how would i know if doubts are just nerves or a sign that i should stop?
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Featured Questions
The best questions to ask detrans people...
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What does trans mean?
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Have trans people always existed?
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What is the difference between sex and gender?
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Why do some people decide to detransition?
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Is it common for detransitioners to regret transitioning?
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Why do some people decide to retransition after detransitioning?
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Why do trans narratives about why people detransition and retransition differ from those who have actually detransitioned?
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What can detrans stories teach me, even if my transition is going well so far?
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How would I know if doubts are just nerves or a sign that I should stop?
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Do detrans people think transition itself is bad?
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What are some false claims made about transgender people?
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What are some false claims made about people who have detransitioned?
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What early signs do detrans folks wish they’d noticed sooner?
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Is gender a social construct? What does this mean?
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How have feminist movements historically viewed the concept of gender?
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Can gender-nonconformity reduce the pressure to conform to gender roles?
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How do detrans people describe the feeling of being ‘born in the wrong body’?
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What is gender-affirming care and what are its goals?
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What is gender-exploratory therapy, how does it differ from gender-affirming care?
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Why is gender-affirming care usually the only available treatment for gender dysphoria in most regions?
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Why do some people hate the idea of gender-exploratory therapy?
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What are puberty blockers and do they really pause puberty? Can they cause infertility or other side-effects?
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Do detransitioners usually regret medical steps, social steps, or both?
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What does the term ‘egg’ mean in trans communities?
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What is an identity trap and how do people typically realise they are in one?
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How can friends or family support someone who wants to start hormones?
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Where can someone look for a therapist who offers open-ended, non-directive gender exploration? What red-flags should I look out for?
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When does asking for pronouns help versus hinder gender-nonconforming people?
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If a young girl with short hair is constantly being asked for her pronouns, what is the implication and how would this make her feel?
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How do non-binary labels reinforce traditional gender stereotypes?
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What is cancel culture and what effects does it have on public health discourse?
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Do detrans people see transition as having an end-point or as an ongoing process?
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Why might some adolescent girls experience distress about breast development?
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How can online echo-chambers influence identity formation?
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Why do detransitioners often report feeling like their stories and voices are silenced in both trans and mainstream spaces?
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What demographic patterns are visible in referrals to gender clinics?
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How do contemporary queer identities differ from the earlier LGB movement?
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What does current research say about overlap between autism spectrum traits, gender dysphoria, and transgender identities?
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What evidence standards exist for gender-affirming medical protocols?
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Why is gender dysphoria no longer classified as a mental disorder in the DSM-5?
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How has trans prevalence changed in recent times and what might explain this?
General Terms
Understanding the fundamental concepts
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What is a man?
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What is a woman?
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What is gender?
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What are pronouns and why are they significant to some?
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What do trans people mean when they talk about 'trans rights'?
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Why do some trans people say 'death before detransition'?
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What is cancel culture?
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What is gender dysphoria?
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What factors are thought to cause dysphoria?
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What is the 'gender dysphoria bible'?
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What strategies (medical or non-medical) help people manage dysphoria?
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What is transgender identity?
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What is transphobia?
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What is non-binary identity?
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What is queer identity?
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How is personality different from gender identity?
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What is gender non-conformity (GNC)?
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What is gender conformity?
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What is detransitioning?
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What is desisting?
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Are intersex people automatically trans?
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What is gender fluidity?
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What do AFAB and AMAB mean?
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What is a TERF?
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What is deadnaming?
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What is misgendering?
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What is a cisgender person?
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What is meant by biological sex?
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What is the difference between social and medical transition?
The Medical Reality
Health, procedures, and biological truths
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What physiological changes can hormones induce and what are their limits?
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What is vaginal atrophy?
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What are the documented health risks of gender-affirming hormone therapy?
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How should someone weigh continuing versus discontinuing hormones?
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What does vaginoplasty entail and what are typical outcomes?
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What does phalloplasty entail and what are typical outcomes?
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What surgical revision options exist for either vaginoplasty or phalloplasty?
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How do different countries regulate public funding for gender surgeries?
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What options exist for chest reconstruction after mastectomy?
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What evidence exists for the timing of hormone initiation relative to mental-health assessment?
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What does ‘puberty blocker’ mean and what is known about reversibility?
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What long-term follow-up data exist for cross-sex hormone use?
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What are the WPATH Standards of Care and how are they developed?
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What is the Dutch Protocol?
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What is rapid-onset gender dysphoria (ROGD) and how is it studied?
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What are reported regret rates for various gender surgeries?
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What does gender-exploratory therapy look like in practice?
Society & Culture
How gender beleif systems affects us all
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Are there measurable differences in referral rates between males and females?
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How is gender dysphoria distinguished from mental illness in diagnostic manuals?
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What explanations exist for elevated suicide risk in trans populations?
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What does ‘gender-critical’ mean and how does it differ from trans-exclusionary views?
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How do online mantras or slogans affect critical thinking in any identity community?
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How has the concept of gender evolved historically?
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What does brain-imaging research say about ‘male’ versus ‘female’ brains?
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Why might autistic people be over-represented in gender clinics?
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How does contemporary gender discourse intersect with gay and lesbian identities?
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What are documented outcomes for children who socially transition early?
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How has trans activism interacted with earlier gay-rights activism?
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Is the rise in non-binary identification a cohort effect, a fashion, or something else?
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What is the ‘bathroom debate’ and what evidence exists for either harm or safety?
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What are the main arguments in the sports-participation controversy?
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How have schools handled gender-questioning pupils in different jurisdictions?
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What do detrans people think about drag queen story telling?
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What does ‘medicalisation of gender non-conforming children’ mean to critics and to advocates?
Psychology & Identity
Understanding the mental and emotional aspects
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What is the neurochemical cycle of validation?
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What is internalised misogyny and how might it relate to body distress?
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What is internalised homophobia?
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What is autogynephilia and how is it debated in the literature?
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What is gender euphoria?
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Can adopting a trans identity amplify dysphoria instead of relieving it?
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Why is external validation important to some trans people?
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What is the difference between body-dysmorphic disorder and gender dysphoria?
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What role does social-media play in people adopting gender identities?
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How might trauma histories interact with gender dysphoria?
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Can someone be a woman without being feminine, or a man without being masculine?
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What non-medical options exist for managing dysphoria?
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What does ‘passing’ mean and why can it become an obsession for some people?
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How do Jungian concepts of anima/animus relate to gender identity?
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What is shadow work and can it be used in therapy?
The Detransition Journey
Healing, support, and finding your way back
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Does detransition mean the original transition was a failure?
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How can transition and detransition both be part of the same healing arc?
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What parallels do clinicians draw between gender dysphoria and eating disorders?
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Where can someone find therapists experienced in detransition support?
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What evidence exists for the effectiveness of CBT or DBT in managing dysphoria?
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How can someone grieve and accept body changes they no longer want?
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Why do some trans communities discourage reading detransition narratives?
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What support groups exist specifically for detransitioners?
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How can someone come out (again) to family as detransitioning?
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What are common stages of grief reported during detransition?
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What role have psychedelic drugs played in some detrans stories?
Academic & Research Bias
Questioning the narrative in institutions
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What methodological concerns have been raised about major detransition surveys?
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Why do researchers report difficulty securing funding for detransition studies?
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Do researchers who currently identify as trans have a conflict of interest?
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What was the Cass Review and what recommendations did it produce?
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What happened to Lisa Littman’s 2018 study on ROGD?
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What is the Tavistock clinic review and why was it commissioned?
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How was gender dysphoria re-classified between DSM-IV and DSM-5?
Controversial Perspectives
Detrans perspectives that gender activists really don't want you to hear
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Are some people making a lot of money out of gender-affirming care?
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What structural factors lead to under-representation of detransition stories in mainstream media?
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In what ways do gender belief systems resemble religions or cults?
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Are schools sidelining parents when children make choices about gender identity?