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Browse through 152 unique detransition stories and timelines of people who haved shared their experiences in the /r/detrans subreddit, which is the largest open collection of detransition stories and experiences on the internet!

These stories have been summarised with the help of AI.
On Reddit, people often share their experiences across multiple comments or posts. To make this information more accessible, our AI gathers all of those scattered pieces into a single, easy-to-read summary and timeline. All system prompts are noted on the prompts page.

Only users who have shared enough to put together a full story and timeline are included. Users that have posted less than five comments or their comments that received less than three upvotes are disregarded. Posts are not yet included in the dataset.

Every user has been analysed for signs of bot generated or inauthentic content. Any account that does not appear to be a genuine de-transitioner is flagged 'suspicious'. These accounts will be manually reviewed and removed from the detrans.ai dataset if they are found to be inauthentic. Accounts that have made fewer than five comments have been ommitted from analysis.
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/u/Hedera_Thorn

469 comments • Posting since 4/11/2024
Transitioned at 16

I was a feminine boy who started my transition as a teenager because I was bullied and wanted to escape becoming a man after a traumatic experience. I had surgery and lived as female for years, but it never fixed my deeper problems with trauma and internalized homophobia. I now deeply regret it, as the surgeries left me with permanent pain and infertility. I've come to understand my dysphoria was never about being the wrong sex. I'm now in my 30s, finding peace by accepting reality and sharing my story to help others.

male
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
homosexual
ocd

/u/L82Desist

251 comments • Posting since 5/11/2024
Transitioned at 22 -> Detransitioned at 45

I was a tomboy who started fantasizing about being a boy as a child, which I now understand was a way to cope with trauma and internalized misogyny. I transitioned in my twenties, lived as a man for over twenty years, and had surgeries, but the dysphoria never went away and I felt like a lonely fraud. In my mid-forties, therapy helped me see that my desire to be male was a coping mechanism to escape the trauma of being female. I detransitioned seven years ago, and while I deeply regret the permanent changes to my body, my gender dysphoria is now completely gone. I have finally found peace by accepting my female body and rejecting the harmful ideas I once believed.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile

/u/FallynFinder

193 comments • Posting since 10/28/2022
Detransitioned at 35

I was born male and transitioned because I felt like a stranger in my own body, hoping to become a woman would fix that. I had surgery and it was an incredibly lonely and painful experience that left me with permanent regrets. I now see my discomfort wasn't about being the wrong sex, but came from other issues like depersonalization. The surgery didn't bring me peace and serves as a daily reminder that I am, and always will be, male. I'm now just trying to find a way to live authentically without any labels and be at peace with my body.

male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
got bottom surgery
now infertile
autistic

/u/Kaldaus

180 comments • Posting since 9/4/2023
Transitioned at 14

I was born intersex and had non-consensual surgeries as an infant to make me appear male. I spent years trying to live as a woman after a natural hormonal shift, but my body changed again, causing immense distress. I now accept that I don't need to fit into a box of man or woman to be whole. My focus is on healing and creating a real support center for others who are struggling. I've found peace by letting go of gender and just being myself.

male
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
became religious
homosexual
had religious background
intersex

/u/pipanpi

134 comments • Posting since 2/27/2020
Transitioned at 19 -> Detransitioned at 30

I started questioning in my late teens, feeling disconnected from womanhood because I didn't fit the feminine stereotype and hated my female body. I lived as a man for nearly a decade, taking testosterone and having surgeries, but my old depression returned and I felt like I was performing a role. Through therapy, I discovered my dysphoria was rooted in trauma, self-hatred, and internalized misogyny, not a true male identity. I now have serious health issues from medical transition and regret not being encouraged to explore the reasons behind my feelings first. I am now learning to see myself as a masculine woman and make peace with the body I tried to escape.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort
anxiety
autistic
eating disorder

/u/Nazianzun

117 comments • Posting since 10/6/2019

I’m a man who has felt I should have been female since I was a child, praying at night to wake up as a girl. After decades of research and therapy, I realized that medical transition could never give me the female body I truly desired and would only lead to more distress. I decided against it, especially since a past cancer treatment requires me to be on testosterone for life. I now cope by accepting my reality, expressing my femininity in private, and presenting as male in public. While I still struggle, I’ve found peace by managing my dysphoria without medical intervention.

male
internalised homophobia
took hormones
depression
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
puberty discomfort
autistic

/u/skeezix21585

111 comments • Posting since 1/8/2023

I started testosterone at 22, believing it was the answer to my deep unhappiness, and I lived as a man for over a decade. The hormones induced severe mania and psychosis, and I became addicted to the high they gave me, which destroyed my mental health and left me isolated. My faith community helped me see I needed to find sanity, and I began to detransition in my mid-30s with the help of antipsychotic medication. I am now 38 and living as a woman again, finally at peace with the dysphoria gone, but I am left with permanent physical damage. I deeply regret transitioning, as I believe it was a trap that exacerbated my mental illness and cost me over a decade of my life.

female
low self-esteem
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
benefited from non-affirming therapy
autistic
suspicious account
had religious background

/u/Mindless_Low_1047

108 comments • Posting since 9/7/2022
Detransitioned at 41

My journey started from a deep discomfort with the drives and expectations of being male, and I lived as a trans woman for over twenty years. I had surgery and took hormones, but after my orchiectomy, estrogen made me weak, foggy, and unhealthy. I realized I needed to prioritize my health over a trans identity, so I found a doctor who helped me switch to a low dose of testosterone. Now, I live comfortably without defining myself by gender, and I've regained my strength and mental clarity. I believe true contentment comes from finding stability in life, not from medical transition.

male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
benefited from non-affirming therapy

/u/Plutonicuss

102 comments • Posting since 12/12/2019
Transitioned at 14 -> Detransitioned at 22

I'm a lesbian who started identifying as trans to escape the male gaze and the pressure to be a certain kind of woman. I took testosterone for two years and enjoyed passing as male, but I found it incredibly lonely and disconnected from everyone. I stopped after realizing I was trying to fix my trauma and internalized homophobia, not my body. I regret my hysterectomy and some permanent changes, but I don't regret the perspective it gave me. Now I'm learning to accept myself as a gender-nonconforming woman.

female
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
influenced online
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
homosexual
started as non-binary
benefited from psychedelic drugs

/u/punk_enby_phllplsty

84 comments • Posting since 8/25/2022
Detransitioned at 22

I started testosterone at 16, believing it was the right path after feeling pressured to prove I wasn't just choosing to be a woman. I later realized my transition was heavily influenced by past trauma and other mental health struggles I hadn't dealt with. I had top surgery and a hysterectomy, which I now deeply regret. After stopping testosterone, I've learned to accept myself as a female who doesn't conform to traditional gender roles. I'm finally at peace with my body and my story, focusing on healing instead of labels.

female
low self-esteem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
now infertile
started as non-binary
anxiety
autistic

/u/darthemofan

83 comments • Posting since 4/29/2020

I was born male and transitioned because I hated my body, not because of an inner gender identity. I had surgeries and took hormones so I could pass as female and just blend in without standing out. Discovering gender-critical ideas was a huge relief, as it helped me see that my body is just a body and doesn't need to define me. I now consider myself a gender abolitionist and sometimes dress in a suit and tie just to reject all the rules. While I have some regrets about the medical process and feeling isolated, I don't regret my journey because it ultimately led me to a place of much greater personal freedom.

male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
body dysmorphia
doesn't regret transitioning

/u/easier_2_run

75 comments • Posting since 2/25/2020
Transitioned at 14 -> Detransitioned at 22

I started transitioning because my childhood trauma made me hate being a female and I thought becoming a man was my only escape. For a while, testosterone made me feel better, but it soon caused severe health problems and brought my past trauma to the surface. I realized my desire to transition was a trauma response, a way to run from the pain I associated with being a girl. I stopped hormones and, through therapy, I'm finally learning to process my abuse and accept my female body. I have some permanent changes and regrets, but I'm now on a path toward truly healing.

female
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
anxiety
eating disorder
heterosexual

/u/joliphotia

73 comments • Posting since 6/22/2019
Transitioned at 20 -> Detransitioned at 29

I was born male and felt deeply uncomfortable, so I was quickly prescribed hormones and had surgeries that I was told would fix me. The medical changes left my body broken and dependent on medication for life, causing constant pain and health problems. I now see I was misled by a community and doctors who treated my personal struggles as a reason for permanent alteration. My transition was a terrible mistake that I regret every day. I'm now trying to find peace and accept the body I have left, hoping to help others avoid the same suffering.

male
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
autogynephilia (agp)
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
became religious
homosexual

/u/proof_of_ghosts

72 comments • Posting since 9/27/2019
Detransitioned at 32

I was a feminine boy who started medical transition at 15 to escape the distress of male puberty. I felt pressured to adopt a female identity to get the medical care I wanted, which was really just to stop my body from becoming masculine. I deeply regret the genital surgery I had at 18, as it caused me lasting physical and emotional pain. Now, at 32, I live as a male again but continue taking estrogen because I prefer its effects, leaving me in an in-between state. My journey has taught me that I needed the freedom to be a feminine male, not the obligation to become a woman.

male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
puberty discomfort

/u/Brbirb

64 comments • Posting since 7/6/2021
Detransitioned at 31

I started my journey as a young woman who felt deep discomfort with puberty and my changing body, which led me to find community online and eventually identify as a trans man. I was on testosterone for over five years, and while it felt like a solution at first, it caused severe health problems including organ failure and early menopause. After stopping, I suffered strokes and needed a hysterectomy, which led to further complications like prolapses and chronic pain. I now see my initial discomfort stemmed from internalized homophobia and trauma, not from being born in the wrong body. Today, I am a butch lesbian learning to live with my damaged health and finally at peace with being a woman.

female
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
eating disorder

/u/Plastic-Reach-720

63 comments • Posting since 10/29/2022

I was born female but never fit in, and puberty made me feel like a freak with my deep voice and facial hair. After learning I was intersex, I considered becoming a man but realized my discomfort was from not fitting a box, not being in the wrong body. I had surgeries for function and comfort, not to change who I am fundamentally. My spouse and I, both intersex, are now happy off hormones and have found self-acceptance. I've learned that true peace comes from learning to like yourself first, because that person in the mirror is always going to be you.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got bottom surgery
homosexual
puberty discomfort
benefited from non-affirming therapy
sexuality changed
intersex
bisexual

/u/Beneficial_Tie_4311

60 comments • Posting since 12/14/2024
Detransitioned at 21

I was an autistic teenager who felt out of place and hated the changes of puberty, so I was convinced I was a trans man. I started testosterone and had surgeries to remove my breasts and ovaries, but it only made me feel more disconnected and depressed. I now realize I was using transition to escape my real issues with being a female. I've stopped testosterone and am trying to reverse the permanent changes, but I deeply regret what I did to my body. I'm finally accepting that I was born female and am focusing on healing from this painful experience.

female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
anxiety
autistic
heterosexual

/u/Liminal_exp

60 comments • Posting since 4/2/2023
Transitioned at 20

I started transitioning in the 90s because, as a feminine gay man in a homophobic town, it felt like the only way to escape shame. I spent a fortune on hormones and over fifteen surgeries, living for twenty years in constant fear of being discovered. Now in my 50s, I'm facing serious health problems from the hormones and the exhausting, expensive upkeep of my appearance. I realize my transition was a traumatic escape, and I deeply regret the permanent changes and the life I lost. I've stopped estrogen and started testosterone, hoping to find a more authentic path forward while living with the consequences of my decisions.

male
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
benefited from non-affirming therapy

/u/Aware-Resist-8655

55 comments • Posting since 4/25/2025
Transitioned at 16 -> Detransitioned at 22

I started transitioning at 16 because I was a gay teenager who felt a lot of shame and wanted to escape growing into an adult man. I was on hormones for six years and had surgeries to feminize my face and body, believing it was my only path to happiness. I eventually realized my desire to transition came from internalized homophobia and was a form of escapism that left me feeling like I was living a lie. I stopped hormones four months ago and am now dealing with the permanent changes to my body, including surgeries I regret. I am now focused on accepting myself as a gay man and healing from this experience.

male
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
got bottom surgery
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
body dysmorphia
retransition
homosexual
anxiety

/u/sad_little_crab

55 comments • Posting since 12/18/2023

I was born female and struggled with physical pain and deep discomfort with my body from a young age. After years of suffering from health problems linked to my estrogen, I started testosterone as a last resort at 28, and it gave me my life back by stopping the pain. Through therapy, I realized my social discomfort was more about sexist expectations than an innate identity. I now live socially as a man for simplicity, but I know I am female and am at peace with that reality. While I don't regret the treatment that saved me, I have deep concerns about how easily others are offered medical transition.

female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
got bottom surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
anxiety
doesn't regret transitioning
benefited from psychedelic drugs
autistic
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