I'm trans and I'm not detransitioning, but I try to distance myself from the trans community as much as I can. Most of the main trans and lgbt subreddits have such a hive mindset. Saying anything in those spaces is like walking in a minefield. It definitely is very cult like.

One of the reasons I read this sub is so that I can get a perspective on the people that transition didn't work out for them. I try to surround myself with different viewpoints on everything so I can keep an open mind to other perspectives. Some people are so deep into that echo chamber that other voices cannot be heard. I never want to be like that.

I think this one is a lot more common than the other ones. I know quite a few girls (at least 5 at the top of my head) who ID'd as trans for a year or two, sometimes longer because of their trauma. Luckily none of them got put on hormones or blockers. One was close because her mom kept pushing for it, but she expressed that she didn't want to medically transition which the doctors thought was strange so the doctor actually took time to find the underlying cause.

Personally, I'm glad that this sub exists because there are some things I had never thought about or known about that I've learned from here. The trans community is such an echo chamber that the detransitioners stories seem to get completely ignored. Plus there are so many people here with so many different views and experiences with transition, the shift of perspective is quite nice instead of hearing the same bullshit over and over again in the trans community.

Whenever I see that, I kinda cringe. I get why people would want to hide it, but there comes a point that it's not ok to do. If I was going to be dating, I'd disclose right away so then I wouldn't be emotionally involved and the other person wouldn't be either and so that they didn't feel betrayed or tricked. Plus, that's how people get hurt both emotionally and physically. A reason I don't plan on dating is because I likely can't provide what the other person needs or is expecting even if I did disclose. I definitely can relate to the whole wanting to be stealth no matter what feeling, but it's just not fair to the other person. At all.

When did I say the post wasn't relevant? How am I supporting censorship? I said that this needs to be talked about more, since it gets covered up so much and it happens far too often. I've seen in trans subreddits when people bring up botched surgeries and horrible results they always get shot down and banned, even though the majority of the results I've seen look like an infected wound. But if anyone says anything about it, it's wrong, which is why we need to talk about it.

I think it's not necessarily what should we do, it's what should people stop doing. If you go into pretty much any trans subreddit, theres going to be the "am I trans" posts. A lot of comments will say that if you're questioning your gender yes you are trans. Or say yes you are trans because you're gnc, don't like gender roles, want a different body, etc. That is inherently harmful and it fucks people up in the end. And then there are worse cases than that. There are people saying "if you identify as male then that means your body is male, even your vagina" and vice versa. People ignoring biology. A lot of kids don't have open ears to what other people think, so they don't bother listening to other people's opinions. Anyone who has a different opinion is a bigot, apparently. Which is why I'm here. I like hearing things that don't come from an echo chamber, because if you spend enough time listening to the same thing over and over it becomes engrained in your identity even if it isn't you.

Nowadays, I see a lot of young women who are sexually harassed/assaulted transitioning to be gay men. I see young women who have been affected by misogyny. When I came out as trans when I was 12 to a group of girls, they all decided they were trans too. All of them went through some sort of trauma as well. None of them ended up transitioning because luckily they weren't surrounded by an echo chamber. I definitely think medical professionals should take into account a person's past trauma before throwing hormones at them.

Another issue is that people see hormones as an end to their depression and self image problems. Even if someone is genuinely dysphoric and genuinely trans, hormones alone won't make them feel better. Going into my transition I assumed this, and when I still felt like shit I realized that I have to learn to embrace the body I was given and accept it before I'll be happy. I'm still taking hormones, but I'm learning to accept how it is. I still struggle with that a lot, but slowly I'm making progress. Transition isn't a solution for a lot of people. It goes a lot deeper than that.