Some deleted comments are saying this person was nice. I feel sorry for them being unable to see manipulative behavior. We cannot control what other people do, it is unethical to use leading questions to guide others into a certain frame of mind that is not true for them. This person should have backed off the moment you said "shush" and "I don't want to". They disrespected your boundary and kept going - and yet these deleted comments are saying that this ex friend was polite and had good intentions? They absolutely did NOT have good intentions if they keep going despite being told NO.

The next time someone tries to keep going at a topic that you don't want to engage in, tell them you are going to remove yourself from the situation, to protect yourself. Don't explain yourself, just disengage until they change their tune.

Pretty crazy to me how people are teaching impressionable folk wrong biology and now detransitioners are just relearning how biology actually works. Congratulations: you learned you have a body and your mind is deeply ingrained with it, deeply connected, and is no way wrong or disconnected from the body. You and everyone else on planet earth, including other animals, were all born in the right and perfect body. We use our brains to trick ourselves, however, into believing we are disconnected and in the "wrong body" and that there's something "wrong" with it and needs to be "fixed". Truly amazing what the mind is capable of doing.

It's very bizarre to me how when I was growing up, it was all about being gay and coming out and having pride in being gay. Now I almost never hear about gay people, I almost never hear anyone saying "that's so homophobic of you!" - it's exclusively transphobia awareness and it feels like gay people have been steamrolled into near non existence. I know they still exist and living their best lives but who's defending them in debates? Transphobia has been the number one concern for so many people it's as if that matters more than gay people.

I'm glad you stood up for yourself. It's depressing how violently polarized people are these days. How does it make any logical sense that if you just read a damn book and enjoy it, you're basically Satan? Intolerance of descenting opinions is a net negative and a poor strategy in the long run. I might not agree with most "sjw types" but I still see them as humans who are hurt and need help. I can't hate a damaged human being who could just use love and understanding. But that same courtesy is not extended back to me and it makes me sad. Instead, it's transphobia this, transphobia that, "you want to kill us" - never said that and I'm not transphobic for being skeptical of gender. If I'm willing to listen to you why can't you be willing to listen to me? I just wish people would stop being in survival mode. You're not going to die if someone reads a book. Communication is so damn important in everything.

It still boggles my mind how trans surgeries suggest that you are a lesser woman without a womb, you're a lesser woman without breasts or ovaries, because if you remove the reproductive parts from your body, that somehow automatically makes you more manly. Which doesn't make sense. That's more like, if anything, a new sex, or some asexual entity, rather. That doesn't make you less of a woman, it just makes you infertile, but still a woman.

The whole thing is insensitive toward infertile women, women who've had a hysto, women who've had to have their ovaries or breasts removed due to health complications - that makes them manly, according to the logic here. And what about intersex females? Does that make them men because only one ovary is functional or their womb was virilized?

Just be happy that you're you and you're alive. :) When I stopped identifying as male, I went with agender, and then that slowly evolved into the realization that gender doesn't matter. We are born into a sexed body which we apply gender roles to which aren't hard and fast rules. We can express ourselves as however we wish and that doesn't make women any less of a woman, or a man any less of a man. If you're a man applying makeup, that's masculine because you're a man doing it. If you're a woman who wants to go to the gun range, that's feminine because a woman is doing it. If we associate gun ranges with masculinity and makeup with feminity, then we're just reinforcing harmful gender stereotypes and limiting our potential.

I mean, radfems aren't THAT bad. I hate how detransitioners feel the need to keep demonizing them even after they detrans. Like, please just respect that some people have a different opinion from you. No need to demonize anybody. It fearmongers to other trans and detrans people that radfems are evil and shouldn't be listened to. Radfems aren't scary. You can be civil with anybody and respect your differences.

I saw a glimpse of your post on a nonbinary subreddit and you mention genderless. Does it help knowing that cis people, despite perhaps looking and acting a certain way that seems to adhere to their "gender role", they don't think themselves as a certain gender, they're just living life? Like, cis people just don't think about gender at all, they don't identify as their sex, they just are their sex. Cis people are essentially agender but without the need to use they/them pronouns because they don't care - as no one should care about their pronouns! I don't. Most people here don't.

Thought that no one else can define our gender, why are they trying to define our experiences? "Not really trans"? Okay then tell me what Lord I must kneel to and ask for what was Truly Trans about my experience? I assume every trans person had to kneel to the same Lord and get appointed the trans label.

If you affirm their false perception of gender, they have a higher likelihood of participating in cross sex hormones, therefore they'll rush regardless. If you affirm, you're basically trying to make them trans. Kids who have trans on their radar need to be aware of alternatives to transition because medical transition is not the only way.

Kids also cannot reasonably consent to transition (likewise with drinking alcohol, getting a tattoo, enlisting in the military, having a sexual relation with an older person, etc). If the parents or gender therapist are deciding for them, that's suspicious. Wait until the kid is older when they have more sense in them. No psychiatrist is qualified to actually handle a kid or teen with "gender dysphoria" because it's not clearly defined what that even is in the dsm5. My best advice would be to simply prevent them from offing themselves and any other self harm. Gender ain't their problem.

Tumblr was feeding into my depression and it was one of the main reasons why I didn't pick myself up by the bootstraps, get out of the damn house and move on with life. Tumblr just sucks you in and deepens its claws into your flesh, unwilling to let you go. Tumblr is a special kind of Hell.