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- Personal, nuanced experience with detransition (e.g., makeup struggles, medication history, social fallout).
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About me
I was born female and my journey started when puberty made me hate my developing body. I later realized my desire to transition was driven by untreated bipolar disorder, depression, and a need to escape myself. I was on testosterone for three months before a clarity from my medication made me stop. Through therapy, I learned my struggle was with society's expectations of women, not my own body. Now I'm learning to accept myself as a woman and focus on my mental health.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was messy and complicated, and looking back, I can see how many different pieces of my life came together to create a perfect storm. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in, especially when I hit puberty. I hated the changes happening to my body, particularly the development of my breasts. It felt like a betrayal. I now believe this was a mix of body dysmorphia and the general discomfort that comes with growing up, but at the time, I was sure it meant I was born in the wrong body.
My mental health was a huge factor. I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and before I was properly medicated, I went through a severe episode. I also struggled with deep depression and anxiety for most of my life, and I had very low self-esteem. I think I used the idea of being trans as a form of escapism; it felt like a way to become a completely new person and leave all my problems behind. I lived online a lot and was definitely influenced by the communities I was in. It felt easier to get a prescription for testosterone than it was to find a good psychiatrist to help me with my actual underlying issues. I was on T for about three months before my bipolar episode ended. When the fog lifted, I realized I had made a huge mistake and stopped taking it immediately. I’m lucky I didn’t experience any serious health complications from that short time on hormones, and I didn't have any surgeries, so I am not infertile.
I only ever transitioned socially. I cut my hair, bound my chest, and asked people to use a different name and pronouns. I identified as non-binary for a while before leaning more into a male identity. I benefited from non-affirming therapy later on, which helped me untangle my gender feelings from my other mental health struggles. It helped me see that my desire to transition was rooted in a deep discomfort with myself and society's expectations of me as a woman, not in an innate male identity. I had internalized a lot of negative ideas about what it meant to be a woman.
I don’t regret exploring my identity because it ultimately led me back to myself, but I deeply regret transitioning. I regret the time I lost and the damage I did to my body by binding it. I regret that I ever thought I needed to change my body to be happy. My thoughts on gender now are that it’s a social concept, and while it’s important to be compassionate to everyone’s journey, we need to be much more careful about medical interventions, especially for young people and those with untreated mental health conditions.
Detransitioning was lonely. I lost some friends who couldn’t accept that I had changed my mind and saw me as a traitor for admitting that science and biology have some undeniable truths. Learning to be a woman again was strange. I had to teach myself how to do makeup from online tutorials because I’d never learned, and that actually gave me a lot of confidence. I’ve come to accept that not all women are hyper-feminine, and that’s okay. Being a woman can look like many different things.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 12 | - | Started puberty, began to intensely hate the development of my breasts. |
| Late Teens | - | Struggled with severe depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Was deeply involved in online communities. |
| 22 | - | Experienced a severe bipolar episode. Socially transitioned, identified as non-binary, then as male. |
| 22 | - | Started testosterone. |
| 22 | - | Bipolar episode ended; realized I had made a mistake and stopped testosterone after 3 months. Began the process of detransitioning. |
| 23 | - | Started non-affirming therapy, which helped me understand the root causes of my desire to transition. |
| Present | - | Living as a woman again, working on self-acceptance and managing my mental health. |
Top Comments by /u/x_unforgivinggirl:
to say “stop trying to punch down” after spewing misogynistic hate speech? oh okay! i rlly don’t like how it’s now okay to be so fucking Wildly sexist as long as you put cis in front of it. i also never once have heard this intriguing message about anime girls from a woman. in fact i would say the anime obsession is a lot more rampant in the trans community. the projection is insane and this take is riddled with pretty fucking obvious jealousy …. why else would this sad pathetic individual resort to criticizing the bodies of cis women when that is exactly what her whole group is trying to replicate ??
i’m sorry you’re in this spot :( it’s a very difficult thing to come to terms with, but this might help? idk, i’m sorry if it doesn’t!
- lots of women have alopecia and are still gorgeous, i had a teacher who was bald and didn’t have eyebrows and she was so pretty honestly. if it isn’t your thing, wigs are always an option
- you can look into elements of mtf transition for advice, it’s not exactly the same but might offer help for things like more feminizing makeup so you might feel less like “a teenage boy in drag” as you said (i have been there, and it does get better)
- it is an option to change those gender markers if you decide to do so. it’s typically less complicated going back to the original gender marker if that makes you feel any better
- women with pcos definitely don’t face the same struggles, but they do have facial hair. i know a few who’ve had a lot of success with laser, and if you’ve got lighter or more sparse hair shaving might do the trick.
- in terms of top surgery, there are reconstructive options. lots of women with breast cancer get mastectomies and have great results with reconstruction, though it might not be the exact same. i didn’t get top surgery personally so pls don’t quote me!
anyways. the body is a powerful thing. it’s great that you haven’t had a hysterectomy or oophorectomy, because you do have those organs to produce all the hormones your body originally did should you choose to pursue detransition. it will get better. it will be hard, it will take time, but it will. some changes are permanent, but not everything :) hope isn’t gone
in my detrans journey i sadly ended up losing some people who decided that i was a pariah for admitting science and biology could be onto something. it’s not likely you’ll change this person’s mind, so if the friendship is something you value over your beliefs, you’ll just have to decide if it’s worth stifling them.
maybe not in terms of the societally expected norm currently, but op looks like a girl to me. not all women are gonna appear or choose to present in a hyperfeminine way. many women have a few masculine traits or appear more androgynous, especially without makeup which we’re conditioned to seeing worn a majority of the time. would that somehow make someone less of a woman?
yeah, i know being trans is hard since i was perceived to be and thought i was. mostly i meant nb people as you said, but also i don’t think i said it was a white people only thing. stricter cultural hurdles are a factor - i know this as i lived in various regions throughout asia for a decade. other cultural hurdles outside of the western world include women being treated as subhuman, granted no freedom of choice, lack of voting rights, complete lack of access to abortion, etc. i met a couple people abroad who were trans identifying, but when basic human rights aren’t met gender identity doesn’t tend to be the first thing on someone’s mind. there’s a lot more nuance than the fact that there are cultural hurdles
you’re welcome <33 i’m glad i could help! i also had never done makeup prior to detransition but tutorials saved me and gave me enough confidence to go out without being so worried about my face. my messages are always open if you wanna talk, i know it can be really lonely esp if you have a lot of trans friends that might shun you for this kind of thing
i’m bipolar, went through an episode before being medicated, and i live in a state that prescribes hormones p freely. it was easier to go on t than find a psychiatrist. but anyway when the episode was over after three months on t i realized i fucked up and stopped taking it, so imo bipolar brains could def be more susceptible