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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. The user ("whoevenami99") demonstrates a consistent, personal narrative of detransitioning after identifying as FTM, citing internalized homophobia and misogyny as key factors. The writing style is emotionally varied, contains personal details, and shows development over time, which is atypical for bots. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is inauthentic.
About me
I was a masculine girl who started identifying as trans at 15 because I felt uncomfortable with my body and was terrified of being a lesbian. I socially transitioned for three years, changed my name, and bound my chest, convinced it was the answer. Stopping binding due to health issues made me question everything, and I realized through counselling that I was running from being a woman due to internalized homophobia. I have now fully detransitioned, changed my documents back, and am learning to accept myself as a gay woman. I feel a huge sense of relief and believe rigid gender stereotypes, not my body, were the real problem.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was around 15. I was a girl who was a bit more masculine in how I dressed and acted, and I never really fit in with the other girls, especially when puberty hit. I felt uncomfortable with my body and hated my breasts. I developed a massive crush on my straight best friend, and when she rejected me, it made me feel gross and confused about my feelings. I now realize that a lot of this was internalized homophobia; the idea of being a gay woman seemed terrifying and way more scary than just deciding I was another gender.
I found a lot of comfort and community online, watching transgender videos that made it seem like the answer to all my problems. It felt like an escape. I could be a new person and leave all my confusion behind. So, I started identifying as a trans man, and then later as non-binary, for about three years. I changed my name legally and on all my documents, and I bound my chest for over two years. I was convinced I needed to go on hormones and was very close to doing it, but I’m so incredibly grateful now that I never did.
What made me start to question everything was when I stopped binding about three or four months ago. My breathing got easier, and the costochondritis I had from binding got better. It was one of the things that made me reevaluate why I was doing all this. Through talking with a new counsellor who specializes in gender and anxiety, I began to understand that my desire to transition was rooted in internalized misogyny and homophobia. I was running from the idea of being a woman because I couldn't reconcile myself with the social stereotypes of what a woman "should" be. Being trans felt easier than accepting that I was just a lesbian who didn't fit a specific mold.
I’ve now fully detransitioned. I’ve changed my passport and name back to my birth name and female sex. It feels a little weird to be called "she" again after so long, but it also feels more authentic and right. I feel a sense of relief and like a weight has been lifted. My social anxiety has gone down because I’m not constantly worried about whether I’m passing as male enough. I told my parents, and they were very supportive. My dad said he was happy to have his daughter back, and my mum said she would have rather I had just come out as gay in the first place.
I don't regret my social transition because it was a part of my journey to understanding myself, but I am so relieved I never medically transitioned. I think the transgender ideology preys on young, confused people, especially lesbian girls who are struggling to accept themselves. I now believe you cannot change your sex, and that society's rigid stereotypes are the real problem, not our bodies. I want to share my story to help others who might be going through the same confusion I did.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started identifying as transgender (FTM/non-binary) after struggling with puberty, social discomfort, and internalized homophobia. |
| 15-18 | Socially transitioned: changed name legally, changed gender on documents, and bound chest. |
| 18 | Stopped binding my chest and began seriously questioning my transgender identity. |
| 19 | Underwent counselling and realized my transition was driven by internalized homophobia and misogyny. Officially detransitioned and reverted my name and gender markers back to female. Came out as a lesbian. |
Top Comments by /u/whoevenami99:
Hey no sorry. I’m actually feeling very similar! Pride has become so trans based... seriously. I am debating on going. I mean just bought a T-shirt with Woman definition on...IMAGINE the shit I’d get for wearing that within 30ft of pride. I’m torn, I wanna go celebrate in a way but also its so shitty. The whole trans thing has messed with me, ik I cannot support the movement fully and just don’t want that shoved in my face. Idk. Who knows. Hope ya ok! I lowkey have no issue with the rainbow cause they’re cool but yeah marketing strategies aha.
Oh ikr...it’s actually wild to think about now but also looking back. As I understand now internalised homophobia and the idea of wonderful trans seemed but mostly escapism. Before I realised this I honestly wouldn’t have thought of figuring out your gay as hard. Now obvs um duh this gender mess shows that. It’s honestly mad. I’m just grateful I didn’t do anything medical and realised now. Life in insane. Tbh think this meme was designed for this aha
I am just about to read this. I transed at a very similar age. I detransed about 2/3 months ago. And re came out as a lesbian. If you are on twitter you can find my story @tjdetrans. I shall read just wanted to offer you something as quick as possible 😊
I’m 19 btw.
Edit. You haven’t done anything wrong at all. Just because she didn’t watch princesses and stuff doesn’t mean thats the reason you’re hear now. I as a kid did all those things (pink. Princesses. Dresses etc) and I still transed. The issue is society and such not you.
When you are that age anything feels huge. So as much as I cannot speak for her personally. I feel these massive changes and opportunities may just have overwhelmed her. It’s possibly an escape. Something she can control. She can be a new person? Many reasons but that jumps to mind..
I relate to that a lot. Suddenly around 13/14 girls became boy and makeup crazy. I had zero interest in either and this lead to a feeling of being abnormal or somehow broken. This was a catalyst in my transgender years becoming what they did. No matter how much someone says you are ok and its ok not to be girly or whatever socially that doesn’t work. At that age you want to blend in and be accepted.
I hope I’m making sense. Slowly editing bits in is easier.
By the sounds of it you are doing an awful lot right. I’m glad she at least is aware that she doesn’t have to be a certain way to be a woman. As I say though words come easy actually believing it when living in this world is way harder.
Honestly this is SO relatable. I went through much the same. I hope my reply is of some help. All of what you are saying so far to me sounds like she is trying to escape. Be someone else. Because she can’t handle being herself.
I too got lost in a world of online. Transgender videos are everywhere now and I became hooked. Its a very appealing story. You can change your body, become cooler and supposedly happier and not have to bethe same person. And thats before all the “thats so inspiring “ and trans prides etc. The culture is basically increasingly appealing to young girls who are lost and confused.
Ok, as I a androgynous Masculine lesbian woman Who Believed she was a man for many years... honestly time is the main key and an seeing alternative if she will respond.
Its so hard and even though I’ve been there myself answers are so hard to give. Its not a simple do this its fixed. Support her as your daughter but don’t encourage transitioning. Her body and her existence is perfect as it is. She needs to see that mutilating and running from herself is not the answer.
I shall link the interview I did about my experiences in the transgender cult ideology. It may help you or her and maybe both. https://youtu.be/k6Xe2P9c5x
Feel free to email me if you would like to as well. [email protected]
I truly hope this was some help. I wish you all the best.
Hey, go you! Glad you have support. I told my mum unintentionally and my dad about a week after. Oh also brother. My mum one happened because I was talking about stuff and it all just came out of my brain, years of doubt and stuff. She responded well. We’ve talked a lot. My dad took it well, he is actually glad. Both agree that they would have rather and it would have been easier for me just to originally come out as a lesbian but yeah wasn’t that simple (unfortunately). Anyways yeah congratulations! Its a little weird getting used to she again and all that but the difference now is that I’m allowing it to feel ok. Hope things are going well for you, all the best.
You sound like you’re struggling a lot with this.
I identified as FTM for around 3 years. From the sounds of it you may have internalised homophobia and misogyny? This seems to be quite common. Totally is a way that you aren’t trans, I think from the post its more struggling with the idea of being female and the rest?
Tbh you’re ahead of me at that age I had no clue what I was feeling and when I did, it was disconnected and too scary to face. In a messed up way transgender was easier subconsciously that being a gay woman. around that age I developed a massive crush on my straight best friend...and she binned me off no real answers.
Anyways, you’re so young. Its good you are clearly very self aware. Don’t rush into seeing a gender therapist and medical routes. Maybe find someone that is a general counsellor to talk things through with?
Do you have a close friend or friends? If so talk to them. I never had any close enough friends and the ones I Did say something too didn’t react good anyways that’s unpopularity for ya.
Remember, it’s normal to question who you are. Take it slow. Be kind to yourself and probably don’t jump into/onto transgender sources and YouTube. They like to enforce that idea in you. Have you seen the pique Resilience Project?
Most importantly, take care of yourself 😊
Just so you are aware. I fully don’t believe you can change sex. Gender dysphoria clearly is a real thing but we need other ways of dealing instead of hormones and surgery. Society is the problem, sex stereotypes are the problem. Gender isn’t real its a construct. You are your biological sex. Just adding this in. Don’t get angry at me. Thanks.
I was initially going to keep my trans name as well I’d legally changed it, however I recently reverted back to my birthname. Legally all sorted. Quite honestly I’d been running from myself and reclaiming my name was a big step in the right direction for me. Sure it still feels a tad weird but not bad at all, just haven’t used it in 3/4 years. Its part of me and I wanted it back. Hope you figure out what you want to do 😊😁
Wow I actually didn’t think about that part tbh... thank you.
Thank you for that advice. Seriously. Very good advice. A card actually sounds like a lovely idea, Tbh if I can get there by fathers day I could get a card with ya know... daughter on. That scares me now because my issues still but if I’m more where I want to be then that could be an idea! Anyways thank you again ☺️
Are you literally me? Im 19 and in the exact same situation. Just I have told my family etc. Honestly I was a little scared too because well its a big thing to “go back on” but my parents have been completely chill and happy about it. They didn’t say anything like I told you so...my dad said he’s happy to have his daughter back and my mum similar. I’ve talked to them and my brother about stuff and well lets just say “We’d rather you had just come out as a lesbian. The first. Time. It would have been cool” but obviously we don’t know that. Internalised shit and trans ideology grabbing us in etc. Anyways! Talk to them, its not the easiest but I promise you its worth it. The last thing you are is fake or stupid. All the best ☺️
Tbh I’m so grateful that I didn’t go on hormones now... at the time I was convinced in many ways that I needed it and whatever else. I’m so glad it was just a close call. Can’t honestly imagine how I’d have felt with it. Thank you so much for your reply 😊