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ocd Detransition Stories & Timelines

Browse through 162 unique detransition stories and timelines of people who haved shared their experiences in the /r/detrans subreddit, which is the largest open collection of detransition stories and experiences on the internet!

These stories have been summarised with the help of AI.
On Reddit, people often share their experiences across multiple comments or posts. To make this information more accessible, our AI gathers all of those scattered pieces into a single, easy-to-read summary and timeline. All system prompts are noted on the prompts page.

Only users who have shared enough to put together a full story and timeline are included. Users that have posted less than five comments or their comments that received less than three upvotes are disregarded. Posts are not yet included in the dataset.

Every user has been analysed for signs of bot generated or inauthentic content. Any account that does not appear to be a genuine de-transitioner is flagged 'suspicious'. These accounts will be manually reviewed and removed from the detrans.ai dataset if they are found to be inauthentic. Accounts that have made fewer than five comments have been ommitted from analysis.
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/u/xnyvbb

527 comments • Posting since 5/2/2020
Transitioned at 19 -> Detransitioned at 20

I was a girl who felt uncomfortable with my body and thought I was supposed to be a boy, influenced by online communities and a past relationship. My transition, including testosterone and surgery, was traumatic and triggered severe health issues, leaving me with permanent changes. I realized my feelings were rooted in trauma, autism, and OCD, not in being male. I am now focused on accepting my female body and healing from my past. I deeply regret my choices and am undergoing expensive procedures to try and feel like myself again.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
benefited from psychedelic drugs
sexuality changed
autistic
ocd

/u/Hedera_Thorn

469 comments • Posting since 4/11/2024
Transitioned at 16

I was a feminine boy who started my transition as a teenager because I was bullied and wanted to escape becoming a man after a traumatic experience. I had surgery and lived as female for years, but it never fixed my deeper problems with trauma and internalized homophobia. I now deeply regret it, as the surgeries left me with permanent pain and infertility. I've come to understand my dysphoria was never about being the wrong sex. I'm now in my 30s, finding peace by accepting reality and sharing my story to help others.

male
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
homosexual
ocd

/u/UniquelyDefined

414 comments • Posting since 5/20/2022
Transitioned at 25 -> Detransitioned at 26

I started identifying as non-binary at 25, thinking it was the answer to my deep discomfort and depression. I was convinced to try hormones, but just one month of estrogen caused permanent, painful breast growth and other changes. I realized I had made a terrible mistake based on internal issues, not because I was born the wrong sex. Now, I’m focused on healing and have learned my problems were from trauma and other conditions, not my body. I’m waiting for surgery to fix the damage and am finally learning to just be myself.

male
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
porn problem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
serious health complications
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
autistic
ocd

/u/novaskyd

333 comments • Posting since 10/21/2019
Transitioned at 17 -> Desisted at 22

I started identifying as a trans man in my late teens because I was a lonely, anxious kid who didn't fit in with other girls. I lived as a man for four years and even got a prescription for testosterone, but using the gel never felt right and made me hesitate. What really changed things was realizing I could still enjoy feminine things and that there's no single way to be a woman. Now, I'm comfortable living as a female; I'm married with kids and see my body for what it can do, not just how it looks. Looking back, I believe my anxiety and social pressures played a big role, and I'm grateful I found my way through it without medical intervention.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced online
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
only transitioned socially
autistic
ocd
had religious background

/u/neitherdreams

208 comments • Posting since 12/10/2023

I grew up in a strict home where being a girl felt like a punishment, which made me want to disappear. I tried to escape by creating a genderless persona online and cutting my hair, but it was really about safety, not identity. I never medically transitioned, and I'm grateful for that now because it gave me time to heal. Through therapy and moving out, I slowly realized my discomfort came from trauma, not from being female. I'm now learning to accept myself as a woman, and I'm focused on the harm caused by pushing medical solutions on vulnerable young people.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
anxiety
only transitioned socially
autistic
eating disorder
ocd
had religious background

/u/stepstepstep77

130 comments • Posting since 7/31/2021
Transitioned at 20 -> Detransitioned at 23

I was born female and started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties, partly because I felt I never fit in with other women. My journey was heavily influenced by my social circle and undiagnosed mental health issues like depression and OCD, which made my feelings about my body feel so urgent. I took testosterone for nine months but stopped because the reality of being trans didn't match my fantasy and the medical burden was too high. Now, I'm a married mother, and while I don't regret the path that led me here, I still struggle with the permanent changes from testosterone. Zoloft has helped quiet the obsessive thoughts, and I've learned to just focus on building a good life as a person in a female body.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced by friends
now infertile
body dysmorphia
homosexual
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
ocd
had religious background
become non-religious

/u/pekingnoodle

118 comments • Posting since 9/14/2022

I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable with female puberty and felt I didn't fit in with other girls. I took testosterone for years, but I eventually realized I was just being seen as a masculine woman and I hated the loneliness of being perceived as a man. I canceled my planned top surgery after learning about the serious risks, which I'm so grateful for now. I stopped testosterone, my body recovered, and I was later able to have children. Now I see my body as a whole system to be accepted, not changed, and I've built a happy life focused on my family.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced online
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
ocd

/u/Sugared_Strawberry

115 comments • Posting since 10/22/2022
Detransitioned at 20

I was a female who transitioned to male as a teenager, believing it would fix my deep unhappiness. After four years on testosterone, I felt isolated and realized the life I truly wanted was as a woman. I suddenly decided to detransition and my mental health has improved dramatically since accepting my body. I now see my dysphoria was rooted in other mental health issues, not my sex. I am at peace living as a masculine woman and believe my problems were in my mind, not my body.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
porn problem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
serious health complications
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
autistic
ocd

/u/toobertpoondert

108 comments • Posting since 3/11/2022
Transitioned at 19 -> Detransitioned at 27

I started questioning my gender in college when I met trans friends, thinking it was the answer to my unhappiness. I lived as nonbinary for six years, using a different name and considering medical steps. My real breakthrough came when I started therapy and finally dealt with the sexual trauma and anxiety that were the true roots of my distress. I realized my identity had been a coping mechanism, not a solution, and I found peace in understanding that being a woman doesn't require me to fit any stereotype. I'm now a happy, gender-nonconforming lesbian who is fully comfortable in my female body.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
regrets transitioning
trauma
homosexual
started as non-binary
benefited from non-affirming therapy
ocd

/u/Froidinslip

104 comments • Posting since 7/20/2020

I was born female and as a teen, I prayed to wake up intersex because I hated my body and envied the power I associated with men. I now see my distress was rooted in societal pressures, internalized misogyny, and my own OCD, not from being born in the wrong body. I looked into medical transition but am grateful I never went through with it, as my issues were about self-acceptance, not my sex. I've learned that masculinity and being female are not mutually exclusive. Today, I accept myself as a masculine woman, and my identity is about who I am as a person, not a gender label.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
puberty discomfort
anxiety
only transitioned socially
ocd

/u/split_skunk

102 comments • Posting since 10/20/2022
Transitioned at 20 -> Detransitioned at 20

I started questioning my gender at 20, influenced by my online community and a personal fetish, and I was quickly prescribed estrogen. The physical changes were immediate and permanent, which was traumatic and made me realize my motivations were more sexual than identity-based. I stopped after just two doses, but I’ve been left with lasting breast tissue and sexual dysfunction. My recovery has been a long, difficult process of accepting these irreversible changes. This experience has made me deeply critical of how easily these medical interventions are accessed.

male
internalised homophobia
porn problem
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
now infertile
body dysmorphia
anxiety
autistic
ocd

/u/lmnop-etc

101 comments • Posting since 9/28/2021

I was pushed into a medical transition I never wanted by a therapist who misread my OCD fears as a desire to be a man. I was on testosterone for five miserable years and had a double mastectomy, feeling completely disconnected from myself. I stopped after a breakdown made me realize I had been coerced. Now, I'm healing from the trauma and have reclaimed my life as a woman, even finding my singing voice again. My body is permanently changed, but I've learned to accept myself and finally deal with my actual conditions.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got top surgery
autistic
ocd

/u/CarsonContinues

101 comments • Posting since 7/29/2019
Transitioned at 20

I was born female and spent years feeling a deep, physical wrongness with my body that I couldn't explain. I finally understood it as a form of gender dysphoria in my thirties and decided to have top surgery, which completely relieved my distress. I also tried testosterone but stopped because the mental changes weren't right for me, though my deeper voice remained. Now, I live happily as a woman with a flat chest, and I have no regrets about the path I took for my well-being. My journey taught me that solving physical discomfort is a personal choice, not about fitting into a specific label.

female
took hormones
got top surgery
anxiety
doesn't regret transitioning
ocd
had religious background

/u/ClydeFallon

100 comments • Posting since 8/20/2022
Transitioned at 14 -> Detransitioned at 17

I started socially transitioning at 14 and was on testosterone by 15, believing it would fix my depression and OCD. My doctors and therapists rushed me through, assuring my mom and me it was the only path, without ever addressing my underlying mental health. I had top surgery at 17 and was immediately crushed by regret, realizing I had destroyed my natural female body. I am now filled with anger at the medical professionals who failed me and am struggling to accept my irreversible changes. I'm trying to move forward with voice training and new medication, but at 17, I feel my life was stolen before it began.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
got top surgery
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
anxiety
eating disorder
ocd
trans kid

/u/SelfLoveAlwways

94 comments • Posting since 4/20/2023

I'm a bisexual man who started creating a female persona to cope with internalized homophobia and confusion. My journey was deeply influenced by severe depression and OCD, which made me doubt my own body and seek validation from others. I now see my experience as a form of escapism from underlying mental health issues that needed proper care, not medicalization. Today, I live happily as a gender-nonconforming man and have found peace through radical self-acceptance and therapy. My most important lesson was learning to validate myself and love the male body I was born with.

male
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
depression
influenced online
anxiety
suspicious account
ocd

/u/ReasonableTable401

86 comments • Posting since 10/25/2022

I spent most of my life thinking I wanted to be a girl because I liked feminine things and felt uncomfortable with rigid male stereotypes. The pressure that I had to transition or I would be miserable made my self-hatred much worse. My turning point was finding a therapist who helped me tackle my underlying OCD instead of affirming a transgender identity. I learned my problem wasn't my male body, but my inability to accept that a man could be like me. I now live as a gender non-conforming man, and while the world is still difficult, I am finally learning to accept myself.

male
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
regrets transitioning
escapism
depression
influenced online
puberty discomfort
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
ocd
had religious background

/u/marshpie

86 comments • Posting since 2/26/2020
Transitioned at 19 -> Detransitioned at 28

I felt like a boy trapped in a girl's body from a very young age, and discovering the trans community online as a teenager made me believe that medically transitioning was my only solution. I lived as a man for eight years but was always terrified of the permanent changes and potential complications from surgery and hormones. A turning point came when I wore a dress to a wedding and realized my fear was mostly in my head, and I also realized I deeply wanted to have children someday. I now understand my discomfort wasn't with my body itself, but was rooted in internalized misogyny and the pressure to fit a feminine stereotype. I am a masculine lesbian woman who is finally learning to separate my interests from my identity and make peace with being female.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced online
now infertile
homosexual
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
doesn't regret transitioning
benefited from non-affirming therapy
ocd
trans kid

/u/butchcomm

84 comments • Posting since 7/28/2020

I'm a masculine lesbian who started feeling intense discomfort with my body as a teen. I realized medical transition was a major intervention for what was, for me, an emotional problem, so I decided against it. A lot of my healing came from letting go of the idea of a gender identity and accepting that I am a female person. Finding community with other dysphoric, masculine women showed me I wasn't alone and helped me accept myself. Now, I manage my dysphoria through therapy and weightlifting, and I'm at peace with my choice to live without medical intervention.

female
hated breasts
body dysmorphia
homosexual
puberty discomfort
anxiety
ocd

/u/anthonypreacher

79 comments • Posting since 2/12/2025

I was a masculine girl who started testosterone in my early twenties to cope with my deep discomfort with being female, which was heavily influenced by my OCD. I saw it as a form of body modification that gave me a sense of control and relief from my dysphoria. I had to stop when it caused severe bladder and pelvic floor problems, which was devastating both physically and mentally. I now see that I was always a woman using hormones as a medical treatment, not a solution to a gendered identity. I am now detransitioned, managing my health issues and continuing my daily battle with the obsessive thoughts that fuel my discomfort.

female
porn problem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
serious health complications
body dysmorphia
puberty discomfort
benefited from non-affirming therapy
eating disorder
ocd

/u/DetraBlues

79 comments • Posting since 6/13/2019
Transitioned at 14 -> Detransitioned at 18

I was a masculine girl who never fit in, and my deep discomfort with my body led me to start identifying as male and taking testosterone at 14. I now see my dysphoria was tied to not liking female stereotypes and was worsened by my OCD, acting like an obsessive thought I couldn't escape. After working on my mental health and learning to manage the dysphoria, it faded, and I realized I wasn't a man, so I stopped testosterone at 18. The physical and social process of detransition was difficult, but I've found peace in simply being a masculine woman. I'm comfortable now just being me, accepting my body without needing any labels.

female
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
influenced online
serious health complications
anxiety
autistic
ocd
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