"It also points to a larger problem with most lesbian sex ed, which all too often skips over how to have safe sex as a trans woman or with a trans partner—and in doing so, misses out on a crucial part of what safe sex can mean for queer people. "
"..if you were to say that you’re only attracted to people with vaginas or people with penises, it really feels like you’re reducing people just to their genitals... Gay ‘conversion therapy’ has been proven not to work. But you can unlearn your own prejudices; it just takes time and conscious effort.”
you're attracted to females, ladies? that makes you a bigot, you need to learn to love girldick.
gay conversion therapy, banned by state governments and amazon, now brought to lesbians by 'lesbian' progressives that just happen to actually be male and hetero.
but the people around me have always been fairly misogynistic (even the women) and that didn’t stop despite the fact I stopped presenting in a feminine way. They’d always say “women are x, men are y”
isn't this the entire theory behind why you transitioned? didn't you say I like x, so I must be a man?
you are very young, you will find people that love you. someday you can get your voice changed back, right? there are many beautiful women with no breast tissue to speak of, and beautiful women with deep voices.
a man isn't a pronounced adams apple. a man isn't a dick. a man isn't someone with a beard. a man isn't being tall. you want all the superficial bullshit. but if you got it tomorrow you likely wouldn't be any happier 6 months down the line, because it is superficial bullshit.
it's not only legal, hypothetically it's not even clear this is malpractice. professionals have a 'standard of care' threshold they generally have to violate to be found liable. if the care he/she received is of the type that reasonably competent provider in her area, with the same training, would have provided then the standard has been met.
essentially if what happened is how doctors generally provide services now in your area, it wouldn't even matter if someone could prove they do these things simply because of trans lobby political pressure and they are dangerous procedures that are much more dangerous and much more often unsuccessful than other procedures provided to children, the doctor won't be held liable.
now if the doctor fucked something up, just making shit up here, but if like the standard is to wait a year after therapy before treatment and they didn't wait, or they need the consent of the parents and that wasn't obtained it could be actionable. I'd get in touch with a med mal lawyer.
does anyone know if there is any procedure that most providers follow? they don't just immediately start hormones after a 14-year-old walks in the door in most places I would have thought.
he's uniformed or just being disingenuous. if this was illegal, then a lot of us wouldn't even be here. it's what they are doing to these kids that bothers me more than anything else culturally today by a significant margin. humans don't finish developing cognitively until we are 25-years-old but the media and the medical community are not only letting 13-year-old kids make the single most life altering and irreversible medical decisions that anyone can ever make in their lives, they are actively encouraging it. this isn't far off from a doctor telling a bulimic 13-year-old girl that weighs 75 pounds that her feelings about her identity like all other feelings are correct, she really is fat, and they will go ahead and give her lapband surgery after she demonstrates to a therapist that her feelings are genuine for a period of time.
bedrock progressive principle:
expecting people to dress in conformity with that which is stereotypical of their sex is bad, and if it takes place at work is literally the codified definition of sexual harassment in the workplace and a legal action for significant monetary compensation is available.
also bedrock progressive principle:
whether you are a male or female, if you display enough characteristics stereotypical of the opposite sex you probably have the soul of someone of the opposite sex in you and were just born in the wrong body.
so you should change your name to something stereotypical of that sex and your identifying documents and live life as thoroughly stereotypical member of opposite sex, and get hormone therapy and surgery so you can look as much like the stereotypical ideal as medically possible. especially if you are 14 years-old. that's the perfect time because you brain isn't 2/3rds developed yet.
a reasonable person might look at these contradictory precepts, at the fact that sex stereotypes are per se bad when people are expected to behave in conformity with the norm of their sex, but are per se good when they force people into those same stereotypical norms of the opposite sex, and say they aren't really trying to help liberate anyone here, they are just trying and succeeding in tearing literally everything down that came before, damn the consequences. if anyone is ever helped at all it is just purely an accident. the point is to destroy what came before. because that means it is progress, necessarily.
oh I agree. I can't imagine a scenario where this societal change has been a net positive. I think things are worse overall for more people. I think more people are more unhappy now than had this not become accepted. I can't imagine that it can be that people with self identification errors that do actually have their lives improved by having those errors validated by the medical profession overcomes the loss to those that would have eventually accepted and had a normal satisfying life as butch lesbian or tomboy female or hetero man who likes to crossdress or effeminate gay man but instead have massive disfiguring surgery and hormone regimes and regrets it. I think the Buddhists might say that attempting to change the immutable and striving for that which is actually unobtainable forever is a recipe for life long agony. and that's not even getting into the incredible burden upon females this is creating.
I'd say the majority of men have a deep and abiding need to be recognized as competent, valuable, interesting, even needed by one woman and a family, not actually celebrated for our masculine traits. that's not to say as young man it wasn't pleasurable to be sexually attractive and successful with a fair number of women, but it was ultimately also quite empty. the difference between pleasure and satisfaction. if you can develop yourself as a human being I have no doubt you can find a man that loves you and finds your competent, valuable, interesting, and even necessary in their life.
I'm not making the case that people shouldn't dress how they feel most comfortable. I'm making the case that transgender ideology is at odds and in some ways incompatible with ideas about gender roles and feminism which are the bedrock principles of progressivism.
this isn't a novel critique. on one hand there is the claim that gender roles are just harmful social constructs created by the patriarchy to oppress women, and then the equally valid claim among progressives that some men are born with women's brains and that makes them want to wear feminine clothing and doing so is validating for those women trapped in male bodies and therefore is their right and pretty much a social good in and of itself. that's how a significant portion of these men know they are women after all, because they like to wear sexy women's undergarments! that's what real women do! they feel sexy in thongs!