ocd Detransition Stories & Timelines
Browse through 162 unique detransition stories and timelines of people who haved shared their experiences in the /r/detrans subreddit, which is the largest open collection of detransition stories and experiences on the internet!
These stories have been summarised with the help of AI.
/u/xnyvbb
I was a girl who felt uncomfortable with my body and thought I was supposed to be a boy, influenced by online communities and a past relationship. My transition, including testosterone and surgery, was traumatic and triggered severe health issues, leaving me with permanent changes. I realized my feelings were rooted in trauma, autism, and OCD, not in being male. I am now focused on accepting my female body and healing from my past. I deeply regret my choices and am undergoing expensive procedures to try and feel like myself again.
/u/Hedera_Thorn
I was a feminine boy who started my transition as a teenager because I was bullied and wanted to escape becoming a man after a traumatic experience. I had surgery and lived as female for years, but it never fixed my deeper problems with trauma and internalized homophobia. I now deeply regret it, as the surgeries left me with permanent pain and infertility. I've come to understand my dysphoria was never about being the wrong sex. I'm now in my 30s, finding peace by accepting reality and sharing my story to help others.
/u/UniquelyDefined
I started identifying as non-binary at 25, thinking it was the answer to my deep discomfort and depression. I was convinced to try hormones, but just one month of estrogen caused permanent, painful breast growth and other changes. I realized I had made a terrible mistake based on internal issues, not because I was born the wrong sex. Now, I’m focused on healing and have learned my problems were from trauma and other conditions, not my body. I’m waiting for surgery to fix the damage and am finally learning to just be myself.
/u/novaskyd
I started identifying as a trans man in my late teens because I was a lonely, anxious kid who didn't fit in with other girls. I lived as a man for four years and even got a prescription for testosterone, but using the gel never felt right and made me hesitate. What really changed things was realizing I could still enjoy feminine things and that there's no single way to be a woman. Now, I'm comfortable living as a female; I'm married with kids and see my body for what it can do, not just how it looks. Looking back, I believe my anxiety and social pressures played a big role, and I'm grateful I found my way through it without medical intervention.
/u/neitherdreams
I grew up in a strict home where being a girl felt like a punishment, which made me want to disappear. I tried to escape by creating a genderless persona online and cutting my hair, but it was really about safety, not identity. I never medically transitioned, and I'm grateful for that now because it gave me time to heal. Through therapy and moving out, I slowly realized my discomfort came from trauma, not from being female. I'm now learning to accept myself as a woman, and I'm focused on the harm caused by pushing medical solutions on vulnerable young people.
/u/stepstepstep77
I was born female and started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties, partly because I felt I never fit in with other women. My journey was heavily influenced by my social circle and undiagnosed mental health issues like depression and OCD, which made my feelings about my body feel so urgent. I took testosterone for nine months but stopped because the reality of being trans didn't match my fantasy and the medical burden was too high. Now, I'm a married mother, and while I don't regret the path that led me here, I still struggle with the permanent changes from testosterone. Zoloft has helped quiet the obsessive thoughts, and I've learned to just focus on building a good life as a person in a female body.
/u/pekingnoodle
I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable with female puberty and felt I didn't fit in with other girls. I took testosterone for years, but I eventually realized I was just being seen as a masculine woman and I hated the loneliness of being perceived as a man. I canceled my planned top surgery after learning about the serious risks, which I'm so grateful for now. I stopped testosterone, my body recovered, and I was later able to have children. Now I see my body as a whole system to be accepted, not changed, and I've built a happy life focused on my family.
/u/Sugared_Strawberry
I was a female who transitioned to male as a teenager, believing it would fix my deep unhappiness. After four years on testosterone, I felt isolated and realized the life I truly wanted was as a woman. I suddenly decided to detransition and my mental health has improved dramatically since accepting my body. I now see my dysphoria was rooted in other mental health issues, not my sex. I am at peace living as a masculine woman and believe my problems were in my mind, not my body.
/u/toobertpoondert
I started questioning my gender in college when I met trans friends, thinking it was the answer to my unhappiness. I lived as nonbinary for six years, using a different name and considering medical steps. My real breakthrough came when I started therapy and finally dealt with the sexual trauma and anxiety that were the true roots of my distress. I realized my identity had been a coping mechanism, not a solution, and I found peace in understanding that being a woman doesn't require me to fit any stereotype. I'm now a happy, gender-nonconforming lesbian who is fully comfortable in my female body.
/u/Froidinslip
I was born female and as a teen, I prayed to wake up intersex because I hated my body and envied the power I associated with men. I now see my distress was rooted in societal pressures, internalized misogyny, and my own OCD, not from being born in the wrong body. I looked into medical transition but am grateful I never went through with it, as my issues were about self-acceptance, not my sex. I've learned that masculinity and being female are not mutually exclusive. Today, I accept myself as a masculine woman, and my identity is about who I am as a person, not a gender label.
/u/split_skunk
I started questioning my gender at 20, influenced by my online community and a personal fetish, and I was quickly prescribed estrogen. The physical changes were immediate and permanent, which was traumatic and made me realize my motivations were more sexual than identity-based. I stopped after just two doses, but I’ve been left with lasting breast tissue and sexual dysfunction. My recovery has been a long, difficult process of accepting these irreversible changes. This experience has made me deeply critical of how easily these medical interventions are accessed.
/u/lmnop-etc
I was pushed into a medical transition I never wanted by a therapist who misread my OCD fears as a desire to be a man. I was on testosterone for five miserable years and had a double mastectomy, feeling completely disconnected from myself. I stopped after a breakdown made me realize I had been coerced. Now, I'm healing from the trauma and have reclaimed my life as a woman, even finding my singing voice again. My body is permanently changed, but I've learned to accept myself and finally deal with my actual conditions.
/u/CarsonContinues
I was born female and spent years feeling a deep, physical wrongness with my body that I couldn't explain. I finally understood it as a form of gender dysphoria in my thirties and decided to have top surgery, which completely relieved my distress. I also tried testosterone but stopped because the mental changes weren't right for me, though my deeper voice remained. Now, I live happily as a woman with a flat chest, and I have no regrets about the path I took for my well-being. My journey taught me that solving physical discomfort is a personal choice, not about fitting into a specific label.
/u/ClydeFallon
I started socially transitioning at 14 and was on testosterone by 15, believing it would fix my depression and OCD. My doctors and therapists rushed me through, assuring my mom and me it was the only path, without ever addressing my underlying mental health. I had top surgery at 17 and was immediately crushed by regret, realizing I had destroyed my natural female body. I am now filled with anger at the medical professionals who failed me and am struggling to accept my irreversible changes. I'm trying to move forward with voice training and new medication, but at 17, I feel my life was stolen before it began.
/u/SelfLoveAlwways
I'm a bisexual man who started creating a female persona to cope with internalized homophobia and confusion. My journey was deeply influenced by severe depression and OCD, which made me doubt my own body and seek validation from others. I now see my experience as a form of escapism from underlying mental health issues that needed proper care, not medicalization. Today, I live happily as a gender-nonconforming man and have found peace through radical self-acceptance and therapy. My most important lesson was learning to validate myself and love the male body I was born with.
/u/ReasonableTable401
I spent most of my life thinking I wanted to be a girl because I liked feminine things and felt uncomfortable with rigid male stereotypes. The pressure that I had to transition or I would be miserable made my self-hatred much worse. My turning point was finding a therapist who helped me tackle my underlying OCD instead of affirming a transgender identity. I learned my problem wasn't my male body, but my inability to accept that a man could be like me. I now live as a gender non-conforming man, and while the world is still difficult, I am finally learning to accept myself.
/u/marshpie
I felt like a boy trapped in a girl's body from a very young age, and discovering the trans community online as a teenager made me believe that medically transitioning was my only solution. I lived as a man for eight years but was always terrified of the permanent changes and potential complications from surgery and hormones. A turning point came when I wore a dress to a wedding and realized my fear was mostly in my head, and I also realized I deeply wanted to have children someday. I now understand my discomfort wasn't with my body itself, but was rooted in internalized misogyny and the pressure to fit a feminine stereotype. I am a masculine lesbian woman who is finally learning to separate my interests from my identity and make peace with being female.
/u/butchcomm
I'm a masculine lesbian who started feeling intense discomfort with my body as a teen. I realized medical transition was a major intervention for what was, for me, an emotional problem, so I decided against it. A lot of my healing came from letting go of the idea of a gender identity and accepting that I am a female person. Finding community with other dysphoric, masculine women showed me I wasn't alone and helped me accept myself. Now, I manage my dysphoria through therapy and weightlifting, and I'm at peace with my choice to live without medical intervention.
/u/anthonypreacher
I was a masculine girl who started testosterone in my early twenties to cope with my deep discomfort with being female, which was heavily influenced by my OCD. I saw it as a form of body modification that gave me a sense of control and relief from my dysphoria. I had to stop when it caused severe bladder and pelvic floor problems, which was devastating both physically and mentally. I now see that I was always a woman using hormones as a medical treatment, not a solution to a gendered identity. I am now detransitioned, managing my health issues and continuing my daily battle with the obsessive thoughts that fuel my discomfort.
/u/DetraBlues
I was a masculine girl who never fit in, and my deep discomfort with my body led me to start identifying as male and taking testosterone at 14. I now see my dysphoria was tied to not liking female stereotypes and was worsened by my OCD, acting like an obsessive thought I couldn't escape. After working on my mental health and learning to manage the dysphoria, it faded, and I realized I wasn't a man, so I stopped testosterone at 18. The physical and social process of detransition was difficult, but I've found peace in simply being a masculine woman. I'm comfortable now just being me, accepting my body without needing any labels.