had religious background Detransition Stories & Timelines
Browse through 209 unique detransition stories and timelines of people who haved shared their experiences in the /r/detrans subreddit, which is the largest open collection of detransition stories and experiences on the internet!
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/u/spamcentral
I was a tomboy from the start and felt punished when puberty hit and my body changed. After years of being misgendered, I identified as non-binary, but that just left me feeling isolated and confused. Losing a lot of weight helped me see my natural masculine frame, and I realized my real issues were trauma and society's narrow expectations for women. I stopped identifying as non-binary and now accept myself as a gender non-conforming woman in a happy relationship. My journey taught me that true peace comes from healing the root causes of pain, not from changing your body.
/u/novaskyd
I started identifying as a trans man in my late teens because I was a lonely, anxious kid who didn't fit in with other girls. I lived as a man for four years and even got a prescription for testosterone, but using the gel never felt right and made me hesitate. What really changed things was realizing I could still enjoy feminine things and that there's no single way to be a woman. Now, I'm comfortable living as a female; I'm married with kids and see my body for what it can do, not just how it looks. Looking back, I believe my anxiety and social pressures played a big role, and I'm grateful I found my way through it without medical intervention.
/u/wetfart41968
I started wanting to transition after learning about it online as a kid, feeling like a complete alien around other girls. My journey was driven by trauma, strict gender roles, and a deep desire to escape being female after an assault. I took testosterone for over two years and lived as a man, but it didn't fix my anxiety or self-esteem. I stopped because I realized I needed to address my root issues in therapy, not change my body. Now I'm learning to accept myself as a woman with a unique history, even with the permanent changes from testosterone.
/u/warpdusted
I started identifying as trans masculine at 19, believing it was my only escape from depression and trauma. I was on testosterone for a year and a half and initially loved the confidence it gave me, but trauma therapy helped me realize my dysphoria was a reaction to being mistreated as a female. I decided to detransition, a choice that cost me my relationship and my entire friend group. I’m now learning to embrace being a woman and a lesbian, finding a peace I never had before. I regret the permanent changes but have found strength in finally understanding myself.
/u/neitherdreams
I grew up in a strict home where being a girl felt like a punishment, which made me want to disappear. I tried to escape by creating a genderless persona online and cutting my hair, but it was really about safety, not identity. I never medically transitioned, and I'm grateful for that now because it gave me time to heal. Through therapy and moving out, I slowly realized my discomfort came from trauma, not from being female. I'm now learning to accept myself as a woman, and I'm focused on the harm caused by pushing medical solutions on vulnerable young people.
/u/Sonderosity
I started transitioning in my early twenties, believing testosterone was the answer to my deep unhappiness and depression. For several years, I felt more confident, but I eventually realized I was using it as a workaround for trauma and self-hatred instead of healing. I stopped hormones a couple of years ago, and the process was physically and emotionally difficult. I'm now living as a woman again and dealing with permanent changes like a deeper voice. My journey taught me that true peace comes from self-acceptance, not from changing my body.
/u/NeverCrumbling
I was born male and felt a deep discomfort with my body and social expectations from a very young age. My dysphoria was rooted in my autism and a deep sense of not fitting in, which I later confused with a fetish I developed from online pornography. I realized in my early twenties that my desire to be a woman was a coping mechanism, not an identity. Through years of self-reflection, mindfulness, and rejecting those fantasies, I overcame the dysphoria. I am now at peace as a male and profoundly grateful I never medically transitioned.
/u/Kaldaus
I was born intersex and had non-consensual surgeries as an infant to make me appear male. I spent years trying to live as a woman after a natural hormonal shift, but my body changed again, causing immense distress. I now accept that I don't need to fit into a box of man or woman to be whole. My focus is on healing and creating a real support center for others who are struggling. I've found peace by letting go of gender and just being myself.
/u/SuperIsaiah
I was born male but always had a very feminine personality, and puberty made me deeply uncomfortable with my developing male body. I felt immense social pressure that my femininity meant I was failing as a man and that I must really be a woman inside. After a long struggle with my faith and identity, I realized my feminine soul is not at odds with my male body. I never medically transitioned and am now learning to live authentically as a feminine man. While I still face dysphoria at times, I find peace through self-acceptance and a supportive partner.
/u/purplemollusk
I was a young girl who felt a deep dread about growing into womanhood, influenced by my strict religious upbringing and online communities. I was put on puberty blockers and testosterone as a teenager after therapists and doctors dismissed my concerns. A doctor later told me my body was failing and pressured me into a surgery I never wanted, which was my wake-up call to stop. I’ve since detransitioned and, after years of healing, am finally comfortable living as a woman again. I now focus on my health and happiness, believing I just needed to accept myself as a gender-nonconforming female.
/u/will-I-ever-Be-me
I was born male and my discomfort started as a teenager, feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to be a certain kind of man. I transitioned to live as a woman for several years, thinking it was the solution to my depression and trauma. I eventually realized I was using transition to escape my problems and a deep-seated hatred for my own masculinity. After stopping hormones, I faced the difficult work of learning to accept myself as a man. I'm now in a much healthier place, understanding that true peace comes from balancing both my masculine and feminine sides, not rejecting who I am.
/u/HazyInBlue
I felt like a boy from a very young age, and my body felt so wrong it caused me crippling physical pain, made worse by my abusive mother's attempts to suppress me. I fought for and started testosterone at 17, living as a man for 14 years, which saved my life and allowed me to finally feel at home in my body. Last year, a profound spiritual experience completely shattered my male identity, and for the first time, I began to feel like a woman, leading me to detransition. While this feels like a liberation from a lifelong struggle, I now grieve the youth I lost and my infertility from surgeries I had. I see my transition as a necessary survival tool for that time, and my healing came from finally working with, not against, the body I was born with.
/u/stepstepstep77
I was born female and started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties, partly because I felt I never fit in with other women. My journey was heavily influenced by my social circle and undiagnosed mental health issues like depression and OCD, which made my feelings about my body feel so urgent. I took testosterone for nine months but stopped because the reality of being trans didn't match my fantasy and the medical burden was too high. Now, I'm a married mother, and while I don't regret the path that led me here, I still struggle with the permanent changes from testosterone. Zoloft has helped quiet the obsessive thoughts, and I've learned to just focus on building a good life as a person in a female body.
/u/Equivalent-Cow-6122
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, as I hated the changes in my body and felt I didn't fit in. I was influenced by online communities that convinced me becoming a man was the solution to my low self-esteem and unhappiness. I now see my dysphoria was a symptom of deeper issues like trauma, not a need to be male. Stepping away from those toxic spaces and focusing on my mental health allowed me to accept that I am, and always will be, a woman. I am finally happy and healthy, living authentically without trying to change my body.
/u/FarOutFighter
I was born male and lived as a woman for almost five years, driven by a deep shame about my masculinity and a belief I couldn't be a feminine man. My turning point came when I had to choose between my authentic singing voice and maintaining the female persona I'd created. I found faith in God, stopped taking estrogen, and began the difficult process of detransitioning. I now live peacefully as a feminine man, embracing my interests in fashion and art without denying my sex. My journey taught me that the solution wasn't changing who I was, but finally accepting myself.
/u/idkreddituser11
I was born female and my discomfort started from trauma and a deep fear of being a woman. I medically transitioned for four years, believing it was my only path to safety and happiness. I realized too late that my dysphoria was from my mental health and a desire to escape, not a true identity. I’ve been off testosterone for over a year and am dealing with many permanent changes to my body. Now, I'm learning to accept myself as a woman while navigating the difficult consequences.
/u/skeezix21585
I started testosterone at 22, believing it was the answer to my deep unhappiness, and I lived as a man for over a decade. The hormones induced severe mania and psychosis, and I became addicted to the high they gave me, which destroyed my mental health and left me isolated. My faith community helped me see I needed to find sanity, and I began to detransition in my mid-30s with the help of antipsychotic medication. I am now 38 and living as a woman again, finally at peace with the dysphoria gone, but I am left with permanent physical damage. I deeply regret transitioning, as I believe it was a trap that exacerbated my mental illness and cost me over a decade of my life.
/u/AngelCrumb
I never felt like I fit in as a girl, and my discomfort with my body got worse during puberty. After a traumatic assault, I socially transitioned to male for three years, but it was an isolating and difficult time. Getting diagnosed with autism and starting trauma therapy were huge turning points for me. I realized my dysphoria was tied to being autistic and internalizing stereotypes, not from being born the wrong sex. I've since stopped transitioning, and I'm now comfortable living as a female and accepting my body.
/u/thisonesathrowawway
I started transitioning when I was 19, believing becoming a man was the answer to my deep unhappiness. I lived as male for six years and had my breasts removed, but the testosterone ruined my health and my mental state got worse. At 25, I realized I could never actually change my female body and I was tired of living a lie. I stopped hormones and now deeply regret the permanent damage, especially the loss of my natural breasts. I’ve found peace by accepting myself as a woman, and I’m now healing, married, and expecting my first child.
/u/Appropriate-Most-969
I was a young boy who got pulled into online transgender communities that convinced me my feelings meant I was a girl. I was really just a depressed kid with trauma, and I thought transitioning would be an escape from my problems. I socially transitioned for two years, but my mental health became worse than ever, filled with self-harm and suicidal thoughts. I detransitioned at 13, and while I still struggle, I'm in a much better place now. I'm learning to accept myself as a feminine man, but I live with the lasting physical damage from the puberty blockers I was given.