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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or inauthentic. The user self-identifies as a straight, gender non-conforming female who desisted after only flirting with trans labels online. This is a valid desister experience. The comments show personal reflection, emotional nuance (feeling "lonely"), and engagement with the community over time, which is consistent with a real person.
About me
I'm a masculine female who started questioning my gender because I never fit in as a typical girl. I explored non-binary and transmasculine labels online, but it was really just a form of escapism from my anxiety and loneliness. I realized my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with the stereotypes and expectations forced on me. I'm so glad I never medically transitioned, as it would have been a permanent solution to a temporary feeling. Now, I'm at peace just being a gender nonconforming woman and accepting myself for who I am.
My detransition story
My whole experience with gender was confusing and, looking back, I think it was more about me not fitting in than actually being born in the wrong body. I’m a female who has always been extremely masculine. I never felt like a typical girl, and that made me really uncomfortable, especially when I was younger.
For a while, I started to think that maybe I was non-binary or transmasculine. I spent a lot of time online, on Reddit and watching YouTube videos, and I started flirting with those labels. I never went beyond that, though. I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I think a big part of it was that I felt so lonely and out of place. I’m a straight woman who is gender nonconforming, and it felt like there was no community for someone like me. The butch lesbian spaces didn't fit because I'm not a lesbian, and a lot of the other masculine women's spaces were very focused on trans identities, which didn't feel right for me.
I was influenced a lot by what I saw online. I watched a ton of detransition videos and read a lot of stories, and it really made me think. It scared me how normalized some things had become, especially for teenagers. Seeing things like the "online dom" culture being so casual was alarming.
I realized that my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with the expectations that came with it. I hated the idea that because I was a woman, I had to be or act a certain way. I thought that by changing my gender identity, I could escape that. It was a form of escapism. I have a lot of anxiety and I've struggled with low self-esteem, and I think that played a huge part in why I was drawn to those ideas.
I don’t regret exploring my identity, but I am glad I never medically transitioned. I think I would have regretted that deeply. It would have been a permanent solution to a temporary feeling of discomfort. Now, I'm comfortable just saying I'm a gender nonconforming woman. I don't need a special label for it. I'm just me.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's okay to not fit into a box. You can be a woman and be masculine. You can be a man and be feminine. We don't need to change our bodies to match stereotypes. I benefited from stepping back from all of it and just learning to accept myself as I am.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my comments:
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| - | 2019 | Flirted with identifying as "genderqueer" and "transmasculine" online but never pursued any medical steps. |
| - | 2019 | Realized I was a straight, gender nonconforming female and stopped identifying with trans-related labels. |
Top Comments by /u/worried19:
Also happening overseas. Apparently a Finnish couple living somewhere in Europe lost custody of their 15-year-old because they refused to allow hormones.
I just binge watched all the videos on your channel. Great job, they're all really informative and interesting. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
I'd like to see you make a video about what led you to become kink critical, if you have a chance. You talk about the "online dom" thing so casually. It's scary to me how normalized that stuff has become for teenagers.
I've been told several times it's offensive for straight or bisexual women to use it. It's more of a lesbian sexual identity.
Personally, I just call myself gender nonconforming. I'm extremely masculine and always have been, but I'm not sexually oriented towards women.
These are some good ones I didn't see linked yet:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkkdtJD8Gi4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRkWkidE-2k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nFoovHHrBe4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN94L3gZyj8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5we2DLSAp0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UAYy0t030QM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCEUTzRHTDk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aGzobBYRlos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WZ0ghkeyw-o
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HP3sBFDp9js (not totally sure this one counts as detransitioned)
I mostly lurk here, but it's possible that some of the people who chose "ally" may also have a complicated and traumatic experience with gender.
I felt it would be fraudulent to say I was "desisted" because the most I ever did was flirt with using different terms on Reddit. "Ally" is not fully accurate, but close enough.
I never went beyond flirting with labels like "genderqueer" and "transmasculine," but I'm also a straight GNC female. It's a lonely existence. There don't seem to be a lot of women out there like us. I feel out of place on r/butchlesbians, and subs like r/butchwomen and r/masculineofcenter are big on trans identities, which I don't consider healthy for me personally.