benefited from non-affirming therapy Detransition Stories & Timelines
Browse through 579 unique detransition stories and timelines of people who haved shared their experiences in the /r/detrans subreddit, which is the largest open collection of detransition stories and experiences on the internet!
These stories have been summarised with the help of AI.
/u/UniquelyDefined
I started identifying as non-binary at 25, thinking it was the answer to my deep discomfort and depression. I was convinced to try hormones, but just one month of estrogen caused permanent, painful breast growth and other changes. I realized I had made a terrible mistake based on internal issues, not because I was born the wrong sex. Now, I’m focused on healing and have learned my problems were from trauma and other conditions, not my body. I’m waiting for surgery to fix the damage and am finally learning to just be myself.
/u/sara7147
I watched my happy, athletic daughter suddenly declare she was a boy after being immersed in trans content online, which felt like a social trend, not something coming from within her. I believe she was struggling with the normal awkwardness of puberty and social rejection, and she latched onto this as a solution. I refused medical interventions and instead found a therapist who focused on her underlying mental health without pushing any labels. We focused on family time and real self-acceptance, and it was a slow, difficult journey with many ups and downs. Now, I believe my role was to love her through her pain and protect her from making irreversible decisions based on a temporary feeling.
/u/TheDorkyDane
I started as a lonely young woman who felt like an outsider, and I later learned my struggles were due to a personality disorder, not being born the wrong sex. I'm terrified by how quickly doctors push permanent, damaging treatments on confused kids, which I believe is creating a lifetime of medical problems. Through therapy, I learned to accept myself as a woman with both masculine and feminine interests. Now, I advocate for honesty about these dangers, believing your value comes from who you are, not from changing your body. We need to be kind and let people be unique individuals without harmful labels or procedures.
/u/wetfart41968
I started wanting to transition after learning about it online as a kid, feeling like a complete alien around other girls. My journey was driven by trauma, strict gender roles, and a deep desire to escape being female after an assault. I took testosterone for over two years and lived as a man, but it didn't fix my anxiety or self-esteem. I stopped because I realized I needed to address my root issues in therapy, not change my body. Now I'm learning to accept myself as a woman with a unique history, even with the permanent changes from testosterone.
/u/Lucretia123
I'm a female who started transitioning after a sexual assault made me feel disconnected from my body. I thought becoming a man would let me escape my pain, so I took testosterone and had surgery. I now realize my discomfort was from trauma, not my true self, and I regret the permanent changes. I've stopped hormones and am focusing on healing through therapy and outdoor activities. I'm learning to accept my body as it is and move forward.
/u/Sonderosity
I started transitioning in my early twenties, believing testosterone was the answer to my deep unhappiness and depression. For several years, I felt more confident, but I eventually realized I was using it as a workaround for trauma and self-hatred instead of healing. I stopped hormones a couple of years ago, and the process was physically and emotionally difficult. I'm now living as a woman again and dealing with permanent changes like a deeper voice. My journey taught me that true peace comes from self-acceptance, not from changing my body.
/u/SnooCompliments8762
I started identifying as trans as a teenager to escape the discomfort of female puberty and past trauma. I was quickly given testosterone and surgery by doctors who never questioned my underlying issues. I eventually realized I didn't hate being female, I just hated how women are treated in society. Now, I am a detransitioned woman living with permanent physical changes I deeply regret. I feel betrayed by the medical system and have found peace in accepting myself as a woman.
/u/keycoinandcandle
I'm a man in my mid-thirties who once believed my sensitive, feminine traits meant I was trans. My confusion was fueled by social pressure and a porn addiction that warped my view of womanhood. I realized my idea of being a woman was based on stereotypes, and that it was better to just be a feminine man. I'm now happily married with a daughter, completely at peace with my biological sex. My journey taught me that accepting my body, not changing it, was the key to my happiness.
/u/DEVlLlSH
I started feeling uncomfortable with my female body when I hit puberty at age ten. I discovered transgender ideas online at thirteen and began taking testosterone at fourteen, followed by surgery at sixteen. I eventually realized I wasn't becoming a man, just a female who had permanently altered my body. Now, I've stopped hormones and am learning to accept myself, though I live with many permanent changes. My journey taught me that my discomfort came from internal issues, not from being born the wrong sex.
/u/neongrayjoy
I started transitioning to male at 23 when doctors offered it as the only solution for feeling disconnected from my ill body, and getting testosterone was way too easy. For five years, I lived as a man and liked the respect and strength it gave me, but it always felt like a costume and my underlying mental health issues were completely ignored. My health collapsed from the hormones, and when I treated my physical inflammation at 28, my dysphoria vanished and I realized I could never actually change my sex. I detransitioned out of necessity, not happiness, and I deeply regret the permanent harm I did to my body, like losing my fertility. Now at 33, I'm pregnant and finally making peace with my female body, understanding that true healing meant investigating my problems, not just affirming them.
/u/scoutydouty
I was a traumatized girl who saw transition as an escape from my painful reality and started testosterone at 18 with no questions asked. The changes were rapid and physically agonizing, and even as I passed as male, my dysphoria and paranoia only got worse. I finally realized my desire wasn't to be a man, but to escape the trauma of being a woman, and I stopped testosterone after nearly three years. Detransitioning was incredibly difficult and I lost friends, but through proper therapy, I found peace and learned to accept my female body. I'm now in a much better place, free from dysphoria, and I believe I was failed by a system that offered me a medical solution for a problem that needed psychological care.
/u/NeurologyDivergent
I was born female and felt pressured to transition after joining an activist group in college, but it never felt right. My body dysphoria was intense, but I realized it was rooted in society's narrow expectations for women, not my actual female body. I overcame it by reframing my thoughts through exercise and mental tricks, learning to appreciate my form instead of fighting it. I never medically transitioned and am so glad I didn't. I'm now a confident woman who defines femininity for myself, finding true freedom in self-acceptance.
/u/stepstepstep77
I was born female and started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties, partly because I felt I never fit in with other women. My journey was heavily influenced by my social circle and undiagnosed mental health issues like depression and OCD, which made my feelings about my body feel so urgent. I took testosterone for nine months but stopped because the reality of being trans didn't match my fantasy and the medical burden was too high. Now, I'm a married mother, and while I don't regret the path that led me here, I still struggle with the permanent changes from testosterone. Zoloft has helped quiet the obsessive thoughts, and I've learned to just focus on building a good life as a person in a female body.
/u/detransdyke
I started thinking I was trans at thirteen because I felt so uncomfortable with my female body. I began testosterone at nineteen, but after six months I realized changing my body wasn't fixing the dysphoria in my mind. I stopped the hormones, and I'm now a masculine woman who is comfortable with any pronouns. My short time on testosterone caused severe, chronic health problems that I'll have to manage for life. I've found peace by rejecting gender roles and treating my dysphoria as a mental health issue with therapy.
/u/Equivalent-Cow-6122
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, as I hated the changes in my body and felt I didn't fit in. I was influenced by online communities that convinced me becoming a man was the solution to my low self-esteem and unhappiness. I now see my dysphoria was a symptom of deeper issues like trauma, not a need to be male. Stepping away from those toxic spaces and focusing on my mental health allowed me to accept that I am, and always will be, a woman. I am finally happy and healthy, living authentically without trying to change my body.
/u/detrans-ModTeam
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my developing female body when I was a teenager, and I thought that meant I wasn't really a girl. I identified as non-binary and socially transitioned for a few years, believing it was the answer to my anxiety and unhappiness. I eventually realized my feelings were more about internalized issues and societal pressures than an innate identity. Through therapy, I worked through my underlying struggles and learned to separate myself from harmful stereotypes. I am now comfortable and at peace with being female, and I see my journey as a difficult but important lesson in self-acceptance.
/u/chocolatecakedonut
My gender dysphoria started when I was three, and I thought becoming a woman was the only way to fix the deep discomfort I felt with my male body. I transitioned in my early twenties, but everything changed when I remembered the severe childhood abuse I suffered, which was directly linked to being forced to act like a girl. I realized my desire to transition was a trauma response, so I stopped hormones and began to detransition, which was incredibly difficult and isolating. Through therapy focused on my trauma, I've been able to understand the roots of my dysphoria and it has lessened significantly. I'm now learning to accept myself as a man, and I believe the most important thing is to be yourself without changing your body to fit a stereotype.
/u/pekingnoodle
I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable with female puberty and felt I didn't fit in with other girls. I took testosterone for years, but I eventually realized I was just being seen as a masculine woman and I hated the loneliness of being perceived as a man. I canceled my planned top surgery after learning about the serious risks, which I'm so grateful for now. I stopped testosterone, my body recovered, and I was later able to have children. Now I see my body as a whole system to be accepted, not changed, and I've built a happy life focused on my family.
/u/Sugared_Strawberry
I was a female who transitioned to male as a teenager, believing it would fix my deep unhappiness. After four years on testosterone, I felt isolated and realized the life I truly wanted was as a woman. I suddenly decided to detransition and my mental health has improved dramatically since accepting my body. I now see my dysphoria was rooted in other mental health issues, not my sex. I am at peace living as a masculine woman and believe my problems were in my mind, not my body.
/u/skeezix21585
I started testosterone at 22, believing it was the answer to my deep unhappiness, and I lived as a man for over a decade. The hormones induced severe mania and psychosis, and I became addicted to the high they gave me, which destroyed my mental health and left me isolated. My faith community helped me see I needed to find sanity, and I began to detransition in my mid-30s with the help of antipsychotic medication. I am now 38 and living as a woman again, finally at peace with the dysphoria gone, but I am left with permanent physical damage. I deeply regret transitioning, as I believe it was a trap that exacerbated my mental illness and cost me over a decade of my life.