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About me
I started transitioning at 19, a gay man who felt he didn't fit the masculine mold and saw it as an escape from my problems. For five years, hormones and my new identity consumed my life, putting my passions and personal growth on hold. I began detransitioning three months ago, realizing I needed to accept myself as male, even though my androgynous style hasn't changed much. I don't regret the journey, but I see it as a detour that delayed me from facing my real issues with anxiety and self-esteem. Now, I feel more clear-headed and creative, finally moving forward with my life.
My detransition story
My journey with transition started when I was 19. I'm a gay man, and looking back, I think a lot of my decision to transition was tangled up with spending too much time online, internalized issues, and just a general discomfort with the pressures of growing up. I never felt like I fit the typical "man" box, and I think I saw transitioning as a way to escape from myself and my problems.
For a while, I believed I was a trans woman. I took hormones for about five years. During that time, my entire world became about my identity. It consumed my creativity and my passion for things I used to love, like starting businesses. It was like I put my whole life on hold. I also struggled with a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I now see that my heavy use of online spaces and social media, which often had a very black-and-white, cult-like way of thinking, really influenced me.
I don't believe in gender anymore. I think there's only biological sex, and then there are gender roles and expressions, which are made up by society. I started to realize that expanding the idea of what "trans" means is actually damaging for people, especially kids who are just trying to figure themselves out. It sets them up for a lot of confusion.
I decided to detransition about three months ago, at 25. Coming off hormones was a big step. I’m not going to change how I look that much—I’ve always had an androgynous style, wearing makeup and dresses sometimes, and joggers and hoodies other times. The biggest change is internal: I just accept myself as male now. Telling my parents was hard because outwardly, not much is different for them. They can use whatever name and pronouns they want; it doesn’t bother me.
I don’t regret transitioning because it led me to where I am now, but I do see it as a detour that delayed me from growing up and dealing with my real issues. Since detransitioning, I feel more creative and clear-headed than I ever did during my transition. I’m finally starting a business again and facing life as an adult.
I also had a problem with porn addiction for most of my life, which I’m now recovering from. I think the easy access to extreme content online warps people’s minds, especially young boys, and it can fuel these kinds of identity issues. While I didn't experience autogynephilia myself, I think it's wrong that the community often dismisses men who struggle with it and don't offer them real support.
Here’s a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started taking hormones and began social transition. |
| 24 | Had been on hormones for 5 years; felt a loss of spirituality and connection to myself. |
| 25 | Stopped taking hormones and began detransitioning. |
| 25 | Currently 3 months off hormones and accepting myself as a male. |
Top Comments by /u/wheredoestaxgo:
I hear the argument "only a small amount of people are interested in sissyfication" but it's like, okay but there are hundreds of men not only actively partaking, but sharing it, thousands of men encouraging and discussing wanting to partake, and hundreds of thousands of men mindlessly watching in the hypnotic state high-speed porn usage brings.
I don't have autogynophelia but it's annoying to hear 'the community' dismiss it like it's nothing and they don't deserve to be even thought about, never mind support, unless they choose to transition
I think due to the hypnotic nature of social media the 'essence' of these jokes will go into the psyche.
Ideas such as:
- You SHOULD feel shame or guilt based on inherent quality
- There IS something inherently wrong with being male
- Not having children/becoming infertile relinquishes your white guilt
It's really sad as the sorts of beliefs they push promote the idea that we are powerless to change through attitudes and behaviour, and can only change through identity, which is the wrong way to actually make change
I too have to remove myself from online spaces, reminding myself they're not a reflection of reality. I think the inbetween is to lower your 'recreational' social media time. Maybe set hours.
I'm starting a new business for the first time since transition dulled my creativity and passion for entrepreneurship and problem solving for years, and have to stop my brain going into combative made up arguments in my head.
Trust in your creativity and your business. My project isn't related to identity, but as an eco-friendly brand some of my audience will be adjacent to the negative, culty black-and-white thinking, policing types.
Eventually there will be people who view any for-profit business as oppression, who think the prices are too high, who have a problem with the messaging or an ingredient, etc. but as long as I put passion into what I do and create value for my customers, that's their problem, not mine.
People who have a problem with your business, your product, your service, are not your target customer. Your target customer is someone who wants to buy! Remember that
Also in regard to envy over trans people collecting money using a crafted identity... remember what they're missing out on.
I haven't been detransitioning for long but the benefits are greater than the benefits at the best part of my transition.
I accept your viewpoint, I hate that I constantly think of these arguments (the thing I hate second most about my experience as a SJW, after it laying out the trans roadmap of reality) but at least I can have a fair discussion here.
I don't believe in gender (made a post on it here), only sex and gender roles and expression, so I guess that informs why I believe in more of a spectrum.
I mentioned practicality in my post because I do feel like a lot of these definitions and identities are aimed at politics, especially following the 2015-2020 rise in identity politics. The more people who identify with the same niche identity, the stronger the groupthink, the wider the messaging, etc.
But I feel like a more rational viewpoint if your goal was to 'change hearts and minds' would be to stick to fixed, easy to understand, definitions. Building ideas on a concept that doesn't fit with natural science seems like the main reason it is hard to connect 'average' people with the new gender politics.
Moreso, I think it is damaging to all GNC people, and people experiencing gender dysphoria, and especially children figuring out their identity, to keep expanding the so called 'trans umbrella'.
I'm still going out en femme but love your expression 'an unattractive version of the default character in a video game'. I usually see myself as beautiful but lowkey relate to this! I think as mentioned in other comments it's about finding your groove and how you want to express yourself.
I'm proud of you for your first time going out presenting as a man! Remembering there's no one way to be a guy. I feel like I'm presenting as a guy when I go out with my femme haircut and joggers, trainers, and a hoodie and when I spend more time presenting as a guy intentionally I'm not going to change my style much.
I'm three months off hormones, how about you?
I'm up North too! Totally get you on the strangers making comments or whatever, but from traveling it seems like this happens everywhere when groups of men hang around.
I did the maths on this once, taking the estimated number of trans people in America, the number of trans murder victims in one year and comparing this against number of murders in the general population in the same year. Turns out trans people are murdered 3 times less commonly than the general population. I tried to do the same for the UK but there were less than 10 trans murders in total from the prior 10 years which wasn't really enough to make a claim one way or the other.
Interesting! Yeah I saw negligible trans murders in the UK too. It made me sad so many people were trying to gain I guess political points that we need a more accepting government (and I agree, but not that lying/exaggerating is the way to achieve it) by validating the person's fear as legitimate in the UK subreddit.
We should support people if they have anxiety but to actively pretend like their fear is founded in reality when the figures (and frankly British social attitudes - even coming from a conservative 'red wall' area) show that they don't need to be afraid.
Great comment! Finding men that inspire you is a powerful tool. Even looking through history. It sounds like I'm a step behind op, I dunno if I ever want to pass as a man or am fine looking androgynous, but reading about gay men through history, both recent and distant, helped me realise there are so many different ways to be male (the gay part helps me feel a stronger connection with them).
I want to be involved in men's rights stuff but it just reminds me how shit being a man is
Could that perhaps be part of the reason you get involved in helping people understand or recognise the issues faced by men?
If you find a positive group of men to be around, you will see the positives of being male
Not all trans people are in a cult, but there is an intersection of heavy internet users, people involved with social justice cancel culture and people who reject natural sciences that is a cult that tries to ally itself with trans people. Those will be the ones accusing us of being in a cult.
I'm so sorry to hear about your reason for transition! You have gorgeous features.
I bet within 5 years you'll have beard regrowth. Maybe two or three.
Are you currently still rocking the short-mid length hair in the second photo? I bet you'd feel less of a loss if you get a cut similar to your old style! You might not feel the same without a beard but you'll look very similar to how you did before.
You are worthy of acceptance and I hope you can accept yourself however long it takes.