Insecurity. Thats about it really. Its not uncommon to lie about plastic surgery, its all done to cure insecurites.

Altho hormones can change a lot, depending on when you start and how long you are on them.

It is harmfull though, to tell others your change is all done from hormones if its not.

Same reason most women look better than men ngl. In my opinion anyways.. especially if you just go into puberty/start T. Youll get acne and a heavier body smell, get more hungry. (A lot of FTM are shorter too, and end up eating way more than they should due to T hunger haha). Testosterone is aging as well.. and has a lot of physical changed that arent nessacarily considered attractive, (especially by socital womans standards probably socialized into you). You might end up taking on more traits of you dads appearance as well. You also have to worry about facial hair and styling it in an attractive way, which is hard to keep up. Takes some learning.

Its also up to .. personal preference and biology. Some people are just born not being "conventionally attractive ", others are. And doing HRT can cause an uncaney effect, which not everyone will/can find attractive. If ur already unnatractive, HTR might make that worse, unfortunately.

Also men generally care.. less?. Testosterone can you give you more confidence and less fucks given after a while.

Transitioning isnt about being pretty tho. Some of these people probably just want to satisfy their dysphoria but still have their intrests and style, which can lean feminine. That has nothing to do with transitioning imo.

And well.. i think a lot of trans people are mentally ill as well, and being trans on its own can cause depression , which makes it harder to take care of your body and appearance for some.

Idk, if you want to keep your look and not change physically, stop T? You dont have to stop being trans even if you do. i was on T for 5 years, realized i hated the changes, stopped.. i havent socially detransitioned tho(dont think i can or ever will either)

(End note: i have seen both FTM and MTF who are attractive and even more attractive after transitioning. Its all biology, luck and the effort you put into ur looks.)

It makes me feel confident. I like wearing clothes that are feminine (and show off my curves too) . I spent so long hating my body for it , wearing baggy clothes and hiding it. Im so tired of it. Now that im finally healing, i want to enjoy my body and dress in all the ways i thoguht i was too ugly for in the past.

Personally i dont care as long as a transwoman or transman actually passes. Wouldnt be able to tell. But i think brutal honesty about passing or not is nessacary.

I dont really pass as either ? I get called she and him left and right in public due to my very recent physical detransition , so i just use gender neutral bathrooms or make sure to not drink while im outside.

Hey, ive been going thru a lot of the similar issues in the past 2 years. I can only give you advice on how im dealing with it personally. First of all, i let go of the social expectations of gender roles. Being a man dosent mean needing to be masculine. Mentally, socially or even physically.

Secondly, and most importantly, i recognized that this is MY transition. I started it to find myself and become comfortable in MY own body. Thats the most important thing. Whats the point of all this treatment if im not happy with the results? There is no shame in going back if you wish to. And no shame if you regret that too later on and go back again.

Ive now realized that yes, i do want to be more feminine. I dont want to be on testosterone anymore. I do want long hair and feminine clothing. I do want no facial hair. So thats what im going to do, going of T soon, and getting facial hair removal. Going of T will feminize my body and face a lot.

This is YOUR journey and life. Find out what YOU want. That is the most important thing, finding comfort in your own body and expression.

Im not giving up being socially "a guy". Masculinity isnt for me, and thats okay. Ill still have "male" on my ID, have a male legal name, be a man. But I dont have change that to unless i in the future decide id rather be called a woman. These are just words. fitting into one of two gender roles is not something you need to do. Figure out what you want and Be who YOU want to be. You have the freedom over your own body. And fuck anyone who isnt supportive of it. Its YOUR life only.

Agree with this.. it really should be studied more. Wish i was given therapy related to it so i could figure myself out more before i did anything. I dont even know if therapy aimed at understanding and overcomming gender Dysphoria exsists.

I definitely cant belive transitioning is the only option and that its right for everyone.. and it should at the very least have an 21 age requirement.

In the start of Taking T, i felt better for a while. Arond 2 years honestly, then i keept taking it for 3 more because i was too scared. I think my trauma had a part in why i choose to transition, and completely becoming a new person felt like i was freeing myself from my past, and my body. But only as i started to heal from my trauma, i begain questioning my transition heavily. I wish i got off T long ago, or never got on it. Or at least waited until i was more mature and could figure things out mentally.

I kinda knew hormones affect our brains , .. but i didnt think it would be this severely. I feel like ive been stuck delusional for years. Completely isolated myself.

Im glad to hear you had the oposite affect tho, but there are ways to treat and help hallucinations and mental issues like this , if you ever decide you want to go off T. Im gonna have to do that myself. Dealing with both mental illness and transitioning can definitely be challenging.

Ive also had friends who have had both negative and positive changes mentally from HRT, i think it will always affect the mind, even if its not related to mental illness, and that's something i wish was more known/told about beforehand. As well as studied.

And thank you a lot❤️ itll be a hard journey but i know by now ill definitely come out better in the end. And i wish u good luck with ur own journey !

I belive they are separate and im heavily I am bothered by it. And bothered by the fact most of the trans community is not (for the most part).

I think sex is biological, purely physical, female and male , (woman and man are just terms less formal than female and male.)

And i define gender is seperate, a social construct of expectations to self expression and behavior. Feminity being associated with women and masculinity associated with males. Gender involves things from clothing, body language, and even personality (example: women are thoguht to be more emotional and empathic while men are thought to be strong emotionally and protective)

If anything, "gender" is just someone's individual personality and identity. Which is why people also try to greate "new genders" to explain themselfs, when this is very unnessacary. Its just a product of a society that put gender roles on people in the first place. Taught us we need to fit into a box to be accepted.

I belive women and men can "break" the expectations of the gender role society has made for them and still be just as much of a a woman or man. Its becoming more normal to do so, but society still has its grip on gender roles hard.(women often get shamed for being masculine and men get shamed for being feminine)

This is why i hold the belif "transgenderism" shouldnt exsist or isnt a real thing. I fully belive some people can have "gender Dysphoria ", but i belive this is something everyone can experience in some degree.

However, i do belive there is a mental disorder which can cause a person to feel dysphoric about their physical sex and wish/belive they should be the other sex. I myself have this, and thats why i started my physical transition in the first place. Im very gender non confirming and genderroles have no affect on my status as a trans person. I just think im mentally ill and theres no way to currently cure Dysphoria about ones own sex besdies changing ones body.

Now i dislike most of the transgender community because of the strong bonds they create with genderoles. Its confusing, illogical, they go around in circles and contradicting eachother left and right in this depabte on gender. I also belive it has no benefit in helping society break free from these gender roles, if anything it seems to make it harder and more confusing.

My end note here is, and very passionately so, is that transgenderism should not be a thing. And that those with sex dysphoria should be considered to be mentally disordered and that there needs to be more studies on why and how to help it. Someone who has dysphoria/discomfort about their gender expression or role IS VERY DIFFRENT from someone who has a deep disconnect and dysphoria about their physical sex. These are 2 completely diffrent things and should be treated as such and not be mixxed together as the same. (Its easy for someone to experience both because of how gender roles are tied to sex, but they should still be considered too diffrent issues, and need to be studied/treated and two different psychological issues)

(Also they cant define it well because if they admit or realize that gender is a social construct, their validity disapears and transgenderism cant exist. They would just be breaking gender roles. Which they should be pushing to create acceptance for instead.)

Not sure, sexuality can be complex. being hetrosexual is more common, so it makes sense a lot of trans people will see themselfs as gay after transitioning? Which is probably why its so common.

I liked men only when i transitioned. I identified as gay for a while. i got into a relationship with another trans guy, but recently with questioning if im trans or not, i figured out im bisexual. But i still have no intrest in women and never have. Even if they were masculine. but im very attracted to my partner sexually. Bisexuality but a specific kind i suppose, like both male and female "parts" , but the person most be male presenting and masculine otherwise (voice, flat chest, facial hair, personality) or i wont feel any attraction. Its definitely not a fetish for me though. I know there is bisexual people attracted to only feminine presenting people too, like cis women and trans women only.

I think its easier to be trans and date another trans person because it feels a bit less vunerable. I often see trans people say "its not about the parts but the identity ", and i honestly think thats them just being bisexual and not understanding people who are hetro or homo.

I do think some homosexual trans people might of transitioned to appear straight, but it dosent seem to be that common anymore. Especially now that being gay is more accepted. But everyone has their own personal and complex reasons for transitioning.

Im realizing that by now as the effects are starting to mess with my body and mind. Im pretty sure i do have gender dysphoria, but ive accepted long ago my sex is not something i can change, and the more ive tried the more obvious it becomes.

Im going to try birth control to avoid having a period because of how painfull and mentally upsetting it is for me. The advice ive been given in this comment section is very helpfull. Ive just felt trapped for so long feeling like ive had no other option than to contuine T.