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Browse through 726 unique detransition stories and timelines of people who haved shared their experiences in the /r/detrans subreddit, which is the largest open collection of detransition stories and experiences on the internet!

These stories have been summarised with the help of AI.
On Reddit, people often share their experiences across multiple comments or posts. To make this information more accessible, our AI gathers all of those scattered pieces into a single, easy-to-read summary and timeline. All system prompts are noted on the prompts page.

Only users who have shared enough to put together a full story and timeline are included. Users that have posted less than five comments or their comments that received less than three upvotes are disregarded. Posts are not yet included in the dataset.

Every user has been analysed for signs of bot generated or inauthentic content. Any account that does not appear to be a genuine de-transitioner is flagged 'suspicious'. These accounts will be manually reviewed and removed from the detrans.ai dataset if they are found to be inauthentic. Accounts that have made fewer than five comments have been ommitted from analysis.
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/u/xnyvbb

527 comments • Posting since 5/2/2020
Transitioned at 19 -> Detransitioned at 20

I was a girl who felt uncomfortable with my body and thought I was supposed to be a boy, influenced by online communities and a past relationship. My transition, including testosterone and surgery, was traumatic and triggered severe health issues, leaving me with permanent changes. I realized my feelings were rooted in trauma, autism, and OCD, not in being male. I am now focused on accepting my female body and healing from my past. I deeply regret my choices and am undergoing expensive procedures to try and feel like myself again.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
benefited from psychedelic drugs
sexuality changed
autistic
ocd

/u/Werevulvi

478 comments • Posting since 8/11/2019
Transitioned at 20 -> Detransitioned at 29

I was born female and transitioned to live as a man for nine years, starting when I was twenty. I later realized my dysphoria came from trauma and internalized homophobia, not from being truly transgender. I detransitioned after a sudden breakthrough where I integrated with a dissociative part of myself and my perspective completely shifted. I now live as a woman again, but I grieve my mastectomy every day and struggle with my permanently deep voice and beard. Despite the pain, I am finally at peace with being a lesbian and am healing from the past.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got top surgery
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
sexuality changed
autistic

/u/trialeterror

321 comments • Posting since 1/18/2019
Transitioned at 16 -> Detransitioned at 27

I wanted to be a boy from a very young age and started medically transitioning in my mid-twenties. I took testosterone and had top surgery, but I realized it could never make me truly male. I detransitioned because I accepted I am female and that my dysphoria came from trauma and unhealthy thought patterns. While surgery relieved some distress, I now live with chronic pain and some regrets. I'm finally at peace focusing on what my body can do, rather than what it is.

female
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
got top surgery
serious health complications
puberty discomfort
anxiety

/u/L82Desist

251 comments • Posting since 5/11/2024
Transitioned at 22 -> Detransitioned at 45

I was a tomboy who started fantasizing about being a boy as a child, which I now understand was a way to cope with trauma and internalized misogyny. I transitioned in my twenties, lived as a man for over twenty years, and had surgeries, but the dysphoria never went away and I felt like a lonely fraud. In my mid-forties, therapy helped me see that my desire to be male was a coping mechanism to escape the trauma of being female. I detransitioned seven years ago, and while I deeply regret the permanent changes to my body, my gender dysphoria is now completely gone. I have finally found peace by accepting my female body and rejecting the harmful ideas I once believed.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile

/u/LostSoul1911

250 comments • Posting since 8/19/2020
Transitioned at 14 -> Detransitioned at 18

My journey started with childhood trauma that made me feel unsafe in my body as a woman. I transitioned to male at 16, thinking it was the answer, but I was never truly happy and my mental health got worse. After top surgery, I realized I was just trying to escape being sexualized and finally detransitioned. I now have to live with permanent changes like a deeper voice and no breasts, which I deeply regret. I'm finally healing, embracing being a woman again, and rebuilding my life.

female
low self-esteem
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
got top surgery
now infertile

/u/oldtomboy

238 comments • Posting since 7/23/2022

I never fit in with other girls, so I thought becoming a man was the answer. I started testosterone and had top surgery, and for a while, I loved the changes and the social acceptance. But I eventually realized I would never be male and developed serious health issues from the hormones. I stopped testosterone and have been learning to accept myself as a female. I'm now focusing on my health and finding peace as a masculine woman.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
influenced online
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition

/u/Lucretia123

228 comments • Posting since 4/9/2019
Transitioned at 17 -> Detransitioned at 20

I'm a female who started transitioning after a sexual assault made me feel disconnected from my body. I thought becoming a man would let me escape my pain, so I took testosterone and had surgery. I now realize my discomfort was from trauma, not my true self, and I regret the permanent changes. I've stopped hormones and am focusing on healing through therapy and outdoor activities. I'm learning to accept my body as it is and move forward.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
suspicious account

/u/verytiredcatto

227 comments • Posting since 9/27/2022
Transitioned at 25 -> Detransitioned at 31

I started identifying as a trans woman at 25 after discovering the concept online, and I began taking hormones. For six years, I lived as a woman, but I eventually realized I was trying to escape my underlying issues like low self-worth and past trauma. A major turning point was when I developed a crush on a woman and realized I wanted to be her boyfriend, not her girlfriend, which made me question everything. I stopped hormones and have since found a sense of peace by accepting myself as a male. Now, I'm focused on moving forward as a more whole person, comfortable being a feminine man without needing to change my body.

male
low self-esteem
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got top surgery
benefited from psychedelic drugs

/u/Weird-Experience-123

226 comments • Posting since 6/20/2022

I was born female and transitioned to live as a man in my early twenties after experiencing trauma and feeling disconnected from my body. I took testosterone for nine years and had surgery to remove my breasts, a decision I deeply regret. I now see my dysphoria was a symptom of my pain, and I was failed by a medical system that didn't help me explore my trauma. I've stopped hormones and am learning to live as a woman again, though my flat chest is a permanent reminder of that time. My journey has taught me that you don't need to change your body to have an identity, and I am now focused on healing and self-acceptance.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got top surgery
serious health complications

/u/fell_into_fantasy

217 comments • Posting since 2/19/2021
Transitioned at 20 -> Detransitioned at 27

I started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties, thinking my discomfort with being a woman was a gender issue. I took testosterone for nearly four years and had top surgery, but I grew to hate the permanent changes to my body. I realized my real problem was trauma and society's expectations of women, not my sex itself. I stopped hormones at 27 and have been slowly working on accepting myself as a female through therapy. I’m 31 now and still healing, learning to live with my regrets while building a life I can be proud of.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got top surgery
now infertile
sexuality changed
heterosexual

/u/anonymous1111199992

213 comments • Posting since 10/1/2021
Detransitioned at 30

I was born female and transitioned to live as a man for a decade, taking testosterone and having top surgery. I now see my transition was driven by internalized misogyny and a narrow view of what a woman could be. After a profound personal shift, I quit testosterone and slowly accepted my body as it is. I now live happily as a masculine woman, at peace with my unique history. My journey taught me that womanhood isn't a performance, but simply what I am.

female
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got top surgery
now infertile
homosexual
sexuality changed

/u/mountain-flowers

211 comments • Posting since 3/18/2023
Transitioned at 21 -> Detransitioned at 24

I started transitioning at 21 because I felt I didn't fit in as a straight girl and thought becoming male would fix my discomfort with my body. I lived as a man for over three years and had top surgery, which I initially loved. I eventually realized I missed womanhood and felt deep grief over losing my ability to breastfeed, which is my biggest regret. I stopped testosterone at 24 and have since embraced my femininity and my desire for a traditional life. I'm now engaged to a wonderful man and am finally at peace with myself as a woman.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced by friends
got top surgery
now infertile
retransition
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from psychedelic drugs
autistic
eating disorder
heterosexual

/u/OnceBitten8240

207 comments • Posting since 12/25/2022
Detransitioned at 27

I was born female and transitioned to male in my twenties to escape severe body discomfort. Testosterone caused serious health problems, which forced me to stop and finally question the ideology I had believed. I now see that my dysphoria was a mental health issue, worsened by internalized homophobia and trauma. I am learning to accept my female body through therapy, though the dysphoria still comes and goes. I am a woman, and I am working to live in peace with the irreversible changes and find my strength again.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
anxiety
sexuality changed

/u/SnooCompliments8762

205 comments • Posting since 5/29/2021
Transitioned at 15 -> Detransitioned at 20

I started identifying as trans as a teenager to escape the discomfort of female puberty and past trauma. I was quickly given testosterone and surgery by doctors who never questioned my underlying issues. I eventually realized I didn't hate being female, I just hated how women are treated in society. Now, I am a detransitioned woman living with permanent physical changes I deeply regret. I feel betrayed by the medical system and have found peace in accepting myself as a woman.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
now infertile
homosexual
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
sexuality changed
bisexual

/u/drink-fast

200 comments • Posting since 2/12/2022
Transitioned at 12 -> Detransitioned at 19

I knew I was a boy from a very young age and started testosterone as a teenager. I stopped after realizing my transition was driven by trauma, autism, and a rejection of being female, not by being truly male. The hormones caused me serious health problems and intense mood swings, so I quit for good. Now, my voice is permanently deep and I'm often mistaken for a man, which makes it hard to connect with other women. I'm trying to find peace by accepting myself as a masculine woman and healing from my past.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
influenced online
got top surgery
serious health complications
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
anxiety
benefited from psychedelic drugs
autistic

/u/GCMadamXX

185 comments • Posting since 7/8/2019
Transitioned at 15 -> Detransitioned at 21

I started feeling lost as a teenager and found communities online that convinced me I was a boy. My therapist at the time only affirmed this and pushed me toward hormones and surgery instead of helping me with my deeper issues. I later realized my discomfort was really about puberty and mental health problems, which I mistook for being transgender. I now live with permanent changes to my body that I deeply regret. I am finally learning to accept myself as female and address my real problems without the medical interventions.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
porn problem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
influenced online
got top surgery
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
anxiety
suspicious account

/u/DapperDhampir

183 comments • Posting since 5/10/2019
Transitioned at 18

I started as a teenager who was horrified by my female puberty and found relief by living as a man online. I took testosterone for 13 years and had top surgery, which initially felt right. Over time, the social strain of being trans and health issues from hormones became too much. Through therapy, I realized my transition was an escape from internalized misogyny and a desire for respect. I've now stopped hormones and live comfortably as a masculine woman, seeing my journey as necessary self-discovery.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort

/u/Eerga_tnodI

177 comments • Posting since 1/30/2023
Transitioned at 24 -> Detransitioned at 29

I was born female but felt male from a very young age, which led to intense distress. I took testosterone for five years to align my body with my mind, and it brought me relief. I stopped when doctors pressured me into surgeries I didn't want, realizing I didn't need lifelong medical intervention. Now, I live without hormones, comfortable with my permanent changes and my female body. I've found peace by rejecting all labels and societal expectations, learning to accept my internal self as it is.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got top surgery
puberty discomfort

/u/AlviToronto

176 comments • Posting since 4/1/2019
Transitioned at 30 -> Detransitioned at 34

I was born male and my desire to transition started around age 30, fueled by a romantic and sexual obsession with the idea of being a woman. I lived as a woman for four years, but maintaining that performance became exhausting and I never felt truly at ease. I realized I was a man chasing a fantasy, so I decided to detransition to reclaim my natural self. Now, I've learned to accept my male body and integrate my femininity without needing to change who I am. I feel more grounded and confident, focusing on my health and inner strength instead of my appearance.

male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
autogynephilia (agp)
got top surgery
now infertile
benefited from psychedelic drugs

/u/PeregrinePanic

175 comments • Posting since 1/29/2021
Detransitioned at 30

I grew up on a rural farm, a rough-and-tumble kid who always felt I was supposed to be a boy, and female puberty felt like a nightmare. I took testosterone and had top surgery in my twenties, which I needed to survive my severe physical dysphoria, but the hormones caused life-threatening health problems. My husband and I decided to have children, and the choice to stop fighting to be seen as a man felt like a relief. I now understand my desire to transition was deeply tied to trauma and autism, and I wish I had gotten more therapy first. Today, I'm a mother living as a woman, and while I still have hard days, focusing on my family has given me a peace I never had before.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
anxiety
autistic
heterosexual
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