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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The comments show a consistent, evolving, and emotionally complex personal narrative over a two-year period. The user expresses confusion, personal doubts, and specific, plausible details about their transition (taking testosterone) and detransition/desistance thoughts (identifying as a GNC female). The emotional tone—confusion, worry, seeking advice—is consistent with a genuine person navigating a difficult experience.
About me
I started as a teenager who felt incredibly uncomfortable with my female body and found acceptance in online communities that encouraged me to transition. I took testosterone and was happy with the physical changes, but my underlying confusion never really went away. I eventually realized I'm not a man, but a gender non-conforming female who just wanted to look male. I don't fully regret my transition, but I deeply regret not having better support or being encouraged to question things more. Now, I'm more comfortable in my skin but still figuring everything out without a perfect label.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and confusing, and I’m still figuring a lot of it out. It all started when I was a teenager. I felt really uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty. I hated the changes, particularly developing breasts. I felt insecure about my voice and my shape, and I didn't feel connected to being a girl. I spent a lot of time online and found communities that seemed to have all the answers. They were incredibly welcoming, showering everyone with praise and saying things like "your gender is valid." For someone who felt lost, that affection was powerful.
Looking back, I see how I was influenced. I was a vulnerable person, and the community had a way of pulling people like me in. They discouraged any questioning or critical thinking. If you doubted anything, you were made to feel like a bigot. I started to believe that my discomfort meant I was a trans man. I rejected femininity completely. I thought transitioning was the only way to be happy.
I started taking testosterone. I was actually pretty skeptical about it at first; I didn't really believe it would fix my dysphoria. But it did give me the changes I wanted—a deeper voice, a more masculine appearance. For a while, that felt really good. I was happy with the physical results. But my underlying confusion didn't go away. I started to worry that I was following a pattern I saw in others with similar experiences, and that I might end up regretting it. I didn't have a therapist to talk to, so I was left with my own worries and asking strangers on the internet for advice.
Over time, my feelings started to shift again. The social dysphoria I felt began to lessen. I started to think of myself not as a man, but as a gender non-conforming female. I realized that I don't think I have an innate sense of gender at all. I usually just say I'm non-binary now because it's simpler, but the truth is more nuanced. I wish I had been born male, but I'm slowly learning to accept that I am female. I'm bisexual, and that's separate from my gender confusion.
I'm left wondering if I ever had true dysphoria, or if I just wanted to look male. I don't know if it's morally okay to transition if you're not "truly trans," but I also can't deny that taking T made me more comfortable for a time. I'm more comfortable now than I was before I started, but the confusion is still there. No label seems to fit perfectly. I benefited from the physical aspects of transition, but the mental and social pressure was a lot to handle. I don't fully regret my transition because it got me to where I am now, but I regret not having better support and not being encouraged to question things more deeply.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body during puberty, especially hated my breasts. |
| 16-17 | Found online trans communities and was influenced by them. Started identifying as a trans man. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. Was skeptical but happy with the physical changes like a deeper voice. |
| 20 | Began to question my identity again. Social dysphoria faded, started identifying as a gender non-conforming female/non-binary. |
Top Comments by /u/wikthemself:
Hmm I’m getting an idea of how this might operate. I know it sounds a bit ridiculous but here me out. First, there is some sort of recruitment through that “egg technique” or whatever you wanna call it. Seeking out gender non-conforming, vulnerable people to join. Then there is love-bombing everyone in the community, for example through a multitude of identical posts such as your gender is valid 💖💗💖”. People are more likely to stay in the community when they are showered with affection and praise for simply...being there. Then finally, any questioning or doubt is discouraged, as is critical thinking or voicing unpopular opinions. However, if you leave you are ostracised and labelled a TERF even if you’re not a feminist. Any opinions or even actual scientific studies that don’t align with views of the community are dismissed as heteronormative, transphobic or bigoted.
I don’t have a therapist and probably won’t have one for a while which is why I have to ask for advice from strangers on the internet :(.
I’m just worried I will end up regretting my transition because it seems to be a pattern with people who have similar experiences to mine...
Why do you find the look of non-passing trans people disgusting though? You know that there are people who look trans due to medical conditions, but who are actually cis?
Maybe you should work through the biases you have in your head, and it would bring some relief?
Oh wow, finally someone who understood my question. I can kind of relate to that, I’m now on T and I’m really happy with the masculinising changes. I used to be dysphoric/insecure about my voice and my body. I used to think I was a trans man. I also used to really reject femininity and I have some level of social dysphoria, but that dysphoria is diminishing now as I begin to think of myself as a GNC female, although I’m bisexual and not a lesbian. I usually describe myself as non-binary for simplicity’s sake because I don’t think I have an innate sense of gender. I wish I was born male but I’m starting to accept myself as a female
I asked this question because I wasn’t sure if I actually have dysphoria or if I just want to look male, and I still don’t, but I guess it depends on definition of dysphoria and one’s ideology and so on. I also don’t know if it’s morally okay to transition while not actually being trans? But I’m more comfortable than ever before so maybe I actually need it? I’m quite confused over here, no label seems to describe me
Hmm, thanks. I see what you’re saying but I don’t think it’s the placebo in this case. I was quite skeptical towards testosterone when I started taking it, I never believed it would actually help my dysphoria but it gave me all the changes I’ve been waiting for